So she turned me down. But I'm finding that women do like

>is that bad

in my case it is, at least, what I've discovered from reading over the years.

if you end up in a relationship with someone you aren't absolutely 100% sure of, you may end up unhappy as hell when you finally do find the girl that you're 100% sure of. It's either that, or you don't know just what you already have.

people come here bitching about being married with kids, unhappy in their marriage. but nobody can truly say they understand these people, so they resort to namecalling, insults, belittling, but nobody really understands the spiritual thirst of the other..

I have hit on plenty of girls in the past that I then think...what if she actually liked me? how difficult would it be for me to reciprocate that feeling in the future if my attraction is purely physical? like, there's no substance, no compatibility, just visual attraction.

so I realize again and again, the things I do impulsively out of desperation, are the things that later hurt me, or backfire on me.

Imo, it is better to be alone, than in bad company, or in a weird sort of mediocre situation, very unfulfilling..

better to prevent than lament I guess, but not everybody feels that way.

>>18127880
>if you end up in a relationship with someone you aren't absolutely 100% sure of, you may end up unhappy a

What I mean is . is it wrong that I ask this girl out knowing I will definitely probably dump her after three months?
I would be so committed, and you know I have done but they did it to me. So why not go for meals and films and things but then so as they don't get too swept up say "no, that's the relationship over now"

that's not wrong is it? Girls always did it to me.
I think it's a case of "only if they know"

>>18127923
You could just say that you're not looking for anything serious?

>>18127933
Yeah but that's a bit icky because it's harder to get the clean break of 'you're dumped'

>>18127923
Nah. Just because someone chose to be shitty, doesn't mean you have to stoop that low to achieve results. Don't lose your self respect to betrayal.

>>18127949
Yeah but you know, she'd like to go out and I would too, but only for three months. Like the library book.
Surely that's better than nothing for both of us?

Abundance degrades endurance, and so we act out of weakness and desperation.

More girls, more choices, more doubt, more concern, poor decisions, more secrecy, breakups, more failed relationships, etc etc

And if we all think "if she did it, I can do it too". And eye for an eye makes the world blind. It corrupts needlessly.

If you can agree to be together, great. But if you use people, eventually you will either hurt them, or hurt yourself. Up to you in the end.

>>18128231
>But if you use people,
I expect I'll be paying for the drinks and cinema tickets tbf