How can I stop being resentful about my boyfriend's lack

Wow, you're a fucking cunt. I've heard of people being worried for their significant others sexual activity, but you just straight up hate him for it? Guess what; leave the relationship. You're obviously what's wrong.

Learn to love without binding it to lust, you fucking slut.

Get bigger titties?

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>>18176446
Fuck off, man.

She isn't saying she hates the guy, she's just upset that he isn't fucking her as much as she likes. Like any man wouldn't feel the same if his woman wasn't putting out.

Have you spoken to him at all, OP?

>>18176443
Have you tried exploring whatever kinks he's picked up from the porno stuff?

Offer him to jerk him off while he watches it. Then slowly divert his attention from porn to you over time.

>>18176460
Hey, get an Oculus up in that.

Drop him and get a real man, unless you like low test men

>>18176453
No, any man WOULDN'T feel the same unless they were some little bitch that couldn't talk to their best friend and see what's up. She shouldn't have a grudge against him at all, that's going down the wrong path. So, no u

You could use some diversion therapy methods to bring his attention. Example: Cosplay or use whatever kink he likes to put his focus on you and slowly make him drift into pleasure with a lot of foreplay ( caressing. foreplay, bj, etc.). Honestly, you'll have a lot to do but you can't blame your man for a lack of libido, it's something that both of you need to work on overtime. The reward will be fantastic in the long run.

Just make sure he a nice POV (point of viewer) angle and he'll get hooked on you. (*•̀ᴗ•́*)و ̑̑

>>18176472
You didn't even ask if they had spoken, you clown. Lol.

You're just sitting here assuming things and projecting your ideals on everyone else.

Go have a beer and chill.

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>>18176446
I've been with him for 3 years so it's not like we haven't had major talks about this.
It's an ongoing issue that he won't seek help for.

>>18176447
My tits are suited to my body. The issue is him, not me.

>>18176453
Thank you.

>>18176454
I have literally begged and cried for him to share what his kinks are, he tells me he has none. I am up for exploration, he is not.

>>18176460
I have, he said he can't because it's awkward and doesn't want to fuel his addiction.

>>18176469
I don't want to break up because I do love him and would do anything to fix this but I am at my wits end with it. I feel so shitty all the time.

>>18176473
Believe me I have tried.
Role play is out of the question.
Sending nudes is out of the question.
Dressing up is a no go.

Maybe he just don't love you anymore.
Can be simple as this.

>>18176453
To answer your question, yes I have spoken to him about this numerous times. He tells me I am obsessed with sex and I need to stop making it so weird by bringing it up. I bring it up when we haven't been intimate for a month or so and then we fight. He is very defensive by nature so it's hard to talk to him about it.

The once a month that we do have sex, he has to be drunk or near drunk...

Oh and by the way, I am not obsessed with sex at all. I view sex as a healthy part of a relationship with the person you love.

>>18176485
>>18176485
In all honesty, I would be ok with that. I want him to be happy and no one should stay with someone if they are not happy. He tells me he loves me all the time though. He shows me all the signs he loves me and our relationship is great apart from sex.

He doesn't want to break up because I have asked him many times. I even offered an open relationship but he refused it.

>>18176482
Tell him you're giving no other choice then breaking up. He can't fuel it further with you participating in it, it's as damaging as it can already because it's stopping you from having a healthy sex life and not fullfilling your needs.

So give him an ultimatum. You need to get off too and he is being completly inconsiderate of it. The very least he can do for now is let you take part in it.

>>18176491
Have you gone deeper and asked if maybe it's memories of something in the past interfering? Could also be linked to his own size, performance, or comparisons to someone else that altered his perception. Sex is easy for most guys, so it has to be pretty significant for it to get in the way.

>>18176499
I understand that but the problem is, he won't wait for me. As soon as I am not around or not around long enough for his liking, he turns it on out of boredom.
The times he stopped masturbating while looking at porn, our sex was better, he looked better (believe it or not) and he was a lot more confident and assertive. When he masturbates, he is grumpy, snaps at me and overall just tedious to be around. But he can't go for longer than a day or 2 then he caves in.

>>18176504
I have asked him that and he said no.
His size is fine, he is on the larger side and he knows it, which is why he used to cam with girls and show it off. I asked him to stop because I considered it cheating.

He clearly told me he has a porn issue that he is sorting out on his own.

>>18176506
It's not your responsability to keep watching him and wait for him to masturbate. It's up to him to invite you in.

I used to masturbate daily for a long while, and I slowly dropped it simply for not needing it anymore. It made me hornier than ever with my gf even after nearly a decade toghether, so even though I think it's ok to masturbate, I do get the benefits. But you won't be able to pull him out of it if he doesn't allow you, it's up to him.

>>18176513
Ok so where does that leave me?

What can I do?

