>bf has lost all interest in sex >never initiates anything

>>18037837
he probably found out you've been cheating on him.

>>18037837
Take him on a date and tell him that you NEED the D after it.

Be the "man" of the relationship this time. Fuck gender roles, if you have a bigger sex drive, approach it the same way that a man with a bigger sex drive than his girl does. Make him feel special in the way he appreciates it the most, and then tell him that he could at least reciprocate with a good dicking. He doesn't owes you one though, the same way a girl with low libido doesn't owes the guy that takes her on a date some pussy. Just be clear about your feelings and intentions about it all.

Godspeed

>>18037846

Surely if I was cheating on him, I wouldn't care that he wasn't having sex with me? I have zero interest in anybody else and think he's wonderful.

So no, that's not it.

>>18037853

I do this all the time, I'm definitely the one who takes control in the relationship, arranges nice and romantic things, and I'm not too shy to tell him what I want in the bedroom. We've spoken about it several times, he says he just feels "off" but it's becoming so regular now that it's the norm.

I don't want to end up with a dead bedroom situation.

tell him to cut off the porn and masturbation.

I see... When someone loses sex drive like that, it usually means he is having some psichological trouble. Maybe he is stressed, maybe he is just filled up with his chores and work. Who knows...

But there are ways you can light it up. Relieving his stress and giving him a new day seems to be the way. What I mean is to take him our for dinner to somewhere you've never been. Wear a dress you never wore, sexy dress obviously. Things like that.

You could take him to a place to dance those happy latin music or medieval/celtic music. That way you'll raise his mood.

The next step is being a bit slutty. While you dance, make slutty faces and touch him sexually (not necessarily his dick). Watch his reactions. He might smile and so on, if he do give you a positive reaction to that approach, you more a step forward, like start saying slutty things to him "You look so hot dancing... I'm getting wet". Make out like crazy... You know, beggining of the relationship kind of things, renewal.

>>18037864

Do you think that's the issue? We live together and I can't think of a time other than perhaps first thing in the morning when he'd actually have the opportunity to. This did cross my mind though, after reading similar things on 4chan. Obviously there's nothing wrong with masturbating but if it's causing issues in our relationship then maybe I need to bring it up.

>>18037870

I've tried everything, honestly. This isn't some kind of tired or boring relationship and he has nothing to be stressed about.

I know that sounds quite indifferent or rude but it's how it is. We have a great life, he has a great life, better than it has ever been. I make an effort to dress up for him, to do what he wants, do lovely thoughtful things for him and generally enhance our life together. Although I agree it's probably psychological and really appreciate your input, I can't see this working as much of it is already there.

>>18037872
It's mainly porn.

>>18037891

Definitely a possibility but we're pretty open about masturbation and he said he doesn't very often, which makes sense.

I'll mention it though.

>>18037890
No worries, I'm here to help.

There doesn't really have to be a reason to be stressed out or feeling down inside. Depression is basically that (i'm not saying he is depressed, just making my point here).

The guys saying it's porn, yea, it could be.

Another way you could go is talking to him during the day. Lunch or whatever.
It seems you have a pretty healthy relationship, so tell him openly what you feel. Ask him what buttoms you should push. His input will probably be the best one.

>>18037897

Thank you :) I truly appreciate the response.

I have tried discussing it though, several times. Nothing seems to provoke any kind of reaction other than "I just feel off, I'll be better soon" or just general avoidance. I'm repeating myself, it's putting more pressure on him and it's starting to make me feel awful.

I can feel the relationship breaking down. Intimacy is a huge thing for me, something I never really felt prior to meeting him, which I've explained. It doesn't seem to be improving though and if it is a depression thing, there's nothing I can do to influence it either way.

>>18037920
The important is to do your part, girl/boy. Do all you think you can to help him out, to make the pillars of that relationship rock solid again.

If it doesn't work, you gotta keep in mind you did all you could. It will be sad, probably, but still, you did your part... You can't do his, after all.

Giving him time might be what you have to do now, per say, but it's of no certainty it will work.

And there's the third option: Couple Counseling. Not sure if that's the english word for it, but it's like a psychologist for couples.

>>18037837
Just pull out his cock one night and suck him dry like the little dirty whore you know you are. Then spit on his junk and shove it up your pooper and shout "Tear me up daddy"! Let him fuck you sore and bust in your a-hole till cream and jizz mix into truffle butter then proceed to eat that sex cream.

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Be honest now, OP. You got fyat, didn't you?

>>18037855
The he's cheating on you or you got fat

>>18038024

No, the opposite in fact. I go to the gym, I eat healthily (better than he does in fact). If I have changed physically, I've only improved.

Sounds like he has a low sex drive to begin with, that was upset by the honeymoon period where he felt hornier.

>>18038024
>>18038027
The opposite can happen, where a guy get fatter and feels less sexy himself so he doesn't want a much sex out of self-loathing. But going by the way OP talks about him, that doesn't sound like this is the case.

>>18038043
That's usually the exact reason why men's libido drops. Read this:
http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2008/04/the_sexstarved_wife.html

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>>18038030
Yeah right... Then did he turn gay?

>>18038066

Maybe. Or the low sex drive/initial honeymoon period theory is correct. I hadn't even thought of that.