What is the best way to get my bf to lose weight aside from threatening

Things I've done:
>helped him sign up for My Fitness Pal calorie counting app
>trying to do more active dates (walking dogs, hiking, walking downtown, etc)
>packing him lunch (he refuses most of the time, likes fast food with coworkers)
>cooking dinner more at home (he still takes big helpings)

The thing that sucks is that he gets really down on himself and apologetic when I bring up his health and appearance so I don't know a way to frame it in a way that makes him motivated and not depressed.

>>18155819
Get him to lift weights with the idea of getting stronger and not with the idea of losing weight. I used to be fat but I loved the feel of my muscles getting bigger, and now without even trying I nearly have a full 6 pack after no time at all. And also try to get him to ear healthier with the idea of being healthy instead of the idea of losing weight, I switched to salads instead of chocolate etc and now I feel way more energized and happy

>>18155912
This might actually be a good strategy. He has always eaten like crap (still brags about eating a lot at a time like a teenager would) but was really active with sports/weights in highschool so it was negated. It's difficult because he works 8-5 every day and comes home dog-tired. I usually can't even get him to walk the dogs with me, he just wants to play computer games. I'll try and bring it up with him, I just hope he doesn't take it as my being controlling or anything

Why not threaten the break up?

If he really wants you, he'll lose the weight.

>>18155962
do you work or have less hours than him, he is probably just more exhausted than you

>>18155964
Because ultimatums should always be a last resort. Even if he does change, it may very well loom over his head the entire time and cause a breakup anyways.

It's better to encourage them set up new habits that encourage a healthy lifestyle than to just threaten them if you can do so.

>>18156042
He's probably exhausted because he's hauling around an extra hundred pounds all say, not because his job is just so, so hard.

Since you've already done so much for him and he still isn't losing weight, dump this fatass ASAP. It's not a coincidence some people are fat, his pig lardass brain is probably all kinds of fucked-up.