I really want to initiate sex with my bf the next time we meet. He dropped a lot of hints lately about how he would like me to be a bit more dominant and just "take what I want".
The problem is I am a very shy girl and I don't feel comfortable with my body which really stresses me during sex to the point where I can't relax and can't really tell what I want to do because I feel like everything I will do will be emberessing and he will think I am stupid or creepy or dumb or simply not sexy.
Also I dont know how I should initiate sex at all. I have never done this in my life. All my previous partners just took me whenever they wanted and never complained.
I would like to have some tips on what I could do. Tips on how I could practice and learn dirty talk/how to get over my anxiety would also be really helpful.
We were talking about our fetishes lately he told me he just likes beautiful, yandere-type of woman with very gentle femdom and woman going crazy for lust. (Maybe thats useful information)
>>18199942
like ripping off a bandaid, you've just got to do it, Once you get going it will be easier to keep going.
>>18199942
Don't underestimate how much guys like sex, and how much we like being chased. We love feeling desired; given the assumption that we're supposed to initiate, it makes us feel REALLY sexy to have a girl just go after us.
I don't mean to go all Nike on you but really, just do it. Speaking as a sexually experienced guy, OP: I promise you, 100%, with no equivocation, that if you just pull him into bed and get on him and go for it, he'll be thrilled.
>>18199942
>Also I dont know how I should initiate sex at all.
You had yout fair share of sex so I assume you know what your boyfriends did when they wanted you. They are hot and horny for you and show it. Kiss him, kiss his neck, let yor hands go anywhere you desire and where you enjoy it. This is very importanr. Start stroking his dick through his pants or whatever he's wearing, don't wait for him to go first on you. You want him, you want that dick inside you, so go for it and make it hard, he'll love the feeling. Undress each other, let him lay ok the bed on his back. Mount him 69 position, it makes most men go crazy to get a womans hips, ass and pussy shoved in their face. Turn around when you want and ride him. Go on a porn site beforehand and use the search function to see how a woman gives a good dick ride. Then turn around and let him fuck you doggystyle to finish. You want his seed inside you, so hold firm against his thrusts or let your hips crash back into his
Have you considered marijuana?
He's your boy. You're his girl.
You both care about each other very much.
And he must find you very attractive and just long to know that you would still lead the dance if he won't because you really like him. Because that's why I've ever asked a girl if they can just "take me", too.
It's going to take time and practice to get comfortable, but you've just got to start somewhere. Start with kissing him first if you don't already.