So my gf over one year is on my ass. When she is grumpy she silent

>>18090320
She doesn't sound like a good partner, and it sounds like she's just trying to bring you down to her level. Find someone else who'll actually communicate in a mature way with you if she's not willing to change her way of interacting. (protip: she isn't going to change)

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DAN IS THAT YOU? JUST DUMP EMA DUDE IDGAF JUST DO IT

My bad if this is not dan the man stan

>>18090521

It ain't Dan the man, sorry bro.

>>18090481
This seems logical, anyone else?

>>18090320
Talk to her about it whenever the situation is neutral or at least a little positive, without laughing or anything. I mysef have a gf of 4 years that acts this way and is also fun etc but I didn't seethe red flags early and I am this close of ending it, like waiting for when it gets worse to make sure I do or some dumb shit, maybe I should.

But this isn't about me, it's about you. Don't be like me anon, think of these things before going further down your relationship. If your goal is marriage ask yourself if you would stand a wife like that throws hissy fits like you describe, maybe you'd want to have kids; what if they end up emulating her? Think of these things ahead.

>>18090481
Seconded.

A good partner wants to elevate you, not control you through negativity.

What everyone is saying, been with a girl 2.5 years now and she was like that in the beginning, after months of trying to force her to communicate properly I decided to leave her, once she realized what was at stake she cleaned her act up and communicates great now. Maybe try the same

>>18090320
Giving someone the "silent treatment" is calld "stonewalling," and it is a big big no-no in relationships. Mathematician and relationship expert John Gottman has written about this problem and how to solve it. I would recommend consulting some of his work for ideas on how to address this behavior.

At the end of the day, anon, you get to decide what you will and will not tolerate. We are all human. We all have good days and bad. Ask your gf to stop stonewalling and take it from there.

Your best bet is to sit her down when you're on good terms with each other and tell her that you want to address something. Every now and then she seems to shut you out and you feel like the way you handle it now seems to frustrate her. Ask her what she expects/needs for you to do when she gets like this. If she goes all hissy and tells you that you should support her unconditionally or whatever, point out that it's a matter of self respect to not take this behavior from your significant other.

And who knows, maybe she stills you to leave her alone and give her some space, or to try to break her resolve with a little joke or something. Depends on how well she knows herself.

Or you can decide that you're done with her shit and leave. That's up to you.