How do you handle failure and criticism, /adv/? It's seems

>>18100195
exmaples???

>>18100195

surround yourself with people who treat you well.

remember there's a difference between criticism and being a douche.

i know a few people who give what i like to call 'pre criticism'. this is where they give a criticism on something before it even happens and claim they're helping.

for instance.
>working on a short film about a doll that moves
>explaining to fellow filmmaker about how were making the doll move
>him: 'well hopefully you make it look real and not bad'

another example
>working on a script called 'a bitch in oz'
>explain its just a rehash where dorothy is a bitch
>he says 'well hopefully you write it so shes actually funny and not just bad'

his 'precriticisms' are based on assumptions he doesn't need to take to preemptively put you down. it boils down to
>try not to do a bad job!

which isn't helpful its just them trying to seem like they know more than you.

if you got people who are clearly doing this, why would you listen to them?

>>18100207
>messing up at work and getting yelled at
>friends always "too busy" to hang out
>"I only like you as a friend"

Accept failure and fix what you can. Any criticism which sounds overly exaggerated can be ignored until you learn enough about yourself to judge it wisely.

>>18100229

1. Focus at work and stop messing up.

2. Find other friends who have time for you.

3. Find a girl who likes you as more than a friend.

The problem with you kids here as that you always want to be victims of circumstance. Failure and criticism is unavoidable, constructive or not. Its your job to foster an environment that is positive for you and to develop the emotional fortitude and humility to use failure as a learning experience and criticism as fuel to better yourself.

Failure and criticism can either lift your resolve to be better or it can crush you into a ball of self-loathing. Only you can decide which one. Either way, you can't blame people or the world for doing this to you. The world and people only do to you what you allow them to do.

All of this is in your control, so stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. Take control.

hey op

you don't strike me as someone who is deluded with ego (which is why sometimes people would try to destroy your self esteem) but you seem like someone who could just use some positive reassurance. these people who are trying to bring you down? they've never believed in themselves, and they certainly would not believe in anyone else until they see the results.

but everyone comes from somewhere. i can relate to your situation. i wanted so badly to be an artist, and even if made something that i was proud of, i still had people tell me i wasn't going to make the "real world". i heard it from 4chan, i heard it from my family, i heard it from "friends" and teachers too. even got denied to the college of my dreams twice.

didn't help i was a fucking awkward loser. but i kept trucking along and did what i can. i worked my ass off, embarrassed myself a whole ton, got shat on some more, learned from that experience, rinse and repeat.

fast forward to now, i pretty much got everything that i wanted. i'm an artist at snapchat straight from my dream college (with multiple offers from other local companies, but gotta admit, snapchat was the obvious choice).

i do commissions online on the side that are worth up to 300$ USD for about 8 hours of work with about 4 clients on average a month (not bad for someone who is still relatively unknown), and i don't have to draw porn or fetishes for it.

i have people who are fans of my work and respect me for what i do. even the people who shat on me are sucking up to me and pretending they believed in me the whole time! (lol) i get all the support in the world now that i "made it". and i realized this is just how the world works... people and life will shit on you until you aren't shitty any more.

i know it wont mean much, but op i believe in you. i believe that anyone has the power to turn their life around and make something of themselves... hell if i did it, then you can too.

>>18100222
>surround yourself with people who treat you well
I'd agree with this but it isn't always an option. E.g. you don't get to pick your boss.

>>18100307
>victim of circumstance
Sometimes it does feel like I'm putting 100% effort into something yet always coming up short. I don't know how to handle that - when I'm doing all I possibly can and still consistenly finding myself messing things up.

>>18100388
Thanks bro, I too have a dream I'm pursuing and I'm hoping I can make it happen just like you did.