Im in my mid twenties and never had a boyfriend. So I want

>>18048408
find corey wayne on google and learn.

>No mentioning "try approaching men for dates"
Bait thread.

>>18048416
Well thats something I already do, but I need to fix myself so that they say yes

And no I dont have hugh standards I ask unnatractive guys out, but they all want a pretty girl regardless of how attractive they are themselves

I think not being fat is enough. No need for the rest.

>>18048408
Gaining self-confidence and increasing independent interests will make you desirable much more than anything you've described.

You're missing the big picture on what you as an individual has to offer.

>>18048463
No its not enough even whe I was skinny I didnt get dates, and Ive only been fat for the past 2 years

>>18048408
Post a pic so we can see what we are working with here.

>>18048457
No its not enough even whe I was skinny I didnt get dates, and Ive only been fat for the past 2 years

>>18048463
I already have a lot of independent interests but not much self confidence

But how can I be confident when Im literally unwanted trash

>>18048465
What weight are you?

>>18048472
By getting rid of that kind of attitude. If you can't love yourself then how do you expect someone else to love you?

>>18048474
180lbs, I used to be 130lbs and still unwanted

>>18048475
Plenty of girls who don't love themselves have boyfriends

And what reason do I have to love myself anyway? Theres no reason for me to feel confident

>>18048478
>Plenty of girls who don't love themselves have boyfriends

Spoiler alert: most of them are not in healthy realtionships

Loving yourself is SUPERBLY imperative before you love another. How can you love someone else if you can't love yourself?

Straight up, if you can't be comfortable living with yourself, then why would someone else feel that way?

>>18048477
I don't believe you are fat if you 180 lbs.

>>18048478

They must like themselves enough to get a boyfriend at least same goes for guys.

In my opinion you are going about this wrong. Instead of trying to focus on making yourself more attractive you should focus more on your conversation skills. Instead of going to social events with random people try to get to know some people. You want to find someone that is attracted to your personality and you to theirs.

-makeup is not important
-do lose weight
-you don't necessarily need to straighten your hair. If its frizzy or curly its fine. Just take care of it.
-taking comedy might make your conversation sound forced. Instead learn some interesting topics
-don't need tight clothes. Wear whatever you like as long as its not some ratty stain covered thing
-unless your nose is really disfigured it is probably fine
-go somewhere that you will see the same people repeatedly and get to know them

>>18048481
Sh e never said how tall she is. She could be as wide as high.

>>18048482
I can already get to know people and make friends, but no one is ever interested in me romantically

If the only thing I need to do for my appearance is lose weight then why didnt I have a boyfriend when I was skinny?

I give up :(

>>18048408
Beyond basic looking-good, I wouldn't obsess too much over nose jobs, tight clothes, etc. In your age bracket guys are finally mature enough (as they weren't as teens) to be more interested in the person inside the package than in the external package. Commit yourself to being bright, intelligent, interesting, interested, fun, warm and generally the best personality you can be.

>>18048486
She would have to be a midget if she is 180lbs and 'fat'.

>>18048480
Ive loved other people, they just didnt love me back

What is there to love about me anyway? I don't know how to have self confidence when theres nothing to be confident in

>>18048492
>>18048488

You aren't getting a bf with that attitude girl.

>>18048490
Im 5'6.

I really really reallly really wish I could have a boyfriend

>>18048495
So explain to me ehat attitude to have and how to change my current attitude

>>18048492
>What is there to love about me anyway?

If you can't answer that question then no one else will be able to, boyfriends specifically, which is precisely the problem. If you have nothing to offer, as you state (which i in now way believe, as i bet you have more than you realize to offer), then you have a problem. See a therapist, regardless of the reason.

>>18048499
>So explain to me ehat attitude to have and how to change my current attitude

See a legitimate professional therapist and stop expecting 4chan to be any better than the shit that is webmd.

>>18048496
>5'6

Midget confirmed. You need to get a fat ass and lose the fat on your upper body then attract a mate on the plains of the savannah.

>>18048499
Grill you need therapy.

I want a pic. I'm sure you're not as bad as you sound and regardless of the reactions, it will begin to boost your confidence.

