I'm having a bit of trouble understanding what's happening

>>18129418
She then started to put profile pictures with her ex girlfriend (??) on viber. I texted her the next day said I'm sorry if I rushed things and so on, she replied like 5 hours later "It's fine, I mean we barely know eachother for two days."
I kind of got mad that she was ignoring me and replying so sparsely because we got along so fucking well and it felt true so this is what I wrote a long-ish reply, something along the lines of "I understand you got out of a hard relationship, I know how it feels, I want to give you space, and i think you're an amazing girl and I like to hang out with you." She just replied with "thanks for understanding".
Like a fucking bank teller. Didn't reply to that.

Sorry for the long ass post. Why did she suddenly become so cold towards me? It really felt real, we even made plans to hang out and everything. It really hurts because it seems like every time something nice like this happens
it goes tits up and throws me back in the depression pit. I'm so tired of these emotional highs and then all of it crashing and burning.
I think I should give her a couple of weeks and ask her out for a drink if she feels like it.. Should I maybe just let her get back to me when she got over the whatever's bothering her?

>>18129420
Perhaps she thought u are gay too and just wanted a friend.

>>18129420
But more likely she felt guilty, kinda like cheating, cause she is still loving her ex. You better talk to her and don't use some messengers, read her expression in person

>>18129424
Dude, girls don't act the way she acted towards me to gay friends. I really don't think it's that.

Think of it this way

> Just got out of a "hard relationship"
> Mixed feelings are still there
> Really crave comfort and affection
> Cute guy comes around, very comforting, makes me happy
> He tries to go further with me but I am too emotionally confused/distraught from the recently over relationship.

Yeah she'll be weird, you're a victim of circumstance and as selfish as she was in leading you on, I don't really think you can blame her. So yeah I think what you said, moving on for now and hopefully your paths will cross again in the future or you can even message her in a couple of weeks.

Good going chief!

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>>18129535
>I don't really think you can blame her
Yeah, cut her some slack from manipulating and leading on someone and fucking with his genuine feelings. The ends always justify the means, amirite?
Fucking autistic white-knight.

OP, she's a horrible human bean. "Hard relationship" my ass. Alright, there's some buffer time from a couple weeks to two months max, but not more. I'll let you in a secret: If a woman likes a guy then she wants to get her brains fucked out by him, believe me. Women ain't no different than men in this aspect.

So yeah, she probably used you to get irrigated by affection. Sorry you got fucked over here. Just remember: if a grill really likes you, she won't put up barriers - she will make the most obvious cues and take off her chastity belt immediately once your go all in.

>>18129535
>>18129556
Yeah, I know she'll be working a gig I'll be working as well in a month or so, so we'll meet for sure and see what we can see.
Thanks for the replies my negroids, you really helped me put things to perspective

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>>18129566
I'm >>18129556
Glad I was of help. Remember to be stoic and emotionless when you deal with her. This is an subtle way of saying she fucked up, and if there's a confrontation, call her out on her bullshit. This will be some justice porn.

>>18129589
I don't think I can pull the stoic thing off, it's not really me. But I'll definitely be way colder now I know what's going on.

>>18129589
Don't do this

Keep flirting, just keep it subtle.
She's been hurt so she's hesitant but the vibes are there. If you start acting like a jerk it'll only confirm to her that she made the right decision.
Don't bug her through text but definitely be around her during the show. also, don't wait two weeks. It'll upset her if you cut off communication too long.

Next time you talk to her apoligize about coming on too strong but tell her you're a patient man and offer to hang out as 'friends' Don't worry, this won't friend zone you. She already wants the D she's just in that rebound zone so you have to play it cool and still be desirable by being around but showing you're able to behave.

>>18130200
Don't listen to this autistic white knight cuck. He puts women on a high pedestal. His only joy in life is probably playing catch with his wife's son.

OP, treat her like an adult, not like a retarted child (even though she sure as fuck behaved like one). Hurr durr emotions aren't an excuse to fuck with your feelings like that.

Believe it or not, but there are actually functioning human beings out there, who actually respect their next fella - even though it is a minority, you should strive for that.

It's okay if you can't be stoic, but if both of you don't anticipate a confrontation you sure as hell make it clear to her that she fucked up big time, and honestly I wouldn't give her a fucking chance anyways. Your dick is too valuable compared to her fishy cunt. She's also 18, there's a lot of brat-like behavior to expect from her until she hits the wall.

>>18130223

Actually, I'm a female and I have been in the exact situation. minus the gay thing.
Guys that fall for the ignore her meme end up alone. Nobody wants a bitter neckbeard

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>>18130235
Oh boy, that explains it even better. Either a cuck or a female would excuse this kind of bullshit and even advise to blow some sugar into her asshole.

