I value my solitude a lot and feel better alone most of the time. I don't revell in happiness either, but solializing drains me and makes me nervous.
So i like being alone and doing my stuff on my own, but i still would appreciate some affection once in a while.
How could i get this affection if i don't pursue relationships ? Loneliness is good but sometimes it's a bit too much. (without having to hiring hookers, i want some genuine affection.)
>>18156052
Is this not the point of a realtionship. You don't need to constantly be with someone to have a good realtionship. Two career driven individuals. Might see each other a few times a month. There are people out there who would be fine with that. I know I would be.
>>18156098
But how do you become intimate with someone if you can't bother to socialize more than 5 minutes a day ?
>>18156052
the problem here is that you assume its gotta be one or the other.
most people aren't truly introverted or extroverted, but rather on a spectrum between the two.
introversion simply means recharging with alone time.
extroversion means recharging with people time.
and most people need both. if you spend too much time alone you want to go out. too much time out you want to go in. we all just tend to lean toward one more than the other, and in your case, introversion.
and while life is about trying to make yourself happy, happy does take work, and sometimes you got to do things that arent ideal.
some anons complain that all they care about in life are vdieo games, and the fact that they need to work in order to play video games in their spare time is so depressing that they want to kill themselves. this isnt them making themselves happy, this is them insisting that happiness is this one tiny niche.
enjoy your inside time, but make an effort to have SOME outside time, if you are strictly romantic and not looking for friendship, then dabble in online dating or dating services to meet women who are in your situation.
yes, it will be hard, no there aren't tons of hot qt girls just waiting for some loner to fuck em. it will take effort.
so you have to decide whats more important, this strict definition of being a loner, or having some affection.
becuase when you say
>Dont pursue relationships
>dont want a hooker
you're stuck basically inviting fat ugly chicks over for one night stands and then misleading them into thinking it will lead to something.
your problems, your limits, are self imposed, based on your ideal reality, not on what will actually make you happy in the given reality.
>>18156115
you dont. anything you want in life will take sacrifice. decide whats more important.
>>18156115
Trust and condoms.
>>18156121
Thanks, that's true.
I'll just adopt a cat then i guess.
>>18156131
good call.
>>18156052
>i want some genuine affection
>but i dont want to have to do anything to get it
no.