>>18048510
This

>>18048507
Lol I didnt attract anyone when I was skinny either

>>18048510
The last time I posted my face on 4chan it got posted on reddit with 200 comments about how ugly I was

>>18048505
I already have a therapist

>>18048514
Pic now. You need to provide evidence otherwise you are just attention whoring.

>>18048517
Why do you lie? Link it then.

You need to read a self help book or see a therapist OP. Fix your self image. Getting a boyfriend isn't going to make you like yourself and as long as you keep up the self loathing it wouldn't last.

>>18048507
5'6" is actually above average for a woman, the American average is like 5'4" and I know its even smaller in parts of the EU. Not really sure where you're getting the midget angle. 180 lb is substantially overweight for any realistic height anyways.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/search.html?gender=female&height=168&age=any&weight=82&pantSize=any&shirtSize=any&bodytype=

Play with the height if you want, it's not exactly a good look.

>>18048520
Why on earth would I link it, its so embarrassing

>>18048521
But it will help her get the stinky D.

>>18048521
I already have a therapist

>>18048523
That is exactly what a womanlet would say or a manlet

>>18048525
Liar. You can't even post a picture of yourself. No one cares and no one knows who the fuck you are. Guess you don't want help just attention.

>>18048529
What? Men are taller than women, a short man is equivalent to a tall woman. She's above average for women, stop being retarded.

>>18048533
Okay manlet.

I know you're gonna completely ignore this, but fuck it.

Lady, this non-stop bitchy attitude is repulsive. It's so self centred and vain. You come across as a really unlikeable person. You act like the world owes you a boyfriend. Guess what princess, it doesn't.

You want someone to be in a relationship with, you gotta offer something. Why would a man wanna be with you? To hear your lovely self focused whining? Get a hobby. Learn something. Be passionate about something. That's what makes for a dateable girl

>>18048545
Oh shit! Truth bomb.

>>18048545
I already have hobbies and passions, but thats never been enough

>>18048559
All you're doing this whole thread is ignoring advice and going "I already did that, "insert something negative here"". If you're this negative around guys, no wonder no one likes you. Why do you even want a boyfriend? Settle for cats.

Tell me abut your hobbies.

>>18048563
I draw and paint and Im really into maths and literature and Im a comedy nerd

None of the people ive met through my hobbies have been interested in more than friendship with me

>>18048468
Let me guess, you're 20-23?

Early 20s is how you know (for the most part) if a girl is going to get her shit together and keep the fat off or become a slob later in life.

>>18048586
I literally said in my opening post that I was mid twenties, did you not read it?

>>18048574
Are you this negative with them too?

>>18048590
Skimmed it.

Get into calorie counting. My fitness pal, etc. If you're not poor, consider getting a fitbit--might help make it a fun game. Even if you don't exercise, just stop eating.

Also, never eat breakfast. It's the worst meal of the day, because it does nothing but make you hungry anyway at lunch time.

>>18048574
I love to draw and paint myself, mostly digitally though.

>None of the people ive met through my hobbies have been interested in more than friendship with me
Did you ask every one of them out?

>>18048408
just need to drop the weight

>>18048596
No, I only asked some of them out. And no one asked me out.

>>18048595
I know how to lose weight

And like I said, even when I was skinny I didnt get any dates so its not enough

>>18048593
No, no one apart from my therapist hears about this stuff

Femanon here; can't really give you advice because Porsche and ponies are my goal

BUT

don't listen to those saying "Nah basic looks are fine". I had a nosejob last year ( had a hawk nose before then), and I swear to God everyone and their fucking mothers tried talking me out of it, telling me that I was fine. After the procedure?

"Oh. You actually look much better now."


tl;dr - Do what you want to do, because YOU want it. Not because of or for anybody else.

>>18048605
How many guys did you ask out? What did you say? What did they respond?

I get that no one asked you out, it's in the first post of this thread, Jesus. Can you stop adding this negative ending to every your reply? Saying the same thing over and over again. Can you look back on your messages and see it for yourself?

>>18048606
Then why don't you?

Why the fuck are you looking for advice if you're going to respond with some nasty ass response?

>>18048611
I havent kept count of the number of guys Ive asked out

Depends, some will say theyre not looking for anything, or that I made them uncomfortable or they will have sex with you but then never speak to you again

>>18048614
Im already losing weight, but like I said its not enough to fix my problem

>>18048619
Get into fashion. That can go a long way. Do you practice general hygiene? Are your clothes ironed? Do you wash your clothes regularly? Are you a slob?

