TL;DR - How do I make my boyfriend feel less awful about the

>>18140392
Sit him down. Talk to him about it.

>>18140398
I did. A dozen times.
It doesn't change a thing. He still feels like shit.

Unfortunately you can't do much other than tell him it's not a big deal, or maybe joke (be sure that he's comfortable with joking and he gets that it's a joke) that he'll pay back everything, even if it's not true and you will never ask him.
Society pushes the idea that to be a man is to provide for your family, so inside his head if he doesn't earn money but has to sponge off he probably feels "less of man". He may also have personal problems with accepting help, I for one consciously avoid putting myself in a position where others give me help because I don't want to feel indebted to them.
This is just how social/gender stereotypes work and it can't be fixed overnight.

>>18140403
Then all you can do is be there for him in his time of self-doubt until he comes out the other side, for better or worse.

Suck his dick lile a dyson vacuum. And for fuck sakes use your tounge and swirl around the head

>>18140410
>And for fuck sakes use your tounge and swirl around the head

Can't stand when woman don't take the initiative to do this.

>>18140410
He gets his dick sucked at least once day.

>>18140404
Can I help him feel "more of a man" somehow?
I really love him, I don't want him to feel bad about this.

>>18140409
I intend to, but we've been going on like this for nearly a year and it's getting a bit consuming for our relationship.

Perhaps you could discuss the issue with him and try and come to an agreement about what he can provide, which isn't financially based. For example, does he do work around the house? Cook? Clean?

It's a matter of reminding him that although at the moment you are the main financial provider, he also puts a lot into the relationship and that has amazing value as well. Also remind him that when he finally makes it, you'll be able to share the proceeds of that.

Apparently for over a year he's been living off your work and you're sucking his dick daily.

Stop giving a shit if his pride is hurt, good lord.

>>18140426
I love cooking and cleaning, lol. He does some of the housework and runs all the errands for me. I'll remind him that he helps me a lot.

>he also puts a lot into the relationship and that has amazing value as well. Also remind him that when he finally makes it, you'll be able to share the proceeds of that.
I will.

Thank you!

>>18140427
Why shouldn't I take care of the man I love emotionally, sexually and practically?
He took care of me in many ways over the years, it's not an issue.

>>18140415
I'm not sure it'll work, but my advice would be to basically just keep telling him it's a temporary thing and you're sure he'll find a job in the future. He probably feels like a dead weight right now, make him look at the bigger picture.

>>18140436
He's really hardworking and talented, I am really confident that he'll find a job soon.

It just hurts me to see him hurting because of me, I don't know how to handle this because I can't see any alternative.

>>18140427
> it's totally fine to betray your man shiksa