Next time, try to be not an illiterate retard and actually comprehend what I wrote before. I NEVER advocated to be a passive/ignoring pussy about that matter, but quite the contrary.

>Nobody wants a bitter neckbeard
Also, noice ad hominem you got there. Seems you never dated a man who actually challenged your one-dimensional and regressive beliefs. If you aren't in your 30s, good luck when you hit em and your looks fade away, so you have to 180 your bratty attitude to be even considered attractive. If your already are at that age, good luck and rip in pieces for being an insufferable cunt your whole life.

>>18130258

So being stoic and emotionless is not the same thing as ignoring her? I think you may be confused.
I was telling op what he needs to do to keep her interested, if he chooses to play your game then god help him.
She will probably go back to her ex because the ex gives her attention while he flipped the switch on her the moment things got "complicated".

Fyi, i am in my 30s, I still look 20 and I've had a stable relationship for several years. You should tell us all about your relationship since you're the authority on romance.
Lemme guess, pua tactics+tinder sluts=still alone?

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>>18130280
>So being stoic and emotionless is not the same thing as ignoring her? I think you may be confused
I think you may be confused and need to look up a dictionary, you illiterate cunt.
>I was telling op what he needs to do to keep her interested
You told him to emasculate himself and enable her emotionally manipulative bahvavior.
>if he chooses to play your game then god help him
Acting upon his genuine feelings is a game then, huh? I never learn out.
>She will probably go back to her ex because the ex gives her attention while he flipped the switch on her the moment things got "complicated"
Complicated my ass, she made a mess out of the situation. Being flirty together for two days straight is a good indicator she's on for some dicking. On comparison: one night stands are a matter of minutes or hours until fucking. Being together for estimated 12 hours or more and still putting up barriers even though she clearly showed interest is fucking crazy.

>Fyi, i am in my 30s, I still look 20
FUCK. MY. SIDES. OF COURSE YOU DO!
>and I've had a stable relationship for several years
Yeah, if stable is equal with blowing sugar into your semen-filled asshole; then yeah, sure.
>You should tell us all about your relationship since you're the authority on romance
Never claimed that, but like I said, you're an illiterate cunt, so your ad hominem and the following >Lemme guess, pua tactics+tinder sluts=still alone?
doesn't surprise me.

Thanks for the laughs though, you're good at it, I'll leave you that one.

>>18130280
OP here.
I definitely want to keep her around, but I thought I should give her more time. Kind of makes sense to not keep her waiting when I think about it.
Oh jeez I gotta go for a long ride and think about all this.

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>>18130316
Boy, don't let my efforts be in vain. I tried to talk some fucking sense into your skull. Heh, for Christ's sake, I'll never browse /adv/ again.

>>18130304
You can't call someone a cunt and then claim ad hominem. Hypocrite that you are.

Also, your advice is trash. OP, don't listen to him. Expressing interest isn't allowing yourself to be emotionally manipulated. It's called being direct about what you want. Playing the emotionally shut-down bro will get you nowhere real fast.

>>18130304

The literal definition has nothing to do with how it will appear to her.
Acting indifferent and not talking for two weeks is going to make her feel ignored and like he didn't see her as worth the effort.

How is it emasculating to give her some space but not enough to get him out of her mind?
You're assuming things about her character that you don't know.
Probably basing it on your own negative experiences with women assuming you even have any.
Since you insist on posting old reaction pics with every response i assume you've been here along time, probably too long to experience actual life and romance. You should take a break some time and learn about how people really work.

>>misplaced arrogance
back to >>/r9k with you

>>18129418
everybody does stupid things, don't waste your time trying to figure out her erratic disposition, don't even try to "blame" or "forgive" her. If you still see her or something don't conceal your intentions but also don't try to fix her problems, if it doesn't work don't force yourself into the mess that her emotional life probably is

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>>18130327
Of course I can call you a cunt, that is called an insult. An ad hominem is an over-generalization of one speaker in order to disregard his whole statement/argument.

>>18130328
>The literal definition has nothing to do with how it will appear to her
Every bullshit excuse about everything ever. "It doesn't matter how you actually come off, it only matters how she'll interpret it in her twisted imagination"

>You're assuming things about her character that you don't know.
You're assuming also as much about her character as I do, you fucking cunt. There's only so much information to interpret accordingly.
>Probably basing it on your own negative experiences with women assuming you even have any.
>Since you insist on posting old reaction pics with every response i assume you've been here along time, probably too long to experience actual life and romance. You should take a break some time and learn about how people really work.

>>misplaced arrogance
>back to >>/r9k with you
More ad hominem, a discussion is a lost cause.
Go back to /askWomen and /BluePill, fucking whore.
See, I can make an ad hominem too, is my argument valid now?