>>18048610
Thanks, Im going to go through with it as sokn as I can afford to

>>18048618
You don't remember? Seriously? I'd remember every girl I'd ask out. Were you asking out so many people? Or you just didn't really care about them when you were asking them out?

So you had sex. I don't know why, but I assumed you didn't, because you said you never had a boyfriend. Well, why do you want a boyfriend so badly anyway?

>>18048628
Ive asked out a lot of guys.

Im really lonely, I need companionship and affection

>>18048633
Are you needy? Selfish? Narcissistic?

Those can make you really unattractive.

>>18048626
Michael Jackson nose incoming.

>>18048633
So you have little to no friends then?

>>18048633
If you're not too ugly, I'll date you.

>>18048661
This girl seems like a fucking cesspool with all sorts of issues, both physically and mentally.

It's no wonder she can't find a boyfriend.

Do you live in NYC OP? If so I'll atleast go out on a date with you to see if there's any connection.

Got a kik/tumblr/steam?

>>18048408
Go outside.

>>18048408
All we give a damn about is if your hips are wider than your stomach. Then you can take anyone of us you want.

So learn how the digestive system works, learn what each fruit and vegetable does to your digestive system. Nothing else matters.

>>18048661
She is NOT going to give you her pussy.

>>18048610
Post before and after

>>18048408
>Im in my mid twenties and never had a boyfriend.


you better act fast because your sexual market value is dropping every year. tick tock tick tock your eggs are drying up.

There's no nice way to say this: It seems that you're really unattractive. Women don't even have to put in that much effort to "get a boyfriend". If you're hygienic, can dress alright and have some semblance of an attractive personality you ought to have come across several guys who would be willing to date you. If that's not the case, it may be time to face the music.

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>>18049131

it might have more to do with her body language being defensive, or her personality being quiet.

a very physically attractive woman can become physically and emotionally unattractive by acting in a defensive way..

anon, stfu..

>>18048408
Literally just walk up and ask a guy or flirt with them. Show them you want it otherwise they will assume you aren't interested.

>>18048408
The real question is do you want a bf or a good, lasting relationship?

Dressing right and acting social will get someone to hang out with you but inner qualities will make actually spending time with someone fun as opposed to just enjoying the idea of being with someone.

Being attracted to the idea of having a bf instead of trying to self improve and form a solid relationship will lead down a very bad road.

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pornhub premium is free on valentines day

tell a stranger, save a life

>>18049208
Porn is Jewish brainwashing, stay away.

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>>18048408
> start wearing makeup all the time
No. I can't speak for all guys, but a woman who wears makeup to the gym or Walmart is trying too hard. Less is more.

> lose 50lbs and lift weights to get toned
This is good, but do it for yourself, not for a penis. Change slowly. Start with diet. Cut out unnecessary carbs - soda, chips, junk food. Your goal should be to maintain a loss of about 1 to 2 pounds per week.

> - get a haircut
Ok but again, do it for yourself. No need to straighten your hair. Trust me, most guys won't even notice.

- take up stand up comedy so I can practice entertaining conversation
The best way to get good at conversation is practice and listening. Get your face out of your fucking cell phone and talk to people.

> wear tight clothes
Not necessary. If you are losing weight, you'll spend too much as you drop sizes. I don't know about all guys, but peasant skirts turn me on.

> get a nose job
NO! Do you want to look like Michael Jackson? Jesus.

> Go out to social events every day
Social events are good. I'd say every 1-2 weeks is better. Get into a habit of running in the park. I love to jog with women. It's a cheap way of meeting women.

> What else can I do?
Meetup.com. It's a list of interest-themed events. To be honest, though, you have a LOT on your plate just adopting a healthier lifestyle. Concentrate on that before you put yourself out there.

In changing a diet, you will slip from time to time. Don't worry about it. Just keep going
Good luck.

>>18048408

thats all you need to do to get a decent man, assuming you are 50 pounds overweight.

>get a nose job

dont do that.

>girl complaining about being single
Yeah, if this isn't bait, go kill yourself. You live life on easy-mode and you managed to fuck that up.

