My boyfriend is a drunk. We've been dating for 3 years and

This is the life you will live with an addict. You have to be prepared to leave if they make no attempt to get better

Life with an addict will lead to you and your relationship going through sober periods and relapses. This will occur for all of the relationship, the only change will be the length of the periods. If his problem worsens you will have to confront him, and eventually a choice will have to be made. Depending on what your feelings are you can try to help him, but as we all know, you can't change someone who isn't you.

if he doesn't want to change or get better then he won't. there's only so much you can do about it. be supportive and be aware that it is a constant struggle, but also don't push yourself if you don't think you can handle the burden. you matter too.

>>18106853
I'm an alcoholic
Or at least some shade of one

People drink because it offers respite against shit they find intolerable.
Trying to stop the drinking without solving the reason why he's drinking is like telling someone to stop bleeding without patching their wound

>>18106853

please try talking to him

please talk about AA, talk about SMART, talk about seeing a counselor, talk about trying

please don't just leave him

I would have traded every drink for my girlfriend, 6 years, and it was just "too late" for her by the time she said something

>>18106944
I drink every day and will get a headache and frek out if I don't have any alcohol, but I don't have any major complaints with my life. It's definitely better than when I started drinking daily