Everybody has their fair share of crap they've dealt with.

>Girl becomes depressed (lots of family things happen, cancer and someone died in a car accident) and meets another guy2, dates him
And then he rapes her.

Define rape? Every girl i've ever fucking talked to (at least 5) romantically or personally all have told me they were raped. So either the truth is being stretched to manipulate others emotions, or every man except myself is a closet rapist? Also, speaking from experience of being "guy3" in these situations nothing could hurt him more than finding out you still are desperately in love with someone else. You need to cut off ties with guy3 or any other man for that matter till you can come to terms with this feeling you have towards guy1. Otherwise your just going to poison their soul. I know from experience. Don't be like Hanabi.

>>18071706
Definition being I told him no and to stop several times, even tried to push him off. It's kind of hard to start wailing on someone you had feelings for...

I haven't started talking to my inner child yet so I don't think I'm Hanabi yet...

>>18071692
What do you mean by "loves" when you write "girl loves guy3"?

If guy1 were a possibility, would you discard guy3 to try to be with guy1 instead?

Because if that's the case, you should break up with guy3 and let him go find someone who really wants to be with him.

I think you should really think about this carefully and consider how you actually feel about guy3 as a person and whether or not you value being with him for who he is, not because you don't want to be lonely because you can't be with a guy you want.

A long time ago I realized that I don't just want to be with someone who is smart, funny, attractive, or whatever. A huge part of what I want in someone else is that they want to be with me and they treat me well. If those two things aren't there, the rest doesn't matter.

>>18071761
You can love two people at once, anon.
But no. I wouldn't leave guy3 for guy1.
I kind of just needed to talk it through, I guess. I was scared that I might.

Sounds like you have what my gf has, intrusive thoughts. For example my girlfriend is convinced she is a bad person for no reason. Her thoughts arr illogical and you cant control them but you still let them control your life you might need a psychiatrist at some point.

>>18071692
Dude, are you my ex-girlfriend? That's almost the same story of her life. I was guy1 but she was the one who cut off contact after confessing. Man, the world sure is a village when it comes to such specific love stories.

>>18072002
I assure you, anon, guy1 would not use 4chan.

it's 100% expected that you'd feel lacking self-worth after being sexually assaulted especially when the situation was never resolved. plus you have other shit in your past
idk you but i'm sure you deserve your bf's love
as long as the relationship is good stay with him, but remember he can't take those thoughts out of your head. you'll need to deal with that either yourself or with a doctor