So, my girlfriend's had chronic anxiety and/or depression

>>18156026
sounds like a self esteem issue
try assuring her you wont leave, not threatening her.

>>18156036
It's a self esteem issue, but that's just a fragment of it. She's gotten anti-social by the day, probably because she's afraid of others judging her and she's been having breakdowns even before she'd met me. She just takes too much stress in general.

Also, she's texting me right now to back out from my decision. I don't know what I should do. I feel like I'm being too harsh, but I also think this is necessary.

>>18156026
I don't think you were wrong, yeah taking that leap is scary but she can't expect you to deal with her every time she's not feeling well, especially when it lasts that long. If you continue trying to support her on your own you'll eventually get burnt out and leave her anyways. Unless you stay and just let yourself get messed up too. It's hard to date someone with mental illness.

>>18156036

Enabling her horseshit hasnt worked, OP needs to drop a ton of bricks on her head for being such a cunt.

How dare she behave like this crying and laying in a bed wishing she would die whilst emotionally draining OP what a parasite

Your a good dude OP I would of punched her face in, if she doesn't seek help that's her problem you tried I have been in your situation before. My ex was a violent angry self destructive crazy bitch that would only listen to her horseshit. I begged and begged her to come see a psychiatrist with me time and time again but she was too pig headed and believed I was the problem, now the relationships over and she maniacally depressed.

You can't change people OP they have to save themselves and your GF is a shitty person

Your gf sounds very ill. She really needs the help of professionals, which you already know. I hope you can get her to someone. I've had depressions and was healthy enough to walk into a psychologists office. Depression meds weren't really a thing then. Now I take meds and it puts a floor under me, i can only go so low. Also CBT can help.

I go to a self help group too....but that might help your gf later when she's better.

Recoveryinternational.org

>>18156026
OP, you did nothing wrong. She needs to get help. She has to understand that she's....well...a burden. It's sad but true. I was in her place once. I mean maybe not NEARLY AS BAD as her but pretty damn close. My ex left me because I ended up making him miserable and...well...that's what I deserved. I'm doing much better now. I sought help and worked on my self-esteem and got most of my life in order. None of that would've happened if I wasn't pushed to do it. Your gf sounds like she needs that same push. It'll be hard but in the end, if she ends up taking her own life it'll be her own fault for not seeking help. I'm a cunt for saying that but it's true.

Is there any way you can just like, get her friends and everyone together to try to talk to her about seeking help? Like hold some sort of intervention?