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So I don't think my gf is that into us anymore but I'm totally in love with her. Idk what to do she see,s less interested in sex now amd we are 8 months in. I remember,bet the first three months she was wanting to fuck everyday I did almost, and we both lost our virginites to each other, and it was my first time getting head and her first time giving it when we did this. Like I always have to ask to hangout, have to text her first usually, I reply back as soon as she texts me, and sometimes it takes her up to twenty minutes to respond. Like I've sat down and tries to talk to her about this, but she always says I'm wrong or worrying too much. I even told her "listen if you are getting tired of this, and are thinking ablut how relationships are with other guys tell me and be honest. We will just end it, I'll be hurt for a while but will get over it and we will both find someone who is more compatible with ourselves." She says she isn't thinking this stuff. But the way she acts seems like it. We used to fight ALOT, but I've been working on how I've been handling situations and we haven't fought for over a month. A lot of our fights had to do with her texting her exes, or just other guys in general and me being ultra jealous. But it seems for the past month or so she's been kinda down or moody with me. She doesn't want to have sex as much, when I ask she gets pissed which in turn aggregates me. She gets mad if I wath porn, but doesn't ever send me pics when I say I'm horny. I mean idk what to do, it seems like she's miserable in this relationship and is done with it, but she doesn't say she wants to end it when I aks. But when we get in big fights she always says I'm done with this and tries to break up with me, but I always talk to her and she is fine after that and says she wants to stay with me and she loves me.
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>>18080732
Cont: like when we talk about the future she always says "my wedding" "my kids" "my house" but when I do I say "our kids, house, weddimg". I've talked to her about this but she says "I say it like that beause idk what the future holds". It just seems like she has no faith in us, or doesn't want to have a future with me but she always says she wants one. Shes coming over this evening, so I want to have a long on I about this, and come to a conclusion and really understand what she feels. I'm going to marine boot camp in 2 months, and really do not want a letter from her saying it's not going to workout and it's over. I just don't know what to say to her and how to bring it up without fighting like we usually do. I don't want to end it, I get sick thinking of her with someone else, doing the things we do, making love. I just want us both happy, and idk if I make her as happy as she makes me.
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Dump. And that's not a typo btw. It's original too.
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>>18080754
Dump her?? Why though? I really really love this girl. Please be more exact on why? I ant just dump her.
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>>18080757
No need to explain, you gave all the reasons you needed. Read your stuff.
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>>18080760
But if I just break up with her, I'll regret it man.
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>>18080762
I don't give a single shit about your feelings. I give you answers; you take them or not, not my problem.
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>>18080763
I'll just wit for someone else to give me better advice. I kinda just want to see a full outside perspective
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>>18080767
You're funny; delusional, but funny.
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>>18080732
Bump
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>>18080732
you're too young and insecure for a healthy relationship. you're not gonna gain self-esteem and security overnight, so I doubt this relationship will work.
also if you really loved her (not just love the way she makes you feel and are terrified that you're not good enough to find someone else who makes you feel that way=you) you would want her to be happy and you would end it because you know she could be happier with someone else.
as far as being less insecure, improve your physical fitness, career, hobbies, intelligence, skills, social life, etc. security will follow.
Jealousy is relationship killer and pussy repellant. It's also just an unhealthy way to live. You're good enough for plenty of women bro, stop imagining shit in your head and thinking all women are cheaters by nature.
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The fire always calms after a while man. It's normal that you want to fuck each other out at first and then you stop wanting to do it so much.
That said
>I'm going to marine boot camp in 2 months
this is really bad news. I'd advice you not to get too invested in a long term relationship. Most of the time they don't work and most LTR's have cheating included. Sorry.
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>>18080862
Yeah I'm worried as fuck about going off. I doubt she'll cheat but I can almost feel her calling me up one day when I'm in the fleet and telling me it's over. I'd fucking go into a depression, she is my first gf and first person I've had sex with. If it is going to happen I'd rather it now but I know if I end it I'll always think back and say "what if?"
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