Does anyone feel unimpressed with the way life is? I hate people,

Start your own company or something

>>18200127
I've actually considered this, and joining the military just to feel 'alive.'

>>18200125

we live in an age where you don't actually have to live by those rules. those rules exist for people who enjoy the luxury of a longer life, watching movies and fine dining. if you don't want to have to make money, or get married, or save up for retirement, you don't have to.

but the reason its so popular is the alternative isn't 'fun', and in an age where you can chase happiness of most any kind, going out there adn surviving off of what you can scrounge up in the wild isn't ideal.

also
>marry

this meme is dying fast. were at the beginning of a new era where marriage is gonna be more of a lifestyle choice rather than an expected norm

>>18200134
This is new society of yours is not going to last very long if people don't settle down and have kids you know?

Well you could have a generation of people raised by single mothers but I'm not sure how well that would turn out.

>>18200138
Not well. Single mothered children are more psychopathic and less dominant. If anything, we are going to a society that is shitty.

>>18200138

>implying people settle down and have kids

the vast majority have kids, then settle down, then get divorced.

most of the others settle down and have kids, then divorce anyways.

in the future we'll just be cutting out the middle man here. its a noticeable trend.

>single moms

this is basically the future. as time progresses custody laws will likely adapt, i mean thery already are, but now that the initial shock of the divorce rate is over they will likely move in a more positive direction.

>>18200143

you're thinking of standalone moms, which are actually on the rare side (At least in the white community). when people say 'single mom' they generally mean 'a mom who has custody, but the father is still in the picture, they just dont live together'. those tend to turn out fine.

children who are raised with a single mom with a dad in the picture (but not have the two live together / be married) tend to grow and develop about as normal as, well, normal children. most children only see their parents in the evening, or at least only their father in the evening, and tend to spend less actual activity time with their kids than a father who lives outside of the house, as he takes the time to actually engage with his children when hes around them.

>>18200153
If the parents aren't going to settle down and live with anyone else they may as well settle down with each other and have affairs on the side.

As for divorce - what's the point of splitting with someone then finding someone new again and again? As if the new person will be any better...

>>18200166

>they may as well settle down with each other and have affairs on the side

this is something i thought, but it makes it a little difficult, presumably if you get pregnant by someone you have SOME romantic interest in them, and that makes it hard to say 'okay lets live togetherb ut date other people while taking care of a kid.

>>18200153
>when people say 'single mom' they generally mean 'a mom who has custody, but the father is still in the picture, they just dont live together'.

lol no they're not man

>>18200166

>As for divorce - what's the point of splitting with someone then finding someone new again and again? As if the new person will be any better...

well, in the case of getting remarried, I agree. you'd think people would learn their lessons. if you want to have a wedding why not, but the legal aspect of it should become silly to you after experiencing one divorce.

but as for dating someone else, well becuase they iwll find someone 'better'.

relationships are a lot like eating a meal. you see the dish, you crave it, you salivate, the nyou sit down and eat it and every bite is bliss, til about half way through. by the time you get to the end you dont want anymore, but oh wait, someones putting another plate of it down in front of you and insisting you need to eat it!

so you do but you hate it and it makes you sick. sometimes oyu get to take breaks but after eating only this one dish for awhile, you begin to hate it. you dont hate eating, you just really want to eat osmething else.

relationships are the same way. people grow used to each other, tired of each other, especially with something like sexuality involved.

now you can become stronger than your baser instincts and urges, after all if someone said 'you can have steak for the rest of your life, or you can eat anything else but steak' some people might love steak enough to make that commitment. it wouldn't be easy, but nothingi n life is.

>>18200177
People have been doing this since the beginning of human evolution

Welcome to the American dream. It's cliche, but it's not all it's cracked up to be. Go watch American Beauty - realize how bland, linear and just so fucking boring life really is, but at least there's some solace in that.

I mean, we dream of something to really captivate us, keep our interest, fill the void that is our emptiness, but in the end, it's how we're looking at life. We've experienced stuff, things that would otherwise be fun or interesting, but for some reason - probably because of our childhood - we just aren't enjoying it.

You probably described everyone on /adv/ to a T. Makes me think that society has made a generation of which is just apathetic to what life is meant to be.

I don't know, man. I could tell you to go live a fulfilling life, but even telling you that is just unrealistic - hell, if I did that sort of thing I'd still be bored, spiteful and just generally bitter about everything. I could be snorting lines of cocaine, skydiving, living it up in resorts and travel the world ... but in the end, that just doesn't change my perspective because I know everything will just get so fucking boring again. Really ruins everything else, you know?

But yeah, I don't know what to say or tell you, good luck OP because if you find a damn solution please tell me.

