Are my friends just friends with me out of convenience? Sometimes

>>18059328
>They almost never invite me to get lunch at the caf (this is university btw), but I always see them sitting together
What's stopping you from joining them?

Freshman year friends are stepping stones that you toss in the trash once you find someone better sophomore and junior year

join some clubs and take it easy and new people will come

>>18059340
Because I never know when all of them are going and it's two times a day. It'd be tiring to bug them twice a day to ask them when they're eating together. The few times I happen to run into them I sit with them, and since I'm at the end I'm barely spoken too and just silently eat. It's fucking terrible

>>18059344
I just joined a second sports team so here' s hoping for something

>>18059328
>Are my friends just friends with me out of convenience?
I'd say probably not.
I've known a lot of people on both sides of this situation and it basically always boils down to one of two things:
1) They're friends with you, but closer friends with each other. It's really easy to get into a "friend group," but it takes more effort to create one-on-one relationships. Invite some or all of them to do things with you. Plan a movie or video game night, or invite them to get lunch somewhere with you. They'll probably feel good getting invited to things and want to do the same to you.
2) You're the person in the friend group that people just don't like. I've seen this happen on people who are just too weird, people who are dangerous or self-destructive, people who cause too much drama, etc. If this is the case then you probably won't ever be truly accepted, but you can still make friends with some of them. If they get really abusive to you for no reason, then maybe you should look for a new friend group.

tl;dr if you want them to invite you to shit, invite them to shit

>>18059347
I meant if you see them, join them.

They probably don't even consider you a friend. Cut your losses.

>>18059355
read again plz
>>18059354
I'm gonna guess it's the latter. I sadly don't really have anything interesting to invite people to besides the gym..

>>18059347
Hmm. Seems like Noone likes you friend.

>>18059411
I want to fucking die I tried my best

>>18059344
This. I tagged along with some people as practice friends to improve my social skills until I found people I legit wanted to hang with that I could use those skills on.

>>18059354

This is a good post.

>>18059364
Create something to do, you sperg. Don't just give up because they might not want to do something. Maybe there's a concert, or event on campus, or something like that. Or go buy a cool new video game. Invite people to your place, or maybe a different place for lunch. The world's your oyster.

How often do you ever reach out and see what everyone is doing? This is a two-way street man, you can't just assume everyone is going to make a special effort to invite you along when you've never expressed any interest in going.

You don't need a formal invite to everything.

>>18059364
I prob should've said: I'm assuming it's the former
Even if it's not you should make the effort anyway. How is there any downside to inviting your friends to the gym/a movie/to get food