I posted a while back about having a crush on a guy in a gaming

>>18202267

Only you kow how much you can take. Don't force yourself into something that hurts you, don't be afraid to try. But you gotta decide.

>>18202267
Does having a crush on someone really affect people that much? I must be dead inside or something..

I guess there isn't much you can do about the situation honestly. He's seeing someone already. You'll have to come to terms with that eventually.(and hopefully realize that depression is stupid and you should probably stop doing whatever it is you do while depressed)

>>18202267
Go once and see how it goes. If you're cool with it keep going, if you're not cool then stop going

>>18202280
Not usually, but I've had an unusually hard (for me, not necessarily for everyone) couple of years and I think I may have pinned more hopes on this crush than I realized.

>>18202267

He's asking because he likes the attention. Tell him you can't and find a new hobby. Unless he's wanting to leave his gf the situation can only get worse from here

>>18202348
I am kind of wondering that. I thought it was obvious that I liked him and he seemed to be reciprocating until suddenly his ex girlfriend re-entered the picture and they got back together. I do kind of wonder if he's using me as some sort of backup plan. If that is the case, I resent him for it.

I have no interest in breaking them up and I have no interest in being a beta orbiter either. I don't want to be the person who sits back and hopes a couple breaks up. I've been that person before; I've found myself settling for being someone's plan B more a few times in the past, and I just wind up being miserable. I don't want to be that person anymore.

I'll likely do what other people are advising and try it once, but I start feeling like I'm putting myself into that position again, I'll make an excuse and drop back out.

>>18202391
I still advise against it because he might try to make a move and complicate things further. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too

>>18202267
fuck him. come on hard and strong and get him to slide his nerdy dick into you. fuck him as many times as you can til his pos gf finds out. points if you can get pregnant by him

>>18202414
I'm not worried about him making a move. I don't think he is the type that would cheat on his girlfriend and I am definitely not the type that would cheat with someone in a relationship.

I am worried that he knows / knew I was interested and is interested in keeping me around in case things go south with his girlfriend. I have wasted months and years of my life on guys like that (not necessarily ones in relationships - just guys who don't want to date me "right now"), who, once they feel me pulling away, start reeling me back in.

>>18202427

You're putting yourself right into the back up plan position. Stop wasting your time and find yourself another nerdy guy to like. It's not like theres a shortage of single guys that visit comic book stores

>>18202466
You're probably right.

>>18202267
Jesus, that image just screams reddit. You need to go back.

>>18202527
>>18202527
oh fuck off.

>>18202280
>Does having a crush on someone really affect people that much?

Yes. Guy here. And don't get me wrong I'll try things to forget her; fap, watch porn, work, change up my diet and drink more antioxidant rich drinks.. take valerian root to calm me down..

A crush is a crush, man.. it just doesn't go away. You want so badly for someone to reciprocate it that you may even feel guilty at the though of having an orgasm with a mental picture of anyone else BUT that person. Ironically, I struggle with temptation, simply wanting to have sex with a stranger or something to see if it'll help.. but I know I'll just feel ugly and cheap if I do, it's just an act of desperation.

Life some shit.

>>18202564
Hm, I'm kind of the same way anon. I tend to only have crushes on one person at a time, so they can be intense. Usually it's not to the extent that I can't be around them, but sometimes it is, especially if the rest of my life is shit at the time.

That said, if I find out they're seeing someone, it usually goes away pretty swiftly, especially if they haven't done anything to indicate they're interested too.

>>18202585
Me too.. I would stop liking her and respect her if she simply responded to my messages with a "yeah, I'm seeing someone", "I'm married", "I have a bf", etc.

But she didn't respond so I basically felt like I creeped her out. Or maybe she can't even log into her email account, I dunno.

>>18202596
People not responding are the worst. Whenever someone wants advice on how to drive someone else crazy, I tell them to just ignore anything they say or do. It's especially bad with things like digital communication, because your mind just fills in the blanks....maybe they didn't see the message, maybe they're laughing at you, maybe they're disgusted, or maybe they're so overcome with wild, passionate desire they just haven't been able to answer yet. Haha, it sucks.

>>18202632
In my case, I don't think she's overcome with much. Maybe ignored me out of respect for her partner (which would be awesome and I'd admire her for it), or maybe I'm overthinking it and she gets a ton of fanmail (she's a little known noise musician). I'm probably just another drop in the bucket. But that's still me filling in the blanks too.