22M here. I've only had sex a few times and sex still causes

>>18116111
Is the sex unpleasant or is her personality horrible. Also how old is she? I ask because 6/10 is just above average and an early twenties 6/10 ain't bad at all. Also why do you call her a massive slut? Is it just because you got it easy or do you have knowledge of her sexual history? Regardless, if you think this will help you with your sexual anxiety and you may want to consider it, the only concern I have is if she has any std's and that you both use condoms while together. Of course the condom will completely ruin the sexual encounter. Jk.....sorta

>>18116147
I'm always weary of young (19) girls. The std thing does scare me as she was always talking about how many guys she sleeps with. She swallowed without even asking and was always asking me to degrade her which made it hard to focus for me.

Just go to Europe and pay 200 euros to sleep with a supermodel tier escort

it will remove all your anxiety when trying to sleep with regular girls because you know you can go to Amsterdam at any time and shag a 10/10 blond with large breasts

>>18116167
I can't exactly go to Amsterdam at any time, but I am going to Thailand, Laos Vietnam this summer if that counts.

Do it. Sex anxiety is so common, I used to struggle so much with it. It's the worst cause with enough of it your stress inhibits your bones or makes you pop in seconds. If these happen it's nothing to be embarrassed about, and that's the best part about tinder cubbies. It takes experience to overcome your anxieties, and random fucks are basically practice fucks for your future bones. My advice is to do it and try to be relaxed and cool as you can be. Have a fun night, breathe lots, stay chill and you'll come to find you actually can fuck like no ones business.

>>18116180
Alright I guess I'll at least see what she says. Haven't texted for a week so hopefully it's not too late.

>>18116188
You get it man.
Remember, you don't actually give a shit.

>>18116188
Update us.

>>18116180
Another anon in the exact same situation.

Met a "friend of a friend" who is basically a slut that has some FWB and told me basically the time and hour I can go and fuck her at her house.

She's a 5.5/10, but because of my anxiety I feel I should go for it.

>>18116214
will do!

>>18116237
Anxiety sucks man, but your situation seems better than mine. I live with family so I don't have free space all the time, and she's not someone I'd want to introduce to my family.

>>18116175
>go to Southeast Asia
>try to gain confidence on sex
>leave Southeast Asia a faggot
Don't you do it anon that fucking place is crawling with traps. Save your sheckels and go to Amsterdam.

>>18116111
>>18116111
'massive slut' insinuates a lot about how you think about women and yourself.

Are you scared of promiscuity in women since you feel you should be in control of sex and she'd be more experienced than you?

your best chance of beating your anxiety in my personal experience is to try and get a ballpark idea of what it is that unsettles you.

Also being 22 and only having had sex a few times I don't think you should be picky about the 'pleasant way', if a long term successful sexual and emotional relationship is the long term aim just see this FWB deal as a practice.

Good luck anon

>>18116371
edit: by 'long term successful sexual and emotional relationship is the long term aim'

I don't mean with her I just mean in general with any woman, in terms of preparing you to have enjoyable sex with a long term partner whoever that may be

>>18116371
I appreciate the criticism. I'm generally anxious so I guess it's just a matter of getting over something new. I'm probably under socialized as general intimacy is somewhat unsettling to me.

>>18116461

It wasn't sugar coated but it wasn't criticism, genuine intent to solve a problem, didn't mean to offend so sorry if I did.

But in that case absolutely go for it, you just need immersion therapy, on the plus side if it's nothing more than simply being nervous of a new thing you just need to normalise it and have no underlying complicated issues; result.

>>18116466
No worries. Also I'm realizing now I really struggle with communication. Even having to text this person gives me anxiety.

>>18116514
texting and social media can be poisonous, it's so hard to relay tone and stuff, and there's no chance to be impulsive, also it's in writing so you can toss and turn over what they mean, just try and meet up in person and chat, it's much nicer.

starting a relationship of any form, even if its purely sexual is harder over text as once you meet them and you cant live up to your text persona it becomes tricky

>>18116525
I definitely appreciate, but dislike having to use electronic communication. I've been with her once before so I figured texting would just be the most straight forward method.