>>18049222
>good citizen, save yourself for marriage so the family law industry can earn its share

I can play this game too.

>start wearing makeup all the time.

NO don't do this. Many guys, myself included don't like makeup. If you're ugly it just makes you look either more ugly or fake as fuck. If you're already anywhere between average to pretty makeup just makes you look so much worse.

>losing weight
Sure, go for it. If you're a fatty then that'll be good for you.

>haircut and straighten your hair
What does your hair look like now currently? It might help if you post a pic, it's hard to give you advice on your physical appeal without one.

>stand up comedy
Sure go for it. As long as you're actually funny and not a cringey "muh vagina" female comedian.

>tight clothes
If you're a fatty don't do this until you've lost weight and become a regular plain old Stacy whore. If you're a qt don't dress like a slut, it'll only make guys see you as a target for sex and not a target for a potential lover.

>nose job
Plastic surgery really? I mean if you have an especially fucked up nose and you can afford it then go for it I guess. Provide a pic of your face at the very least.

>social events
Yeah that's a good idea. Meeting new people is always good.

Like I said I can't help with physical appeal advice much without a pic. Some general advice I'd give is to get a hobby. A real genuine hobby (not just anime and vidya) and try to find someone else who enjoys that hobby. Watch a lot more movies and talk to people about those. Update your taste in music to include new genres. Hope that helped.

>>18049253
And have lots of white educated children, therefore harder to control.

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>>18049249
>>> /pol/
Gtfo with that misogynist shit. The grownups are talking.

>>18048408
>- take up stand up comedy so I can practice entertaining conversation
your main problem is autism

>>18049262
>that picture
>''grownups are talking''
Fuck off.

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>>18049262
>one of those types who think rattling off labels and accusations is a form of philosophy

Tantrums ignored, proceeding with the rest of the discussion.

>>18049249
impressive bait anon

so remind me again why it is that women have to be more cautious dating then men? it has nothing to do with the fact that men are assholes who just use women for sex and leave them as single moms, right?

why am i even replying to bait this retarded, I must be bored

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>>18049298
>Why does <problem> exist?
>is it because <side A> is pure evil and <side B> is an innocent victim?

Something like that.

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>>18049274
>>18049291
>>18049368

>>18049391
Are you officially declaring it as such, or are you trying to "help?"

>>18048490
Are you high lol, 180 is fat for most women. It's considered obese for women height 5'0 to 5'6. Its overweight 5'6 to 5'11. Average height for women in America is around 5'2-5'4.
Bitch would have to be 6 foot before 180 is considered healthy.

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>>18049368

>assuming that greeks, who were gay as fuck, can speak well about women
>trying to generalize socialism to all women
>never met an actual woman outside of the woman-hating bubble you call your mother's apartment


you've exposed yourself as an idiot, and a mysoginistic beta shitlord

kys permavirgin autist, and its very nice to know that you'll be the first in your long line of ancestors to die without sexual reproduction

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>>18049569
>I know about human nature better than thousands of years worth of debating philosophers

But women are voting for communism today too.

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>>18049569
>namecalling
>more namecalling
>original namecalling again
>rinse and repeat

>Why can't you be a DECENT PERSON like ME?

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>>18048408
this might help

>>18048408
> start wearing makeup all the time
do not do this. subtle makeup is fine, but dont go full clown mode
> lose 50lbs and lift weights to get toned
this is your best bet
> get a haircut and straighten my hair every day
pls no, curly hair is hhnnnggg
> take up stand up comedy so I can practice entertaining conversation
this is fine
> wear tight clothes
not necessarily the best idea. long skirt+tightish tanktop pls
> get a nose job
do not, under any circumstances, do this. any form of plastic surgery is extremely unappealing (only exception is if it is to repair damage)
> go out to social events every day until I meet someone who wants me
cant hurt, but could get expensive

Realize that's still a lot of effort, pushing a lot of stress on yourself to reach unrealistic goals. I'd recommend finding a more natural match so you don't break out. Your skin will thank you as you learn to love yourself and find someone who appreciates your messy hair. Getting dolled up is one thing for a night out or something but what you're describing sounds like hell for you and anyone who wants to be with you. Get a hold of the insecurities by treating yourself to healthy vibes, not negative thoughts suggesting you're not good enough the way you are. You are. Stop lying to yourself, piling on products isn't as attractive as confidence. If you use them it should be because you want to enhance your good feelings and celebrate your unique-ness not bury them. The plastic life only lead to more panic attacks if you're not feeling attractive in the mind first.

