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Life's about to fall apart and I'm powerless to stop it

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About 6 months ago, my dad was arrested for cp. He swore to my family that he knew nothing about it, and in the aftermath of that was close to committing suicide when he thought we had all turned our backs on him. I thought it couldn't get any worse than that, but today the police have been in contact to say that hundreds more images were found on his computer and he'll be prosecuted. Now he's broken down and admitted it all, saying that he's been feeling increasingly lonely and isolated for years and it led him some disgusting places and made him hate himself. Apparently he's been in counselling for over a year trying to get help, but the damage was done and he was arrested before he could fix himself.

It's going to be in the local news tomorrow. The people I've known all my life will be disgusted and instantly change their opinion of me and my family. My little sisters will be bullied at school. One of them's already become anorexic since this all started, and I'm sure that it's because of this and it will only get worse now. I've just felt completely sick ever since it happened. Not necessarily because of what he did, but because of what it will do to my family. There's no going back after this. The happy childhood I had, the happy family I knew growing up, will never be whole again. We're all going to carry this burden with us for the rest of our lives, and there's nothing I can do to stop that.

What do I do /adv/? How can I protect my family from the shitstorm we're about to enter?
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holy fuck op

we need an oldfag and sensible person right here
and seek counselling for yourself
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>>18055459
>How can I protect my family from the shitstorm we're about to enter?
you cannot. all you can do is help them weather it. do not neglect yourself in this process- you can do no good for anyone if you are a mess yourself.
my sympathies, anon. this is a pretty fucked up thing to have to deal with.
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either buckle down or move on.

your father isnt a horrible person. he didn't molest anyone. he just watched some porn.

either buckle down and stand your ground where you live, or just pick up your family and move a few towns over.
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>>18055459
Pack up and leave town. Holy fuck man. That is awful. There really is no way of salvaging this. Your real friends will stand by your side, but god damn. I'm so sorry.
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>>18055502
I know, I don't hate him. I see him as someone with a sickness, which is pretty much the same way as he described it when he finally came clean. But that doesn't really matter - people won't see it that way. Like I say, my sisters will get bullied at school. People who've known us all our lives will avoid us from now on, people will make fun of us behind our backs, and so on. I don't know how to handle it.

>>18055503
Actually I already left town a few weeks ago - I'd been trying to find a job for ages and finally I found one, and left because of it. I'd rather I was with my family now though, because I know how difficult it is for my mum to keep everything together. I want to be there for them every day so I can help them heal, instead of stuck in some city 200 miles away while they have to deal with everything.
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>>18055520

i disagree on it being a sickness, but whatever makes it easier for you (and i really do mean that).

like i said you really do only have two choices
>buckle down
>or get out of town

your choice man. i wish you luck. regardless of the labels it really does suck that this is gonna affect you for awhile
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>>18055531
Well by 'sickness' I just mean that he didn't choose this. I don't think he's a bad person, he was just dealing with something that he was unable to control me. I know that it hurts him immensely to see the pain that he's caused us all.
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