I think I might be bi but I don't to feel a strong urge

>install grindr
>find a boy you aren't repulsed by who doesn't seem like a creep
>meet and experiment with your sexuality anonymously
>take things slow, only explore what you're comfortable with


I felt the same way, found a cute boy on grindr, met up, and did exactly what I was comfortable with, which ended up being kissing and mutual oral. It was okay, might do it again with the right guy, but I don't hate myself for trying it!

>>18117673

I'm just not interested as much anymore, my curiosity peaked and I scoured the net for the few guys I could be attracted to, that always lead nowhere and now I just don't care anymore. The only thing left is this lingering worry over what to do with that side of myself now that its gone dormant.

>>18117783
Just give it a shot. Look on grindr for someone, set your profile name so its clear you're straight, the gays love that, hooking up with a straight guy is like taking a virginity for them. Make it clear what you're looking for, then go experiment. You have nothing to lose and if you don't try you'll always have that niggle in the back of your mind wondering what it's like to let that side of you cut loose.

Once you've done it you'll either genuinely completely lose interest, or decide it's something you like that warrants further exploration.

I'm in the same boat (but a chick.) If you're comfortable with who you're talking to, you could give a brief explanation of your circumstance. I most often tell people, "Pretty much straight" or hesitate for just a second, bob my head back and forth and say, "Eh, straight." They get the idea. I explain myself if they ask. "So you're bi-curious?" "Something like that, but I don't think I would try chicks."

A little off-topic: I saw Grindr on my boyfriend's phone some time ago. Didn't know what it was until now because of this thread. ...welp.

>>18117815
kek, sorry to be the one to break it to ya.

Why not have an FFM threesome with your boyfriend? You can experiment to your hearts content, and he'll love you for it. Maybe. If he ain't so far in the closet he's exploring Narnia.

>>18117798

Its pointless, I'm not even attracted to most guys, its just something that catches me by surprise, that's why its easier just to let it be.

>>18117815

>A little off-topic: I saw Grindr on my boyfriend's phone some time ago. Didn't know what it was until now because of this thread. ...welp.

That's hilarious.

>>18117823

Yet it's distressing you enough to make a post about it on adv? Pick one.

Yes, I get it. I'm much the same. 99% of guys don't do it for me, in fact they repulse me, then every now and then I'll see a guy and I'm like 'yep, would go there'. But it's something you need to do to understand that part of you. Then when it catches you by surprise you'll know how to deal with it in a healthy way, instead of converting it to anxiety and posting about it on adv.

>>18117829
>Yet it's distressing you enough to make a post about it on adv? Pick one.

Its really not THAT serious, its just that normal people tend to take these labels so seriously, so I wanna know how to best deal with them.

>>18117846
You tell them whatever you want them to think. That's the approach I take. 99% of the time my answer is gonna be 'straight', because it's only 1% of the time that anything else is relevant, in which case I might change it up to 'heteroflexible', 'bicurious', or just plain 'bi', depending on the circumstance.

Fact is the label is the least important part of your sexuality. You do whatever the fuck you wanna do, you tell people whatever the fuck you wanna tell them. If you feel the need to pigeonhole yourself into a particular identity or label, then it isn't about your sexuality anymore, it's about what you want other people to think about you.

I used to be this way about traps until I realized they looked like chicks so it wasn't gay.

You're fine bud.

>>18117855

Yeah I think I'm gonna just continue to deny it, at least until I know for sure myself.

>>18117880

I've fapped to all out gay porn, traps are vanilla to me now. The reason I'm not sure about my sexuality is because I never feel any attraction to guys like I do with girls, but then I fap to too much gay porn to believe I'm straight anymore, plus I'm genuinely curious now, but a guy would have to pretty much be a trap for me to even want to fuck him, so I had to let that dream die.