My girlfriend makes me very uncomfortable when she talks about

>>18150051
Tell her and watch as she slowly drifts away from your insecure ass.

>>18150051
Tell her to stop and dont talk about it anymore.

Talking about past sexual experiences is usually a double-edged sword.

On one hand you may find out that she did "nothing special" and yaay, good for you.

On the other hand you may find out that she had a wonderful sex life with shit-loads of guys.

When you get older and more experienced the best thing is - dont fucking talk about it and dont poke your nose in it. It will help you keep you sane.

>>18150051

my girlfriend was my first and she had 1 guy before me, so be it. as long as shes not cheating on you now, who cares. its more of a point that youve got something for her to be with you now vs still with her exes

This is one of a thousand ways that women test men. Next time take a moment to process what she said. Then casually get up and walk out. Dont not answer or anything just when she calls or chases tell her to respect you.

>>18150057
>Im insecure because imaging my SO fucking other people makes me uncomfortable

>>18150161

This. Being repulsed by the thought of your significant other being involved sexually with somebody else isn't a sign of insecurity: it's a sign of a desire to be in a monogamous relationship.

...unless you're one of the people who asserts that monogamy is a sign of insecurity, in which case I have no response for you except that your logic is entirely circular.

>>18150178
I disagree. I have zero interest in anything non-monogamous, but I feel neutral or even excited about hearing past stories. It's essentially my partner recalling a real life porno they starred in and letting me share in their most intimate thoughts/feelings about it, that their sex partner of the time might not even know about. Plus, I got what they lost, sucks to be them.

Not saying my mindset is more normal, and I fully understand that most people don't want to hear actual scenarios. But I don't think it's weird either to not care much if you get just a reminder that your partner used to be a sexual being already before they met you.

But anyway, tell her to please keep her intimate memories to herself, you find it weird to hear about that stuff as her boyfriend. If she asks why just tell her it's weird to hear her recount stuff so at odds with your current relationship.

>>18150161
Yeah dude, regardless of what you think is "right" it comes off as insecurity and there's nothing that will dry a girl up faster than a man with no confidence.

>your insecurity will dry her up

>her promiscuity will noodle you up

just dump her, she's a dumb whore.

>>18150194

I personally feel uncomfortable for reasons other than pure insecurity. It's a major flaw of mine, and I don't know why I'm like this, but I internally feel a desire to dominate anything or anybody attempting to approach my girlfriend. It's not so much that I fear that I don't measure up; on the contrary, I derive pleasure from the thought of exerting some kind of superiority over her exes.

This is especially disconcerting for me, though, because she only has one major ex, and he's definitely a "beta" sort of guy. He has issues with depression, isn't very motivated, generally doesn't have much direction in life, and, not that it matters, but he's also pretty short. He's a very weak target, but I very much relish the thought of bullying him--the odd part is that this desire is pretty discordant with the rest of my personality.

>>18150223
I think this is fairly normal. I mean, I don't picture bullying anyone's exes, if they treated my loved one right I am grateful for that by extension. But I do love the thought of topping them sexually. I would never stoop so low as to ask whether I'm the best they ever had or anything (and I could deal if I wasn't, it would just make me look for overlooked potential to blow his mind more effectively still) but I relish realizing I'm doing something to a lover they never had before, being able to tell from their responses that they never had that particular feeling before, hearing it was better than they ever felt and so on.

I think as long as it's a healthy competition and you don't hang up all your self esteem either as a person or as a partner on this, there's no big issue.

From your post I am a bit confused about what exactly you mean, though. You start out saying you are uncomfortable but the rest of your post implies that you actually do like this aspect - I mean, if she were a virgin, there would be no one to top (but her fantasy and false expectations, which can be the hardest of all).

>>18150223
Harness that dominant attitude and fuck the shit out of her. Tell her every time she brings up an ex she gets a cock down her throat. Set all kinds of rules and then "punish" her when she breaks them.

>>18150051
You're insecure and that's fine. You'll learn to grow out of it sooner or later. There's virtually no harm in hearing what she says, I honestly cannot stress how important it is to just understand that hey this girl is sharing some personal and fond memories with you. Don't think about how she's had sex with other guys.

Yeah it's tough because she's your first and you can't relate to having had previous partners, but try to appreciate the fact that she is sharing with you some memories of hers

>>18150223
>>18150236

You're delusional, you're not dominating anyone, both of your partners had better lovers than you in the past. Keep up with your delusions, though, don't want you to kill yourselves now.

>>18150279
You'd be surprised. I'm young and look for people who are on the sexually conservative side, so I'm not competing with twenty people or something.

I am nothing extraordinary appearance-wise but have a pretty face with clear skin, am slim and have an hourglass figure. I am up for pretty much anything. Pegging, prostate milking, role play, strip teases, anal, being submissive or dominant. I talk dirty easily and can play into any fetish that way regardless of whether I personally enjoy it or not. The only fetishes I have zero interest in doing are shit (pee is fine) and anything with kids/animals.
I do kegels enough that I can grip something with my vagina and jerk it off like that. I can cum up to ten times in a row and can easily go for up to five rounds if my partner can keep up. I'll happily incorporate porn or toys. I am happy to show every part of my body and have it all touched. I take pride in being good at oral sex and still seeing every blowjob as a way to discover or learn new stuff. I am not easily grossed out and not put off by a joke or fart during sex. I am very good at keeping a fluid rhythm.

And you would never for a moment guess any of this if you saw me walking around, which so far I've found drives men insane as well.

Are there women around better at sex than I am? You fucking bet, countless no doubt. Thankfully, because I want to get better!
Is it likely that he's been with one of those? Not at all, even if only because most girls my age are too self-conscious to go all out like I do. And/or because they are less ambitious and don't get off as hard on making their partner whimper.

Also for the record, if I knew for a fact I was not the best I could live with it, I just really really enjoy getting there.

>>18150306
Also it goes without saying that this is not mentioning making my partner feel desired and attractive by complimenting him, showering him in affection, attacking him for his dick and showing how much he turns me on.

I think you have a skewed idea of how great the sex that people typically have is. My last post was too long for it anyway but I forgot to include that this rings all the more true for women. Young men fairly often see sex (especially if it's more casual sex like a one night stand) as the end goal, not a new playing field. They spent all night trying to chat up a girl and then if she says yes, they want her to spread and pump inside of her until they come. Not show her a good time.

Many women need much more foreplay than they typically get, and even if the foreplay itself is not a huge issue, female sexuality is for a huge part rooted in the psychological dynamic, building up towards that "climax" of crossing the line into sexual territory. Teasing, shows of dominance. Making her feel flustered and like a prey in the best sense of the word.
That's a long shot. I've had several female friends tell me they stopped going for one night stands, not because they were sick of sex with strangers but solely because it was always physically disappointing for them.

Just because other people are having more sex than you have (don't mean that personally, it just seems to be the impression most guys on here have), doesn't mean they're all living a porno.

>>18150059
See, I enjoy hearing women talk about their sexual experiences. I learn from it and it's a great way to plant sex in the mind and seduce women

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>>18150194
>I got what they lost
or what they discarded
cuck