>Angry at girlfriend about some recent issues >Tell her

>>18122579
When I ask her for fkn support she has fkn said very many times "You're just playing games trying to get me to say what you want"

Fucking NO SHIT, trying to get me to say that my suspicions and worries are nothing. But to call it a fucking game? I cannot comprehend this mindset

What the fuck

Why are you with her dude? Just dump her she doesnt even want to be with you wtf

>>18122579
>"It doesn't mean that, you just don't get it, and I don't have time to explain"

If she cant communicate about things you are seriously concerned about then she is too immature to provide you with a healthy relationship. GTFO now.

>>18122623
At the time she said that she literally had to leave soon, so she literally didn't have "time"

But I'd been asking her the same shit for hours trying to get a straight answer but she keeps changing topics, ignoring the fucking questions, and denying that she's doing so. Then at the end "I have no time" yeah because you FUCKING WASTED HOURS

File: 1373838614095.jpg (20KB, 265x265px) Image search: [Google]

20KB, 265x265px

>>18122579

You're leaving out a lot of details to this story that can give us insight into who is being the initial aggressor in this story of yours and I get the feeling that you've left them out on purpose.

You're going to have to give more back story than "some recent issues" because it seems like you've intently worded this story to make her seem like a crazed psycho and you the innocent bystander who has done nothing wrong and I hardly buy that.

>>18122627
>she keeps changing topics, ignoring the fucking questions, and denying that she's doing so

yup she is choosing not to communicate by manipulative means, see my original post, nothing has changed. Dont let he bullshit mask the literal truth. It would be one thing if this happened once, but having happened multiple times she is literally playing you for a fool, whether she realizes it or not.

>>18122645
seconded.

>>18122627

This is vague as fuck. What exactly were you asking that required hours of pestering when she clearly didn't want to talk about it?

>>18122645
Issues of fidelity and cheating, I don't want to get into the details because it will make me seem like a pathetic fucking cuck most likely. God wtf am I doing

>>18122666
ahahahaha
you obviously know what has to be done dude

>>18122666
You are a fucking retard

>>18122666
Did she cheat on you?

If she did you should have broke up before and/or break up now.

>>18122677
>>18122671
She hasn't done anything according to her

She just has a habit of making me jealous on purpose with threats when she's upset and she denies having this habit, that's what I just fucking hate. She used to do it all the time but she has gotten better

Sounds like a similar situation to my life rn OP
>GF always moody and takes it out on me
>Last night she had a tantrum about her university work and then got angry at me for not doing it for her
>Always dumps me for a day when she is pissed and i clean it up every time
>When i said what happens if i just one day give up and not bother cleaning it up she says she doesnt know what she will do because she just always assumes i will

I love her but this shitty attitude and moods really pull me away.

>>18122684
GTFO now, she's a crappy person barring any bullshit you've done that you left out.

>>18122666
>>18122645
OP is obviusly a beta cuck that is being ignored
and this fucking retard comes to say he is not giving enough details and that he is probably the abuser

Fucking feminists dude i swear

>>18122684
>She just has a habit of making me jealous on purpose with threats when she's upset and she denies having this habit, that's what I just fucking hate.

This is outright and categorically emotional abuse. You are being abused. Either leave and avoid the abuse or continue to be abused.

File: 1374911879553.jpg (12KB, 299x299px) Image search: [Google]

12KB, 299x299px

>>18122684
>>18122666

>I don't want to get into the details

So you won't get into any details that will provide us context for your argument and the only details you WILL give us are the details that make her seem like a psychotic bitch and you like the patient, loving boyfriend who hasn't done anything wrong.

I'm calling bullshit on this entire story.

I get the overwhelming feeling that you've been in asshole in this relationship and have contributed just as much to its downfall as she has but you don't want to give us any information that might possibly cause us to side with or empathize with her in the slightest.

You're painting a very purposeful picture with your information that contains absolutely no semblance of you doing anything wrong and I'm not buying it.

>>18122712
>History of purposefully making suggestive remarks regarding her male friends to make me jealous when she's upset
>History of threatening to cheat on me when upset
>History of threatening to cheat on me with a specific ex boyfriend when really upset
>History of telling me she did have sex with that ex boyfriend when she's really really really upset, and then taking it back and saying "Oh I just said that to hurt you"

I got over all of that but now there's a new thing

>"I'm going to have sex with him no matter what you say"
>Actually nvm I'm not going to anymore so stop going on about it

There's the fucking details

>>18122722
"him" is a different guy btw

>>18122712
Why are you being so fucking ilogic

Isnt obvius? there has been posted enough proof

>>18122698

>and this fucking retard comes to say he is not giving enough details and that he is probably the abuser

Firstly, I never said he was probably the abuser, so read again please. Secondly, when someone leaves out information in a story because that information could possibly implicate some fault on their part its typically on purpose.

