My gf talks alot with her best friends boyfriend. They all work

Eh, that doesn't sound terribly worrying to me. Same boat, been cheated on and my gf has a ton of guy friends. She's been up front about the fact that she went out with two of them before, and I get along with them. I trust her.

Note that you're saying that because something happened to YOU, you're worried about HER. You're right that it's a boundary; it's understandable to be leery of your girlfriend and other guys, and she should probably know it's a sore spot from you. But a relationship is about trust. If you think something's really going on, then you get out. And likewise, it might be prudent if you're feeling that trust to tell her that it's something that makes you insecure. Not necessarily to dissuade her from talking to him (that's pretty controlling), but to let her know she should be wary of that for your sake. It might be kind of sensitive for both of you, but it's something you should communicate.

Has she done anything in particular that worried you, other than speaking to him in the first place?

>>18035241

Some people can have friends of the opposite sex.

The only time I'd start to worry is if they hang out outside of work exclusively, (such as going to the movies together and only them two)

>>18035289
She knows it's a sore spot for me. I've told her it's cool they could talk and I told her I just have this insecurity because I've been cheated on before (she's been cheated on before as well) I've told her I'd never had a gf before that had many guy friends or talked with them alot for that matter. She's always been upfront with me so for that reason I trust her. We are both after something serious as well. She's hasn't done anything in particular but one time my gf and I and one of her female coworkers from work hung out she put my gf on blast after we were leaving a movie theatre, she said jokingly that the guy doesn't do his work because he's always talking to his gf or with my gf. She said he'd just disappear and he'd find him talking either with his gf my gf or the two of them. This upset me. My gf knew it would upset me when she heard her say that. After we left we had an argument which we patched up that same night. I think she said something about touch as well. She said he doesn't touch her but she touches him like smacks him. This upset me as well but I didn't tell her. Wish I did. It eats me up sometimes

>>18035308
Well my gf doesn't hangout with him alone. When they hangout it's as a trio. I told her not to ever hangout with any guy friend alone. That it would bother me alot. Though I have read some conversations of them both. One in particular I read today. It's an old conversation they had. Something about him getting clothes and her helping him

>>18035334
>She's been cheated on before as well
I wouldn't worry about it. Typically, people who have been cheated on and know what it feels like to be betrayed in such a way do not cheat. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it's probably unlikely that she'd cheat on you after having been cheated on herself in the past.