When does the relationship virginity thing start being a major

>>18124340
No, you're making problems that don't even exist. You're 23 and you never had a relationship, it's not that weird and a 'practise' girl is not even a thing. Every relationship is different according to the persons involved, there's no practise.

>>18124340
Online dating my friend

Better work on that angle game

>>18124471
>You're 23 and you never had a relationship, it's not that weird

I hear the spirit of your advice and agree that there are no firm rules and that you just don't know what works for two people, but let's be honest, it is at the very least unusual to have zero relationship experience at that age.

I was a virgin until I was 23. I have no doubt that there are women out there that would have been totally unfazed by that fact or even found it endearing/appealing, but I never encountered them. Never.

It's on you, OP. If you're comfortable doing what you've been doing and getting the results you've been getting and waiting to let a relationship happens when it happens, that's fine. And I'll be the first to say that you really should never seek out relationships/girlfriends, it should be something that develops as a product of friendships and regular social interactions and generally having an active social life. But since you're in the position you're in, I have to assume you don't have that active of a social life or a girlfriend would have just happened by now and you're currently reaping the consequences of living passively.

tl;dr Yes, you're at the point where you're behind the curve at it will hinder you're ability to engage with women at large (a small minority won't care). Do something or become a wizard.

>>18124340
>he thinks he should be honest about his sexual and romantic history with his first gf

Rookie mistake bro

Just lie

Chicks can't tell. I basically acted like an arrogant douche with my first girl and when I fucked her and lost my virginity she cried and asked me if I was playing her for sex lmao

I have a good relationship where I'm actually honest about who I am now though.

>>18124340
In an actual loving relationship people won't care.
ONS will, but hey, if you don't bring it up or at least not until you are in bed, even they won't "Know" unless you Spaghetti all over the place.

It is not like you have a Virgin Tattoo on your forehead.

The worst thing is if you imagine how super cool some people are.
Like, they have some very special job or they are just extremely outgoing and creative and do something interesting every day, every weekend, travel around the world here and there, do very funny and romantic, spontaneous things for their partner, etc.

I'm just a normal guy, have a very good amount of empathy and am very honest, thoughtful and considerate.
I am happy with myself and the way I am, but I feel really inadequate when I compare myself to people described above.

Anyone ever experienced this?

>>18124686

>Chicks can't tell

In my experience it's very easy to see out the "fakers", both male and female

>>18124908
That's only because you look at the bad ones and don't watch the good ones cease to become fakers because they faked it until they made it.

All is temporary anyway, who gives a flying fuck about what random anon fuckhead will post online and never has the balls to voice outloud?

>>18124922
>faked
*foke

>>18124340

when you tell them. the thing about virginity is no one has to know until its too late, as in, you dont need to tell a girl you're a virgin, ever, by the time they realize it, they'll already be having sex with you.

truth be told if you're 23 and a virgin, and there is no extenuating circumstance like going to an all boys school or the like, then the problem isn't your virginity.

virginity is just a symptom. girls arent going to say 'EW HES A VIRGIN DONT TOUCH'.

someone isn't just randomly cursed with virginity. The virginity is the the side effect of the actual problem, which is generally someones bad looks coupled with an inability to settle.

>>18124340
That depends, do you walk like a virgin?

>>18125010

>do you walk like a virgin?

What the fuck does that mean?

>>18125044

do you walk like your hymen is in tact?

>>18125044
It's a /r9k/ meme.

>>18125004
>which is generally someones bad looks coupled with an inability to settle.
In my experience it's poor social skills and few outgoing habits, that make it that you know less people (and thus have a smaller dating pool) and don't have the opportunity and the experience to ask out a good number of them. Being less social also makes you appear less immediately interesting and lacking in confidence.

>>18125062

thats the secondary possibility, but it is usually far less common and usually still grouped in with bad looks and an inability to settle.

all the people on this board aren't going around complaining about how an ugly chick turned them down, they're all talking about how this legitiamtely attractive girl didn't settle for unattractive 4channers.

>>18125076
That's true, but I suspect it's also because they don't know that many girls as more than casual acquaintances to begin with, so they prefer to watch them from afar and fantasize about the prettiest ones falling into their lap. To a lot of young men, girls are still somewhat an abstraction and being socially stunted isn't helping.

>>18125092

still disagree, look at the threads, granted its a particular userbase here, but its never 'I CONFESSED MY FEELINGS TO A GIRL I BARELY KNOW'.

even if they exaggerate their relationship, its someone they've known for years or at least months.

>>18125076
I honestly never got "setteling". Why should I be with someone I am not attracted to? I rather stay single than that.


I only ever asked girls out I wanted. And while it took a while since I am neither the best looking nor most social, I several times got what I want and currently even are engaged.

>>18125004
As a 24 year old virgin who went to an all boys school, I'm quite happy that you consider that to be an extenuating circumstance.

I was in a relationship last year, and telling her I was a virgin before it even happened is probably 80% of the reason we didn't end up ever actually fucking. So please don't. Neither of you are going to benefit from having that out in the open.

Listen up OP. I was 25 when I got in my first relationship which actually ended about a month ago. She was a terrible person and I learned alot from it. I had fooled around with a few girls and had sex once before and went soft because first time probs. But when I got in my first true relationship we had insane sex and I got really good at. Unfortunately it was that practice relationship you were mentioning. I thought it was going to last forever. So the advice I have for you is this. There's nothing to be ashamed of. My ex didn't even care. Also, when you do get in your first relationship, please head my advice and enjoy it but do not let it become your crutch for your source of happiness. I'm going through hell right now because it was my first and I got way too emotionally dependent on her to be the source of my happiness. Just keep putting yourself out there. You will undoubtedly go through a couple before you find that 'one.' Use it as a chance to teach yourself to depend on only yourself for happiness and to get good at the sex. I wish somebody had told me what I'm telling you. You got this OP.

i'm 27, and still there.

I can't stop thinking i'm hopeless and would never adapt anymore. I don't know... I mean how would a girl react knowing that?

>>18124340
mistakes like what? if you arent autismal then there really arent that many mistakes to be made just treat it like any other relationship, i mean with affection and intimacy added in.

You people should learn to lie about being a virgin. Worked for me.

>>18125848
>Sexual fustration

I'm sure that this and no distractions is what leads to porn addictions and novelty fetishes in anons.

>>18125883

I hooked up with a girl one time, while I was ontop of her making out, she actually asked me in between kisses "a-are you a virgin?"... i wasn't, so I sort of laughed and said no. She then stopped and pushed off of her a bit, looked me and said "you're lying".

Pissed me off desu

>>18124832
You only see the highlights of everyone else's life.

Don't compare your "behind the scenes" to their highlights.

>>18124340
just get a hooker and be done with it

>>18126042

Terrible idea

Never let a woman know you're a virgin

They're hardwired by 2 billion years of evolution to run away from virgin guys

Men are the opposite

>>18124340
>practice gf
Where does this come from? It's really bizarre to me. If you just want a fuckbuddy, have a fuckbuddy. If you're not experienced dating, just go on dates. If you actually want a romantic relationship, having a "practice" one just seems counterproductive.

>>18124613
>I was a virgin until I was 23. I have no doubt that there are women out there that would have been totally unfazed by that fact or even found it endearing/appealing, but I never encountered them. Never.

You didn't tell them, right? That's the worst mistake you could make.