When someone comes here saying "My girlfriend is being a total bitch and I don't know why. I've done nothing wrong." Its horseshit 99% of the time. That's little kid shit, like when you walk into a room and a 10 tells you he has no idea where all the cookies went or how the TV got broken.

>Fucking feminists dude i swear

Creating a boogeyman to explain away your lack of intelligence is a useful but hopelessly transparent tool of the weak.

>>18122712
>>18122722
>>18122727
Furthermore, the extent of my badness in this relationship involves jacking off to porn and not telling her for a couple years because she said she'd leave me if she I did. Which yeah is bad

But the issues of her threatening to cheat on me and being a general horrible person extend far before this porn issue

>>18122722

>There's the fucking details

That is, in no way shape or form, details. You have us one out of context sentence without any backstory.

Here's my thing; if she's an absolute psycho and has just abused you and threatened to cheat on you and said things to hurt you have done absolutely nothing wrong and you're fully aware of that fact then why are you here?

What information or insight could we possibly provide you about this vague patchwork of information you've provided us that you don't already know?

What do you want us to say?

>>18122722
Regardless of whether she cheated on you or not, the relationship sounds like it's dead and she's an emotional abuser.

I'm not much into /adv/'s
>break up
Shit but tbqh it sounds like you're getting nothing positive from this relationship and its stressing you a lot. This could be solved by communication but since she completely refuses to acknowledge the problem at hand, aka not communicating, I don't see how this shitty relationship can chance in the near or the long future.

Basically what's the point of doing something you don't enjoy, it hurts you and will continue to be like that?

>>18122743
She told me she was going to have sex with another male human being and there's nothing I could say to stop her, all while still claiming she loved me and wanted to be with me

Eventually she changed her mind and isn't going to anymore and now all of a sudden I can't bring up the issue according to her because it won't happen anymore so it supposedly doesn't matter

>>18122748
The point is because I love her and think she's figuratively my soulmate and she claims to feel the same way

because it seems like you've intently worded this story to make her seem like a crazed psycho and you the innocent bystander who has done nothing wrong and I hardly buy that.

>>18122752

Ok, so I'll ask the question again.

If she is an absolute psycho who abuses you and threatens to cheat on you and you have done absolutely nothing wrong then what insight did you come here for?

Unless your frontal lobe has been obliterated in some kind of freak accident then we have absolutely nothing to tell you that you don't already know.

If, assuming the vague information you've given us is true, you're dating a psychopath and you have been for years so I'm confused as to why you're here talking about her erratic behavior as if its something new or perplexing to you.

I'm just going off of the information that you've given us.

Again, I repeat; what do you want from us? What is your question?

>>18122757
What more info do you want anon I don't see what you're on about

>>18122764
I don't know what my question is

Just has anyone else experienced this and how the fuck do you get through to a girl like that who seems to constantly do X while simultaneously denying that she'd ever do X while pointing out how you did something vaguely similar to X, but not really, a long time ago

How the fuck do you cope with this shit when nothing you say seems to actually matter to her in any deep way when it's your main relationship issue and she just doesn't care but claims to care?

"I care so much that's why I can't directly answer your fucking questions and instead go back and forth with you for hours and turn it around on you then leave on a bad note on purpose to get revenge on you for having issues"

OIMG.

>>18122756
You may have some serious self-esteem issues anon. People who love you don't threat on hurting you and you shouldn't love your abuser.

Maybe you're one of those crazy nut couples though, I know plenty of them. Usually don't end good.

>>18122775
But she's not an abuser she's nice when things are okay but when she gets upset she can't help but say things like this, she doesn't do it much anymore.

>>18122765

Here is the confusing part; he's provided no backstory about what exactly the issue is they're fighting about, where it originates or who cast the first stone, if you will.

Its very suspicious because if some guy runs up to you in the street and says "HEY THAT GUY OVER THERE STARTED PUNCHING ME FOR NO REASON I DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG" what is more likely, that the person telling you about the fight did something to instigate the conflict that he's not telling you about or some random psychopath is just running down the street punching people for no reason?

And, ultimately, if she actually is this raving, indiscriminate psychopath that OP is painting her as then why is here pretending to be so confused about her behavior? Where has he been the past year of their relationship?

