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why am i adverse to changing my behaviour around people i know?
this is poorly worded but let me illustrate
for example, when i started university i found it much easier to socialise because i wasn't with my friends from home, when i'm with my best friend i always lock up around people and avoid talking
i met a guy at university and we got pretty intimate, we had a similar sense of humor but when i went over to his flat and his flatmates we're hanging around i was near silent and we looked liked strangers
it's almost like i build an identity for different people and when it's not just me and said person everything just crumbles and i feel static and incapable of conversation
what's wrong with me?
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Nothing's wrong, I can relate to it.
Don't have a cure for it but I suspect it's because when we worry about our reputation and the image we put forth we start censoring what we can and can't say. Which is easier to do with one person. Doing in a group is like trying to juggle multiple plates at once. I don't know I'm just guessing.
I sometimes completely lock up and can't even think of something to say because my mind gets too focused on trying to come up with things to say.
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Maybe because if you embarrass yourself with complete strangers, it won't matter to you because they're strangers anyway. But what you don't want is to mess up around strangers with your "established" friend to witness. It's literally caring too much.
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