I want to marry my girlfriend one day, but I want to fuck other

well thisll get some answers , well done

>>18036679
Curiously same situation as me OP except my gf, without me even saying anything, said I could go out and fuck around on the condition I don't date or get emotionally attached. I'm confused by it of course and thought it was some trick for her to be able to do it too but she doesn't have much interest in sex and is incredibly in love with me.

How many partners have you had? How many has your gf had?

You go to another area/state and pay a few whores? I mean that's the only way I can think of getting away with it.

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>>18036686
not baiting, genuinely torn on this
>>18036692
My girlfriend frequently says similar things like "go see an escort all you want just don't kiss her or get emotionally attached!" I figure she's joking so I let it go. She's had 12ish partners, I've had 3 brief stints before her.
>>18036693
The question isn't whether I could get away with it or not. (I absolutely could) The problem is I don't want to cheat or hurt her and I know I couldn't live with the guilt of hiding it.

You could grow up. Either see that fucking other girls is stupid pointless and ridiculous and stay with her or just break up with her and come to regret it.

My friend went through the same thing. Had a perfect girl the whole time but had this unrelenting feeling of wanting to be single and fuck girls. As time went on he became unappreciative and repelled by her then finally broke up with her as a result of treating so badly because of this thought at the back of his mind. Finally, he came to his senses and realized he didn't want to fuck other girls and just wanted to be with her. She had finally moved on at this point and now he's fighting tooth and nail to get her back. A whole needless situation of stress because of immature thoughts and decisions. It's painful to watch.

He constantly reminds me of how "I foresaw everything" and "was right" he keeps telling me about how I told him this would happen even before they broke up. He felt he "needed" to get this out of the way. He really just needed to grow up and think things through. Be smart. Don't do something you'll regret. I'm telling you, he was telling me "there's no way I could see myself with her anymore" and "I literally have no feelings for her". He now sees how wrong he was.

I could go on and on but the main message here is don't do it. Search within yourself for the answer that is I DO NOT NEED TO FUCK ANYONE. You truly don't. It's just your uncontrolled, undisciplined feral instincts that are commanding you to do this. Realize that this is not a need but a purposeless desire. We, by nature, as men, are attracted to the idea of multiple women. But the reality is we do not NEED them to be satisfied. No one does. Your better off with one and only one. Keep her. I hope that helped.

>>18036725
>My girlfriend frequently says similar things like "go see an escort all you want just don't kiss her or get emotionally attached!" I figure she's joking so I let it go. She's had 12ish partners, I've had 3 brief stints before her.
You and me bro, we're the fucking same. She said a main reason is because she's had so many partners and doesn't want me to feel like missing out (which I secretly ahve felt I am but never mentioned) and one day she just brought it up and said go for it. Your gf might be saying it jokingly to gauge your reaction before she does properly give you a green light to do it.

>>18036729
>undisciplined feral instincts
Rather, I should have said primal.

>>18036679
OP if you're not ready, you're not ready. If you feel you still don't know what you want or don't find fulfillment in your relationship then you should date more.

>>18036679
What the f*ck is wrong with you? Kyfs

>Im in a committed relationship with someone I love but I want to fuck other people

I genuinely don't get it. Am I weird?

>>18036791
Nope, I don't get it either. I've seen the "guys have the instinctual need to fuck multiple women" excuse from people who feel this way, but I've never felt that need, and clearly plenty of other guys don't either which is why cheaters are a minority. Either that, or they actually have some semblance of self control.

>>18036679
Is she not satisfying you in bed or something? That's the only reason things like this would make sense to me. If you're getting what you want from her in bed and things are good, why is sticking it in someone else such a priority? You'd pretty much be willing to hurt the person that you supposedly love so that you could feel the exact same sensation on your dick, just from another person. It's asinine.

>>18036814
>>18036811
Okay, SJWs. I didn't cheat on her and I said I don't want to. Simmer down
>>18036749
I don't want to date. I want to fuck.

>>18036829
>Hurr durr if you aren't a degenerate who struggles to control his animalistic urges you're an SJW
Kill yourself. People like you are responsible for the decline of Western civilization

>>18036829
>sjws

what?

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>>18036725
>marrying someone that's had more than 10 dicks other than yours dump their load in her

>>18036833
I think you're being a bit extreme/hostile. Like those people who start wars, speaking of decline of civilization.
>>18036842
My mail order bride was late and they wouldn't refund shipping, so I returned it. Are you saying I made a mistake?

>>18036791
>>18036811
You people give me hope

>>18036879
Why are you making me out to be a bad guy? I can't help how I feel. I want to have sex with lots of girls. I didn't ask to feel this way. And I haven't acted on it. I've never cheated on anyone. I don't plan on it. That's why I CAME here. Jesus, did you even read my post?

>>18036884
Not everything is about you, OP.

You make your choice. That's what life is about. You can pursue your dreams of living abroad, or you can live near your family who you love dearly. You can choose to follow your dreams of being an author, or you can follow in your father's footsteps and take up his company.

Do you want to marry this girl? Do you want to have a relationship with her in the interim? If so, then being with other girls is out of your reach. There are a few cases where polyamorous relationships can work but the healthy ones almost all hinge on introducing it at the start of the relationship. If you bring it up in the future, you are telling her "either you can stay with me and we start having threesomes/you allow me to sleep with other people or we can break up". If polyamory is something you'll want to try, trying it with the girl you are with is not a wise idea.

It might just be that you want to marry one day but aren't ready to settle down yet, in which case that means that at this point in time, and with this girl in particular, maybe you shouldn't get married. Maybe one, two, ten girls from now you'll be ready. But on the flip side, waiting you might miss out on someone really special. Weigh the pros and cons of each decision, and when you've decided what's right for you, make it. And hope you don't regret it because it's certainly not one that's easy to take back.

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>>18036811
Yeah this is totally me. There's passing thoughts of attraction and then there's actually thinking of acting on it. A ton of people just lack the self control or the motivation to not entertain these thoughts and give the excuses of
>hur dur biology man
>but anon I'm polymorphism and love them equally!
>dude like current year n shiet

>>18036879
We'll stop the madness.

>>18036679
Marriage is about monogamy. You should want to be exclusive. When you get married you're saying
>Anonette, you're so important to me that I give up the freedom of being with anyone else in the world just so I can be closer to you.

If you don't feel that then you aren't ready for a marriage.

>>18036679
You're too young to be tied down. Get a threesum

one of those statements is not true and you need to find out which one is it

>>18036692
Yeah why don't you go do that and see how your gf really feels lol bro what women say and what women mean are never the same lol

Make a split personality and then you are not to blame but your other personality is to blame

Do not I repeat do not get married.