Is it common to realize you're a different sexuality later

>>18145922

not that abnormal desu

Also I thought about cross-posting to /b/ but those dudes are so sexually confused I'd be hard-pressed to get a real answer.

Or they'd just call me a faggot (which might not be wrong)

>>18145938

That's reassuring. Did you have a similar experience?

>>18145947

nah but straight/gay/bi are all just a spectrum. there are feminine qualities in men you find attractive. its not that weird.

How much porn do you consume per day?

I started talking to someone I met online a while ago. I was sure (I thought) it was a girl but something about her made me really fall for her. I had never been interested in another girl in my life and never entertained the thought of being gay but I started fantasizing about and getting turned on by her anyway.

It turned out to be a guy but, even though I had no idea, I was already all-in.

Anyway you aren't even attracted to anyone in particular you're just entertaining fantasies. It's not uncommon and you're probably not gay.

>>18145959

that makes sense. I've heard that before, I just wonder why it surfaced so late. most people go through this in their early teens and shit right?

>>18145968

I probably watch porn 1-2 a week. my current girlfriend has a high sex drive so I don't get the urge too often unless she's asleep or whatever.

>>18145972

that's really interesting. and you could be right. I definitely haven't experimented with a guy beyond a kiss at a stupid high school party, so all the arousal really is in a fantasy I think.

out of curiosity, are you and the person you were talking to involved now?

>>18145983
Yeah we are. We really had a chemistry and he was falling for me too. The hilarious thing is he was under the impression that I was a man all that time.

>>18145975

brain continues to develop up to 25, so again this is not that unusual

>>18145988

that's awesome to hear, anon. I've definitely felt deep connections with male friends but I could never say it was romantic or sexual, always more brotherly. I wonder if opening my mind to experimentation might be what I need to really get my answer

>>18145998

I never took that into consideration. seems like I need to do a lot more reading

I thought I was the only one

I've never even thought about a guy. I exclusively have fucked women all my life. I'm 24 and recently I've been having weird fantasies about fucking traps, dominating a very specific types of guys(feminine young), or messing around with men, etc

But everytime i actually think of it I feel disgusted. It's very confusing.

I wonder if I'm bisexual or if this is normal? Can other heterosexual guys chime in?

>>18146013

OP here, it's not just you anon. I think the weirder part about my experience is that the types of guys I'm attracted to have more typical masculine features (good muscle tone, stubble) and more alternative things like piercings and tattoos, yet my fantasies involve me dominating them, even with their "dominant appearance".

>>18146010
Well I don't think you should force anything or make a lot out of what you have going on right now because it's just hypothetical. For me it was like, I wanted this person. I didn't care if it was a boy or girl I just wanted to have them, if being "gay" is what it would take then I would have done it in a second.

If you ever feel like that about a guy, you'll know for sure. It's not a matter of being "open to experimentation," it's just like a switch that will flip on. You will know you want it, for real.

Anyway that's just my opinion and personal experience obviously, but, yeah.

>>18146038

that actually makes me feel a lot more reassured. it really should just "click" instead of me having to rationalize my way into it. overthinking is gonna be the death of me.

Thought I was alone with this type of feelings/fantasize. I have also only been with girls and have a gf. But for some reason I have a fantasize that I fuck or been fucked by a male. And its exclusive feminineboys or traps.

I have downloaded grindr once and too see if I'm attracted to males. But I'm not and finds that males are ugly and unattracted. So I just learned and coped that this is just a fantasize.

But if I'm single and find someone I might try it. But I think I would be really ashamed and feel disquested by myself afterwars any how.

>>18146599

normal boys and feminine traps*

If you are open minded and are having fantasies, I believe it's worth it to explore these kind of things through porn. You mostly need to figure out if the thoughts you are having are just limited fantasies or are being blocked by some kind of mental disposition or denial to be a fag.
There is nothing wrong in being a fag, first. Don't let shitposters influence you.

If you find yourself more and more comfortable about the idea of having sex with a guy you should entertain the idea that you may not be straight. This is by far the hardest step and takes effort. If you just accept it you will be freed of these tiring thoughts. You don't have to deal with living as a fag, nor you have to tell anyone, but at least be honest with yourself.

Source: faggot that was in denial for years