I noticed that there are a lot of guys that think they're

I don't know what a philosophy is, but are you sure that you don't just feel like he's trying to make you feel inferior by using really long convoluted words and sentences and letters?

Do you have any examples of this?

Actually intelligent people don't try to force their opinions on people they like. The dumber the person is, the more of a genius they seem to think they are. I have a friend who's college educated but dumb as a fucking bag of rocks and he's always explaining why "I don't get it maaan" while meanwhile possessing 0 knowledge of historical events and basic philosophical ideas. I can't tell you if you should stay with him or leave him but I can tell you he's probably a bigger jackass than he thinks

It's more of a learned habit. I used to be similar, attempting to solve people's problems with philosophical examinations, until I realized that's not what they wanted/needed and that it was a fairly pointless gesture in the first place (not in a nihilistic sense, but more like the application of personal philosophy has to be self-actualized rather than taught).

The new guy will likely learn how to break out of this habit in time if he is as intellectual as you say.

>>18184718
Yeah, it's generally a guy thing. Boys are socialized to be more outspoken than girls, to the point that some never get the memo that it can be fucking annoying and condescending. This is even worse if they come to the point where they legitimately think that they're somehow exceptionally wise/rational/whatever.

The "reason over emotion" thing is also often a mean for masculine self-identification. Men are supposed to be rational and in control of their emotions according to clichés, it can be a reassuring crutch.

But what your current bf seems to be doing is another milder, more benign male thing: thinking every discussion should head toward problem-solving.

I've seen it expressed as such: "I don't feel better talking about problems, it tires me out and makes me anxious. I only want to talk about them if it's to find a direct solution, then be done with it". This is obviously a very limited approach, there are a lot of situations in life where there's no simple solution and you just need to vent. But some men don't see it that way and are confused whenever their "helpful" tips are rejected. It makes them feel useless, or like you're not really listening to them/playing head games.

Thank you very much for these reactions guys. I wasn't really trying to complain about my boyfriend, he is an amazing guy, but I was just curious if someone recognizes the behaviour or mindset.

Why does it make you feel like a sheep when your boyfriend references something when trying to give you advice?

I'm always scared of this, like I'm into reading philosophy but I don't think it makes me better than anyone else or anything like that. I really don't want to seem arrogant or condescending but when people ask me what I'm reading or what I'm into I feel like a prick.

>>18184894

If anyone thinks you're a prick for reading philosophy then they're the pricks.

>>18184894
You just have to be attentive to their level of interest and try to give them the opportunity to talk whenever possible. Casual communication is supposed to be a back-and-forth, not a lecture.

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>>18184718
>my ex is a fedora
>my bf is a fedora
>I'M A FEDORA

>>18184718
You overanalyze all this shit yourself.

>believing others are sheep or have sheep mentality
Is simply a defense mechanism for a weak ego, people tell themselves this shit to feel better since they didn't learn a method beyond putting others down.

The only somewhat "guy thing" is attempting to solve your problems while a "more general female" solution would be to offer solidarity.

>>18184718
why are you still thinking about your ex kek
>fit social boyfriend
yeeah

Your ex is manchild, who's a failure that thinks he got everything figured out so he can blame others.
Your current bf is intelligent and uses philosophy to better himself (like it should be used), the fact that he analyses emotions is more of a guy thing, we can feel emotions just fine, but expressing them purely is hard, it's easier for us to use philosophical (or other) abstract terms. Your current bf doesn't think you're a sheep, at worst he might think that a person isn't mature enough yet to realise some things, and in that case he wouldn't even bother to explain anything or write a wall of text.

>>18184894
You only sound like a prick when you look down upon people who don't read philosphy, I mean someone coud be a doctor or fireman and give zero shits about philosophy but at least they save lives while you read philosophy on your laptop soooo