so this is a bit of a social question. socializing. in b4 you're

You gotta accept that people are fickle and sometimes uncaring. Your friend simply seems easily distracted. I would not confront them this makes you out to be as very sensitive.

Also you're only 'used' as much as you let people use you. At those events who says you have to hang out with those people. If the person who invited you slips away and socializes elsewhere simply do so yourself. Since they are not explicitly telling you to babysit their guests you have no obligation to do so. You're actually free to do whatever you want.

>>18030951
Well it does seem pretty shitty that she's basically taking advantage of you. It is pretty nice though that she would reach out to you to hang out with her boyfriend. That's great.
I also just want to note the following:
- She has no obligation to hang out with you/entertain you. She just invited you to hang out with them at the bar/club. What if she knows that the music they play is your favorite?
- Are you having a good time? If so, then there's no problem. You go out to have a good time, and had a good time.

Now if you hate the bar/club and only go because she asks you to go, then you're an idiot.

Bottomline: If you're having a good time, there's no problem. If you don't enjoy the time out, then the problem lies with you.
>hey can you talk to my date I gotta go do X
>hey can u entertain my bf while i has fun with my female friends
You already know why she's asking you to hang out with her. So it's all up to you.

>>18030951
Nah, you're none of that shit. You honestly seem like an alright dude. What you want to be sure of though is that you're not a friend of convenience and that these people actually want to be your friend.

Think of it this way. If these people wouldn't talk to you on any other occasion even if you go out of your way to talk to them, they're not really your "friends". More like acquaintances at best. That's being used. If I'm invited to go somewhere, I'd want it to be because someone enjoys my company and because I enjoy theirs, not so they can throw me at someone else to "keep them in check". I wouldn't consider it TOO much of an issue though if I'm actually having fun, like, if I like spending time with that person's bf. We as guys are pretty good at that honestly; just sitting around and bullshitting and probably not even talking that much and still having fun. This is all partially your interpretation, as to how bad this is for you in terms of maintaining relationships with these friends.

>>18030980
>>18030977

thanks for the responses and honest answers.

I do think the way you guys are. it just feels at times I'm this ends to a means. just feels off or odd.

>>18030977
>Your friend simply seems easily distracted.
it sometimes just feels like sneaky shit girls do

>>18030980
>If you're having a good time, there's no problem. If you don't enjoy the time out, then the problem lies with you

yeah this is good point. I can usually have a good times where ever I go.

it at times just feels like lip service to a friend. sure friends can help friends etc.

tl;dr

I just would rather I was filled in on their plans a bit more. It feels sneaky. or like their is something they aren't telling me.

and perhaps they don't know it themselves to speak more honestly. and I can admit it can be hard at times.

just feels like shit sometimes.

>>18030990
>What you want to be sure of though is that you're not a friend of convenience and that these people actually want to be your friend.


this is my major gripe with this shit.

feels as though I'm just a prop in a social game

>>18031008
I understand that. I deal with the same thing with some of the ones I consider my closer friends on an near daily basis, although for other reasons.

Listen, regardless of whether or not you're being used, you're being given an opportunity to make a connection with people. I'd at the very least take advantage of it. The reason I see opportunity as a theme is because I don't think these people are trying to put you into a situation they know is uncomfortable for you, mainly because they've taken you to fun places, bars, etc, and you've been able to talk with friends, like that girl's bf. You MAY very well be being used, but in such a way as to not ruin what relationships you do have with them, I'd take advantage of the potential they have.