>>18048408
>I want to try everything

Well then go pick up a robot.

>>18049222
>>>/pol/
don't come back

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>>18049675
Telling the internet to stop giving you something, is the surest way to get more of it.

>>18049675
You gotta be pretty naive if you don't think a) an agenda is being pushed, even if unintentionally, and b) it fucks up with your perception of reality.

>>18048481
180lbs is fat as all fuck for anyone under 5'10", what are you talking about?

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>>18049595

>Yet men commit most of the murders and rapes throughout the world, and that doesn't seem one sided?

>>18049368

>actually trying to whiteknight this hateful kissless moron

why don't the two of you just go fuck off and leave the rest of productive society that doesn't irrationally hate women alone, people who feel the way you do about women are literally the scum of the male gender

>>18049697
How in the ever living flying fuck is an agenda being pushed in PORN!? What.
Well, maybe you're right... Johnny sins paid by mr.clean to make their product more alluring to lonely housewives! The jews want to take our monies! And in porn there are black man with big dicks come to take the job of fucking white chicks from us good white christian folk! Tey tuk er yebs!

>>18049697
My perception of reality still seems a lot better then those delusional christians and far right wingers who oppose porn, thank you very much.

>>18049600
>this might help
yeah, if you are in a relationship with a walking stereotype, half of the stuff on that list are comdedian-tier generalizations

>>18049912
You always know something is right, when the SJW trigglypuffs start complaining about it.

>>18049925
>>>/pol/
>>>/v/
take your pick

>>18048610
>implying it's the shape of your nose
It's the confidence you gained as a result that did it, not the shape of your nose

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>>18048408
You could get a boyfriend any time, but that wouldn't be the kind of boyfriend you so desire.
I don't think that even i or most people in here can measure up to what you desire, and you can't mesure up to what we desire either.

That's why people are lonely.

>>18049721
Fuck off.

>>18048408

It's alright, I'm 27 and have never had a girlfriend. If you're anything like me, which it sounds like you are, then you've likely had more opportunities than you realize. The problem is preemptively rejecting people under the subconscious assumption they've already rejected you.

>>18048423
This is nonsense. Your standards are likely too high. People in general will go for the best option they can get based on their own situation.

This sounds a lot like the guys who come on here bitching about women's standards being too high when they actually have taken 0 initiative to fix their own situation/make themselves a more appealing partner. The logic being if they come up with a laundry list of unobtainable things they have to achieve to land a partner, it is easier to just give up in advance and blame everyone else for their failures.

>>18050113
>guys who come on here bitching about women's standards being too high when they actually have taken 0 initiative to fix their own situation/make themselves a more appealing partner
This triggers me, but it also reaffirms my belief that women do not expect themselves to contribute a measurable iota of effort into dating. "Saddle up trooper you got this" Go fuck yourself.

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>>18050113

>People in general will go for the best option they can get based on their own situation.

That's why singleness is on the rise - it's the best option for a large and growing number of people.

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>>18048408
This may help.

>>18048507
>Midget confirmed.
You've been on 4chan too long, women are all short as hell, 5'6" is pretty average as far as women go, a lot are even shorter.

OP is also fat as hell at that weight/height. I'm 150 6'1" and I've been told THIS is a healthy weight for my height (even though I feel like a fucking skeleton).

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first off this is a shill has to be i call bs.
but do STOP with the make up , i dont want to touch that your so uncomfy.

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>>18050008

seriously though, anon has a point. Maybe if men would stop acting like women have easier lives than men, then we could start to see a little more fairness in the gender plane.

Women:
>Childbirth
>Increased Domestic Responsibilities
>No Orgasms
>Periods
>Higher risk of Cancer
>Higher Medical Costs
>Emotional BS
>Having to Measure to Society's Unfair Beauty Standards
>Being valued for your appearance rather than everything else
>Sexual Harassment
>Objectified
>Increased Fear of Violence and Sexual Violence

...the list goes on