My gf is coming over within the next hour and I plan to break up with her after a lot of thought. We have been dating for 3.5 years and it will completely blindside her. I am shaking in my boots right now and I don't know if I can do it.
Motivate/convince me?
>>18073654
Why are you breaking up with her?
>>18073654
Do it. Just them them down easy and just say you're not happy. You don't have to go ultra specific, but hold your nerve and go through with it if it's how you feel.
>>18073656
>>18073696
She exted 'omw' right after I posted this so sorry I didn't have a chance to give more details.
Its over. It was the most gut-wrenching, heart-breaking thing I've ever had to do, but it's done. Just got off an hour long phone call with my Dad to talk through it.
Essentially, she is a great partner who grew to be my best friend, but I don't want to move in with her and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. Things are starting to change quickly. I am interning across the country this summer and who knows where I'll be after college. I needed a hard reset. I feel like this was the right move, and delaying it any longer would be a bad idea.
>>18073873
Sorry to say, if you don't believe that you can spend the rest of your life with her, you did the right thing. Toying her along when you don't want to continue the relationship would be cruel.
Good luck wherever you go.
>>18073873
It's good you figured it out now, instead of making the relationship have a long death.
Btw don't hook up with her when she arrives