I feel friend zoned by my boyfriend. We have a great time together,

>>18149631
Maybe he has a low sex drive, maybe he had some traumatic experience that gives him an aversion to sex, you should just talk to him about how you aren't getting enough intimacy.

Sit on his face

>>18149650

I've done this several times and he just tells me it isn't me. He doesn't have issues with his sex drive (I've known him 8yrs and he has never mentioned it) and we used to fuck like crazy when we first got together.

I'm totally out of ideas and I'm at the end of my tether with it all. I feel like we're just room mates now and I spend an unhealthy amount of time worrying about the situation. It's like I can't even enjoy the relationship anymore.

>>18149631
Are you fat?
Is he gay?
Isnt he cheating you?
Arent you star fish?
Arent he afraid of impregnating you?

Are you telling me that you hug him, whisper into his ear that you need to suck something out of him and he just pushes you away?

>>18149656
>can't even enjoy the relationshipvanymore
Tell him that you are considering break up since he refuses to sex you up.
>mwf if the situation was male wants more sex from female, he would be considered selfish shallow pig
See his reaction. Maybe he wont care and then you can break up for real.

>>18149631
Define initiating. My gf does this fucking annoying thing all the time where she like, scratches at my dick and thinks that's hot. it does nothing for me and it is unclear whether she wants to do anything or just touch my dick for some reason. I've never been with anyone else who tries to initiate anything this way. When I initiate I am very clear in my intentions and it almost always leads to sex, but when she does that shit I just get inwardly annoyed and ignore it because i have no idea what she wants because she does it totally at random, whether it is a good or bad time for sex, whether she has to leave in like 2 seconds to go to work or not, any time at all. It is totally unclear.

Sorry, that was kind of rambling, but the point I'm trying to make is to be sure you're sending a clear message instead of something that is clear only to you.

>>18149656

Tell him you are at the end of the line then. It would be a lot better than breaking up and then telling him why. At least you give him a chance to get his ass in gear

I apologize if this is rude, but maybe the issue lies with you, like for some reason he may not be attracted to you anymore. Perhaps you should confront him about that?

>>18149631
Isn't enough? What are you underage sloot? I'm sorry but you should not need a lot of sex to keep the relationship going. Some may sex ruins relationships and you should be happy you have done it with him? Like what is your problem maybe he doesn't want the relationship to go to hell because of sex. And btw THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU CHEAT ON HIM.

>>18149631
Stop being fat honestly. A man can only pretend a landwhale is attractive for so long.

>>18149688
>sex isn't a big deal in a relationship
>BUT DON'T YOU DARE FUCK SOMEONE ELSE

Convincing.

>>18149664


Not rude at all - a reasonable question. I have a really low opinion of how I look, but I workout extremely hard and have a decent body. My partner swears it isn't me and he thinks I'm gorgeous. If anything, I look better than I did when I first met him so although this was my first assumption (he doesn't find me attractive) realistically it wouldn't be that.

>>18149706
It's a reasonable question but this board is also full of sexually frustrated men in the physical prime of their life who cannot comprehend the idea of not wanting to fuck a woman for any other reason than that she's repulsive.

Sadly men can have low sex drives or issues with sex as well. The first step is asking yourself whether you are ready to leave over this. Picture another couple of decades with sex once every two weeks.

Secondly, confront him. I don't know how much you talked to him about this, but at some point the gloves need to come off. There is no point in being needlessly hurtful or accusative, but you need to tell him bluntly that your needs are not being met. That it impacts your [self esteem, level of sexual satisfaction, feelings for him -> whatever is relevant]. Present it not as a fault of his, but as something you wager he is not doing just to make your life harder, but poses a challenge/threat to your relationship that you will have to tackle as a couple.
And then you can talk about options, like
>him getting his hormones checked
>sexual (couple's) therapy
>opening up the relationship
>agreeing to fuck a certain day every week whether he feels like it or not (having sex more can make people want sex more)
>having him quit masturbation and/or porn (if he still does that)
>changing the angle, trying new things in bed (dramatic stuff, not a one time roleplaying thing but changing up the dynamic for example, making you dominant instead of him, something like that)
>him pleasing you orally or through fingering or mutual masturbation if he really does not want to do intercourse but you're desperate, or even just watching you masturbate while talking dirty to you

If you are willing to leave over this, make that clear right away. That you will do anything within your power to prevent it, but if at the end of the day you can't work out an agreeable compromise, you will leave him.

>>18149688
That's not what he'd say if OP was a man.

>>18149732

That is wonderful advice, thank you so much for your response.

>>18149752
No problem at all. I also think it's a very good starting point to have an in depth conversation about what sex means to both of you. This is also a way for you to make it clear right off the bat that it's not just about "getting fucked", but also about intimacy, about confirmation that you are lovers (and not just buddies), about your femininity and whatever else comes into play. It is uncomfortable and embarrassing (especially as a man, when culture screams that you should be a human dildo ready to go 24/7) to be called out for this. It can be a knee jerk impulse for the lower libido partner to get defense: "oh, so it's all about getting laid for you, that's romantic".

And the other purpose is digging up potential issues he has with sex. As the first energy and infatuation of a relationship fades, people's default personal sexuality and past/relationship with sex as a topic starts to matter more than the dynamic/attraction in the couple. This is why "we used to fuck like rabbits for a year (or three) now they never want to" are so common. Virtually everyone goes crazy for sex when in love, it's who still wants it in a safe and steady LTR that shows who really has a high libido.
So essentially, make sure he does not have internalized (religious?) guilt or shame about sex. Some men struggle with feeling like sex devalues women, which can result in the Madonna/whore feelings. Maybe he has sexual desires you don't know of and he's embarrassed of and sex has grown stale after a long time of not acting out his true sexual self. Some men feel hindered by violent/aggressive thoughts that pop into their head or turn ons and get scared of themselves.
Many different possibilities that you want to rule out to have a good idea of what underlying issue you are dealing with here.

Best of luck!

>>18149732
Honestly if a man thinks a woman is hot, he'll want to have sex. Theres not much more to it than that. Put a picture of a hot woman naked with giant tits and see if he can masturbate.

I got the same problem, except with my gf.

She just gets bored with sex she said, no idea how to talk about it because she only gets defensive about it

>>18149631
How much do you weigh

I'm male and in a similar situation. Gf has issues with intimacy and after a lot of sex in the beginning we now have it less and less. She wants to please me but I don't want it if it's just for my sake. I think you need to have a real talk about it and figure out why he acts that way. It's hard to not feel resentful when you constantly get rejected.