Because I am fed up at this point.
I would rather not break up.

But is breaking up the only way to keep whatever self esteem I have left?

I have nightmares about this and I generally feel not good enough for him. Physically I am told I am very attractive, just not to the person I want to be attractive for.

Any compliments I get from guys makes my day/week, it's really pathetic actually.

>>18176506
Give him antioxidants. Oranges, cranberry juice, acidic stuff. Fruits are good to flush out the body.

Porn addiction is harder to cure, but you can simply buy a flip phone for him and temporarily block internet access.

If you want him to be less grumpy after fapping, try getting him a pair of shades, sunlight a shit when you're sensitive to it. Try massaging his head too, sensitivity can work both ways..

>>18176511
Sounds like standard stained palette. I'm going to assume he was sexually active before you two got together from the way you describe him and it seems like he's lost his relationship libido. Sure, he still loves you, but his libido, just like most good looking guys, was conditioned to getting new tastes instead of having a favorite. That's why people say porn is an issue; you can watch all kinds of acts, but it's not the same as real sex and an open relationship never works. What his inner search is probably looking for is that teenage revival, even if it isn't possible, and therefore reduces his urge all together.

>>18176482
>the issue is him not me

typical roastie thinks she is a perfect 10/10

>>18176528
I have bought him vitamins but he doesn't take them.

Also, I don't feel like I should be easing him during this time because I am absolutely let down when I know he's masturbated again. I used to do all that, I would pamper him all the time and it gradually died down because he kept hurting me by camming with girls, setting up fake accounts to sext, swap nudes etc. All that, I let go of now but I wonder if he still does it.
I just feel resentful about our sex life.

>>18176531
He's ok looking, not conventionally attractive but I think he is attractive because I love him.

Our sex life has always been a struggle, it's not a honeymoon period ending, there never was one with us ....but I took it in stride and tried to hang in there because we have a good connection.

>>18176532
My vagina doesn't hang out if that's what you mean.

Getting hard is all about being relaxed. You just need to make him feel comfortable. I get the feeling that your judgements are making him nervous whether that is your intention or not

>>18176537
I don't bring it up unless it has been months.

We have a fantastic friendship and relationship apart from this.

There's no nerves or judgement apart from when I point out we haven't had sex in 3 months.

We kiss, cuddle, laugh, go out on dates and we get along great but I feel resentful about our sex life and the porn thing.

>>18176536
Well, if it's always been a struggle, maybe he's just not that sexually attracted to you. Like you said, maybe attractive for someone else, but not him. The love you have should be enough, as long as he doesn't cheat. Do you have any body shots, no face so we can see what we're dealing with?

>>18176549
Yes just a minute.

Most likely bait thread

My ex was addicted to porn too. I'm sure you are pretty but, the girls in porn have great bodies and faces that everyday women just can't match up to. When they look at porn it makes women feel inadequate and less of a woman. It destroys our self-esteem. It's like telling a guy his pens is very small and he is disgustingly ugly. They work hard and spend a lot of money on their looks because they make a living at it. When I was with my ex he realized he had a problem and found a support group, sex anonymous (SA). They also had a support group for the girlfriends and wives. If you don't want to leave him I would suggest this group, it helped us a lot.

break up srs

>>18176567
Good lord, what a waste

Dump your faggot gf, you're really hot and should be getting attended to your need

>>18176579
Thank you Anon. I definitely don't feel it.

>>18176568
I'll talk to him again and try to get him to see someone about it.
It's all very tiring.

>>18176567
K so you're not a fatty then. On the hotter side even.

...

Some kind of mental hangup on his part I expec.

Why'd ya delete a body shot?

>>18176586
she said she gonna delete it you missed out

>>18176524
>>18176524
That's the thing, you apparently already did all you could. It's taking a toll on you. It's unfortunate, but the only option seems to be to leave him.

It's not pathetic, everyone wants to be reassured of their beauty. It's totally fair that you feel bad for him ignoring you sexually. It might eventually lead to a situation where you feel tempted to cheat on him just to attend to those need, so it's better to break up before it comes to that.

>>18176614
Or, you know, have an "open relationship" discussion with the guy.

>>18176621
read the thread

>>18176446
Sex is a major part of a serious relationship, it isnt slutty to feel hurt, unwanted, or like theres something wrong when your bf/gf has a lack of interest in you sexually

>>18176506
Maybe tell him every time he wants to fap he should come to you

>>18176482
I have some good ideas, none are legal though. Sounds like you're pretty much fucked. or not.

what type of idiot has a porn addiction but doesn't like sex? him saying that you're "sex obsessed" is obviously gaslighting, there's something wrong with that guy.

I'm a girl, dated 2 men with porn addictions, really bad. Break up, if he hasn't tried to fix it in these 3 years he doesn't love you enough or at all.