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Why are there so many people who don't know what they like

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Why are there so many people who don't know what they like or what they want to do in life?
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>>18055172

Because those are the only people who feel the need to whine about it. People who actually do know what they like and what they want to do, just do it without making a show of it.
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>>18055172

Because the system is absolutely piss poor these days, and has been for a while. Most of us were fed the "you can do anything you want" line, but as we get older, that turns into "you'll only make a decent wage if you're in STEM or a select few other fields." High schools stop teaching any kind of specialization - you may want to be a writer, but goddamnit to hell are you going to spend a significant chunk of your education learning about parallelograms.

Suddenly, you're in college, and holy shit, it's time to determine the rest of your life! The thing is, none of your entry level classes will prepare you at all for what you're getting into, and then the next three years of your life teach you a bunch of theoretical shit that doesn't prepare you for the workplace at all.

So it's a bunch of mixed messages without any exposure to what you really like, and by now it's too late.
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>>18055172
This is why "muh freedom" doesn't work, humans need to be controlled, that's why the greatest inventions happened under dictatorship or slavery.
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they have no personality or beliefs except what has been imposed upon them
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>>18055172

Because we're inherently still animals.
Do you see dolphins and elephants working a 9-5? We're fucking slaves.
We do we all want?
Food, shelter and sex/love
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>>18055180

>blaming "the system" for people being lazy indecisive cunts
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>>18055191
>Do you see dolphins and elephants working a 9-5?

Animals are working to survive every moment of every day, and if they fail at their job on any given day they die.
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>>18055172
some people aren't good at anything, these people usually contribute nothing and lead awful lives.
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>>18055196
And if we fail to survive, we become homeless :^)
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>>18055211

you can apply for welfare. you can beg on the street. random people will buy you food.
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>>18055180


I agree with a lot of what this anon said.

But also, in my experience, I find that a lot of people are just afraid to try shit.

I hate generation bashing, but I do notice that many of my fellow millenials don't know how to try new things. And I mean really TRY new things.

If they are struggling to find a subject of study, they don't go out and shadow or interview people in possible job fields. They don't volunteer in those fields to see what the job settings are like.

If they are looking for hobbies, they don't go to relevant meetups or to the local community center to sign up for a class. I mean what is the worst that could happen? You take a woodworking class with a bunch of senior citizens and you don't like it? Stop going. But you may find you love it and after a lot of practice, you build yourself a badass furniture set.

And also, people isolate themselves. I can't tell you how many awesome opportunities I watch people pass by, because they get interested in a topic, google on their smart phones, look at the relevant pinterest page, and decide they are an expert.

Meanwhile, they have have an opportunity to meet people who have tons of real-life experience with that subject, but they won't talk to them.


So stop spending all your nights clubbing or gaming. Put down your phone for a bit, forget the internet, and go actually talk to people. Talk to older people - they often are happy to share their time, experience, and yes, even money to get younger people started in the fields and hobbies they are passionate about.

Don't be discouraged if you don't find what you are looking for right away. Keep looking, and keep an open mind. It will be worth it.
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>>18055226

My challenge throughout my 20s was finding the time to do this, to do anything, really. I had to quit my job to find the time to find a job in marketing, and that job paid $10/hr for 20 hours a week.

Time is unfortunately precious, and there's not a lot of it to go around for many.
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>>18055172
Valueless upbringing and too much leisure.
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>>18055226

Not to be a dick, but time is what you make of it. I starting working at 14 to pay the bills, and was attending high school, and caring for a sick/dying parent. My 20s were likewise spent working insane schedules to pay off medical bills, and support myself and my siblings. I didn't have a chance to attend college until much later in life.

The fact is, we're often dealt shitty hands. Yes, wage slavery exists, and most of us are subject to it.

But the universe really doesn't give a shit. It is up to us to take what we have, and make something better with it.

If you only have a half a day off every week, and you are too exhausted to do much, spend that half day making your life better. Cook and prep fast meals ahead of time so that you spend less time during the week getting food. Then use that time for something better. Force yourself to spend as little as five minutes every day researching different job options and planning for how to get something better.
Study for a better job on the bus, or on your work breaks.

In the end, that five minutes a day spent seeking something better can be what makes your whole day bearable

It is done by small increments, and it is grueling work and sacrifice, but it is better than sitting back in despair and accomplishing nothing.
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>>18055172
Because I'm so lazy I can't even find a quality headphone set, keyboard and PC rig. Because I don't know, I never got myself educated.
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>>18055279

meant to reply to this anon >>18055244
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Speaking for myself since i'm in this position, it's a lot of things.

Parents raised me badly, 0 values, no curiosity, no support, didn't teach me anything, verbally abusive, never socialised.

Schools are generally terrible these days, the curriculum is vastly outdated, doesn't teach any specialization. Then you have everyone funneled in to college reducing the value of degrees and increasing the competition (there was a study done around 2015 that said America doesn't need around 50% of the law degrees that it's population has because the jobs don't exist)

Too many distractions, video games, porn etc etc Also welfare.

Social hostility, we treat people like this with far more contempt than we do modern war criminals. Lazy, parasite, useless are the words that are kneejerked constantly. You're seen as a complete piece of shit for not being a wage slave by people who critique the fact wage slavery exists.

It also becomes more and more overwhelming, the longer you wait the harder it is etc.

Also most advice is delusional take >>18055226
>Talk to older people - they often are happy to share their time, experience, and yes, even money to get younger people started in the fields and hobbies they are passionate about.

This is just laughable. I would love to see some evidence of older people giving younger people who aren't family money to chase hobbies.
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>>18055172

Because life is just getting crazier and crazier. Way back then, it was either "do this or perish" so there wasn't a lot of choice in life. Now with all this automated stuff, government assistance, able to make money without even seeing a person face to face and so on, it's just overwhelming for most people.

Its like the easier life gets, the harder it gets too.
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>>18055282

The thing is, I did just that. But it's not right, and it's still an indictment of the system. I don't expect anything to be handed to me, but we should retool the machine if we expect to succeed.
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>>18055172
because most careers aren't fun or interesting
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i was born into a wealthy family so i dont have the motivation to go to college because im already living so well, i wont ever need to work again

i die inside everyday and i try to drown it with drugs and sex but i will never accomplish as much as my grandfather has
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>>18055341
This. There are so many choices and things you can do in life. You don't need to work for survival so the amount that you can do is just overwhelming.
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>>18056318
You have almost diagnosed the problem. The one ingredient which is missing is that you value everything through money. If your grandfather created your family's wealth, odds are that he didn't think of it as amassing wealth, but of creating something new. A company, a factory, an invention, what have you. Money is just mortar and a way of keeping score for may entrepreneurs.

To make yourself like yourself more, you need to find something to build, and give it your all to actually do it. It need not be something which is worth a lot of money, instead it can be a family (but if done right, you invest all your energy into a healthy marriage, and even more into growing good people out of your children), any kind of art which is not self-centered (most bad art is), a successful farm for organically grown heirloom tomatoes, whatever rocks your boat. Any of these, along with some things which are worth a lot of $$$$, can be a good ambition to which you devote a lot of your life.
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they are too rich
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Look up the sociological theory of functionalism and why it can be a bad thing. It basically says that In todays society, there are too many "roles" to fill and people feel "disconnected" from their work. Its a hard concept to grasp, but it applies to your question.
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>>18057461
Read Das Kapital as well. Alienation is real. Exploitation is real. The 'reserve army of labor' is real. The ability for governments to avoid the risk of economically-instigated political revolutions by becoming socialist instead is real and has largely happened in most of the developed world. Read Vonnegut's Player Piano also.
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