>>18200187

of course, and its differed from time to time. at some points the wife knew about it. at other points the wife didn't (and of course vice versa, but this was less common). the definition of 'affair' itself varied as there were times where there wasn't much chance for romantic entanglements like we have today. our culture is pretty unique as far as human history goes.

the problem we have today is that people don't want to bear their crosses. we are of the mindset that if we don't like something, we don't have to put up with it.

back in the day a wife or husband was seen as a permanent installation, no more removable than a sibling or a parent. but these days with divorce being common there just doesn't seem to be a reason to 'stick it out'. why have an affair when you can have a relationship.

>>18200186
You shouldn't be marrying someone based on your present cravings but long term pros/cons. This is why a lot of marriages fail.

Over the years I've met lots of girls that made me feel like I'd like to date/fuck them. But choosing them over my wife as a long term partner? No way.

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>>18200125

Life is often times unfair and difficult and arbitrary. Boo fucking hoo. Complaining about it won't change anything. Either play the game or don't.

There are people like Elon Musk building spaceships and /adv/ is still stuck having no aims in life other than relationships...

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>>18200153

>when people say 'single mom' they generally mean 'a mom who has custody, but the father is still in the picture, they just dont live together'

I've met approximately 0 people who think that is what 'single mom' means.

>>18200227
You have terrible reading comprehension.

>>18200230
Hue. True.

>>18200197
>why have an affair when you can have a relationship.

Having a wife and maybe another girl or two on the side seems preferable to me than lots of serial relationships with possibly long gaps in between.

I'm going to a strip club with a girl friend next weekend

>>18200223

the problem with that is you don't really know what you're going to want. you know what would be most condusive to a household, but you arent going to know if you're going to want that household. despite the society we've built up around property, humans are travelers by nature. not just in the 'buy a home' sense but in the whole life style sense.

>>18200230

good to know you did a survey instead of assuming.

you've never been wrong before right?

>>18200231

I understood the question, you just didn't like my answer. Thats fine.

>>18200241

i prefer an independent home and flings here and there.

different strokes. btu thats kind of why were getting to this point. in the past there was that 'mandate' very few people were single and it was surely never intentional.

but we live in a time where we can see both sides of the coin, or rather all 20 sides of the very nerdy dice, and people are starting ot see that certain patterns outside of the norm of marriage align with their interests more, and of course they change over time.

with that kind of freedom comes the inability for there to be some sort of societal mandate / norm.

the future is going to be very interesting.

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>>18200248

>good to know you did a survey instead of assuming.

If by "doing a survey" you mean gone outside and talked to human people then yes, I've done an extensive survey.

>you've never been wrong before right?

Not about this. Your sentence made no sense. Sorry.

>>18200259

no, i mean actually ask people by what they mean when they say single mom, which im guessing you didn't since you're so clueless.

>>18200259

>not about this

good to know you've had this discussion before.

>>18200245
I just need a cute girl who has common sense, no major psychological issues and is willing to share with my hobbies (and vice versa).

That's all that really matters to me for a long term relationship and is not going to change.

Of course if someone who fucks like a pornstar, looks like a bikini model, makes seven figures and is a weeaboo like me shows up and begs me to marry them instead I might feel conflicted but for now I don't see it happening.

>>18200275

>thats all that really matters to me

thats just fundamentally untrue, most people do have this (maybe less on the hobbies, but to some degree) and they still break up. the truth is we want a complex arrangement of things and we just can't consciously acknowledge it.

but look at your break ups and you'll find that most arent because the girl lacked common sense, had major psychological issues or didn;t share your hobbies. generally its just stuff that happens in the relationship, things you do that just prove to be incompatible over time.

>>18200283

>my misunderstanding a word would be like leprechauns living on the moon!

the ego on this one.

>>18200143
As a guy growing up without a father, I agree 100%.
I had no one who thought me how the world works, after graduating I was thrown out on my own and I was stressed out and scared 24/7, I developed insomnia and since I had no amount of self-value nor desires in my life I got used by people.

If I wouldn't have been lucky enough to meet a guy by random chance who kinda took me in and showed me how to live life as a man I would've fucking snapped and killed someone.

I've suffered so much mental pain that I'm scared for life, I can't cry anymore, I'm living in a constant melancholy feeling.

If I had a father who was there for me, cared about me, took me places and thought me things I would've had a so much better life.

>>18200294
I married the first person I ever had a serious relationship with and have been with her for 7 years, no problems

To be honest I have no interest in most women - my standards for looks are pretty high and my personality/hobbies are not compatible with most people. It took years to bridge that gap with my wife.

>>18200311

>no problems

like i said before, everyones unique.

>>18200301
This 100%.

I'm OP, by the way.
I was raised by a single mother and 100% relate to you. I had to kill myself to be reborn.

The nice thing about life is you can literally do whatever it is you want; there is no rule that says you have to go to school, find a job, get married, buy a house, have 2.5 kids, send them to college, retire, and then die.

>>18200341
> literally do anything

Which life you living, m8ey