I'm not saying OP is the abuser in this situation, I'm just saying all of this doesn't add up.

>>18122768

>I don't know what my question is

Then we can't help you. We can't give you advice on how to cope with voluntarily being some girl's whipping post, if that is actually what is happening. If you want to date a psycho thats up to you but we can't give you any tips on how to make it easier other than leaving her.

>>18122782
You sound literally like one of those beaten-up women
>he's not always like this
>he promised not to do it again
>he said he was going to change
>but i love him
>what am I going to do without him
She's an abuser. Everyone on this thread just told you so. You should really ask for psychological help if you don't see it

>>18122785
I didn't do fucking shit

Sometimes I've been slightly dishonest about things and euphemistically describe them, but guess what - she fucking does it far more than me and to a much larger extent. It's just that I get punished with insane behavior and she doesn't, I get over things

She holds me to standards far above anything I could reasonably hold her to, she doesn't let me hold her to any standards she always swaps the topics and makes herself into a victim

I'll bring up an issue about something bad she did, she'll deny doing it and ignore directly addressing it for ages, then she'll start being a bitch to me and threatening shit and finally saying "Yeah I did that and I'm happy I did, why shouldn't I?" then she adds in extra bitchiness and makes threats then when I inevitably respond with "Omg you are literally an insane fucking bitch, are you fucking incapale of having a reasonable discussion" she'll say "see, you're abusive, I don't have to take this"

>>18122791

/thread

>>18122785
He does add up. This is exactly how abusive relationships works. The abused hardly ever notices the abuse.

Why are you here? You obviously don't know shit about relationships.

>>18122798

>I didn't do fucking shit

Ok, then you're dating a psychopath. We have no insight to give you on the logic of her thinking because her thinking contains no logic and you fucking KNOW that because you've been with her for a long time.

Stop going on and on about what she's doing to you because it doesn't matter; we can't help you with that. We don't need anymore details about how crazy she is.

If you want it to stop, leave her. Thats it. We can't give you advice on how to sustain an abusive relationship.

>>18122807

>He does add up

It adds up if you take everything he's saying at face value. I typically like to dig a little deeper.

>The abused hardly ever notices the abuse.

He's spent this entire thread talking about how insane she is. It seems to me that noticing is not his issue.

Also if you're reading this and I know you probably might, don't dare complain

See anons she gets really mad if I ever complain about relationship shit to anyone else because it's "private" yeah okay fucking private.

Maybe I'm sick of it being private. Maybe I'm sick of you doing shit then literally denying doing it and constantly doing it over and over again

For YEARS my biggest issue has been how you never take my shit seriously. And you continue to not take it seriously, thanks.

leave her
you can't sustain a relationship by yourself, and she is unwilling to help.
leave her.

>>18122831

You're a giant cunt. Save this shit for your diary, kid. If you're tired of psycho behavior then stop dating a psycho. You have no one to blame but yourself.

This is the inverse equivalent of domestic abuse.

>>18122857
Inverse?

>>18122860
Reverse? Which is correct? Non-native.

>>18122872
How is it inverse or reverse instead of just normal

Pathetic loser.

>>18122734
Just to clear this up. I never asked you to stop. You were wanking as i spoke dirty and youd load porn up. This i did not like. I then said id start using porn. You then could barely breathe and begged me not to and i said id not. YoU then said you would not. You lied. That is what hurt. Ive never once cared about guys wanking to porn. Keep making your sad little one sided posts. Youre pathetic.

>>18124103
Complaining about something from 4.5 years ago, before we were even together while you were still with your now ex boyfriend?

You're using the word "then" here in a MASSIVE stretch of literally years. Are you braindead?

Fucking retard honestly

>>18124647
Youre a lovely bf im sure. She is a lucky girl.

>>18124647
It may have been that long ago but that is when you said youd not. Yep insane to be with you.

>>18122734
>>18124103
>>18124647
holy fuck kek
did she actually find the thread

OP, you got your answer multiple times in this thread: END IT AND QUIT BEING A WHINY BITCH. THIS RELATIONSHIP IS A DEAD END AND YOU'RE TOO MUCH OF A FAGGOT TO COMPREHEND THAT.

Fuck off, delusional twat.

>>18124701
>Op comes to /adv/ to salvage a relationship that he didn't want to end
>gets in a namecalling match with gf
Huh. Well ain't that sumthin'?

>>18124825
You know, if you make a medicine too bitter, no one wants to take it... do you know what I'm tactfully getting at? Or do I need to simplify it?

>>18124868
Make it simples plz>>18124868