How do I learn to be more alpha? I've tried to mentalize

you should do what "alphas" do : have a purpose to your life and work towards it, socialize a lot, improve yourself, exercise, etc

>>18024054
how do I overcome anxiety?

Audio hypnosis will not work, I can guarantee you that.

>alpha
>auto-hypnosis

you're talking bloody nonsense

>>18024059
Do you masturbate a lot? I've heard some guys have gone 9 months without masturbating and saw amazing results.

>>18024063
>>18024064
hypnosis is used clinically newfags.

>>18024065
I'm on nofap.

>>18024067
>hypnosis is used clinically
so?

>newfags
2007
not sure what that has to do with hypnosis

>I'm on nofap
more bloody nonsense

let me help you out a bit

>I want to be more alpha
what you're trying to say is that you want to be more assertive, calm, confident, and happy?

>I'm thinking about some audio-hypnosis, auto-hypnosis, whatever
what you're saying is that you want to find focus and a level of inner peace, like a calm lake instead of a rapid

>I'm on nofap
what you're saying is that you're sick of masturbation and want to have a healthy sex life

>>18024067
Go on then. Try this magical wonder method that will make you an alpha overnight. I'm sure it will work.

>>18024059

expose yourself to your fears until you're not afraid of them anymore

>>18024078
>>18024079
I've done some self steem hypnosis and can tell you it works.

>>18024080
I simply want to overcome social anxiety.

>>18024082
Dude, just listen to some anti-social anxiety audio hypnosis.

>>18024088
I guess I could try it.

>>18024082
well we're trying to help you and you're just arguing with us as if you have all of the answers, then I made a long post and you didn't respond to any of its content

>>18024094
I've told you.

I'm trying to mentalize myself as more dominant socially but then I feel anxiety overcoming me.

>>18024097
you have to put your thoughts in order. then facing your fears will be possible, and confidence will grow from that. you won't be here talking about alpha or hypnosis or social anxiety. you'll be out doing the things you want to do. right now your thoughts are too scrambled and fearful to accomplish that.

>>18024107
yeah, I guess so.

I need to overcome my social anxiety.

>>18024113
>yeah I guess so
what I said was really simple and irrefutable

>I need to overcome my social anxiety
that's what I just wrote about

are you trolling?

>>18024116
I know, I'm trying to agree dumbass.

>>18024122
people are going to rush you into having all of these tremendous realizations. "just be more nihilistic. just put it up to god. realize that people are more focused on themselves than you. you're your own worst critic!"

this stuff isn't going to work. what you have is classifiable as a mental disorder, which is a thought-problem, not necessarily a disease.

you need to chill out the thoughts and make an actionable plan to overcome the anxiety. meditation/hypnosis and less masturbation can be positive things, but they aren't direct or specific enough to solve your problem. in fact, I think they're irrelevant to solving your problem.

>>18024135
>>18024122
so you need to find the insight to look at the problem itself, and you need to confront it head on.

a lot of problems with social anxiety stem from
>I don't think a pretty person will ever want to have sex with me
>I don't think that I can ever come off as confident and cool in public
>I don't think that anyone will ever like me

the only way to solve these concerns is to tackle them head on. I can sit around and wonder, "Will I ever make any money?" but that is not at all productive and won't solve my problem. I need to go out and try to make money, in spite of my anxieties about. I could read a bunch of self-help books, but a lot of that market is an ineffective feelgood scam.

Controvertial advice here. Worked for me.

Go into a bar ages away from where you live and make it your mission to piss off as many people as possible by being super cocky, loud and stupid.

When you leave you'll realise no matter how much you fuck every social situation up it doesn't matter and you can always go somewhere else. Repeat until your heart doesn't go into your throat when you are about to walk in.

First it's about acting despite anxiety, next it's about experiencing it till you get desensitised.

Now my heartbeat doesn't even increase when I'm about to have a conversation with a completely random group of people because i have proven to myself over and over that no social situations matter no matter how anxious you feel at the time.

Yes it will be hard as fuck, but so is everything that actually works.

>>18024154
I don't know about the bar thing specifically, but this in general is exactly how to overcome the anxiety

>>18024154
>>18024157
or being an asshole, but in a general sense I agree with this a lot

>>18024161
Being an asshole is important the first few times because you are proving no matter how much you fuck it up you will be 100% fine. I don't mean hurt people's feelings. You can go in there and just do an autistic screech or go up to people and be real creepy. Asshole thing works because one time you fill come across a group who will just find it funny/confident and have to get to know you but you need at least 3 disasters before you actually try to make friends with it.

Hello, i see that you are on nofap OP, i monitor /adv/ almost everyday only to remind people with posts and threads that nofap is bullshit that will probably get you erectile dysfunction.
Unless you are masturbating like 10 times a day, Nofap is bullshit. Masturbating like once a day is completely normal for a healthy young man.

NoPorn is what you should be doing instead. Try to cut porn from your life or watch it rarely to masturbate.
But don't do nofap it is pure bro-science and will fuck your sexual health up if you keep it longterm.

No need to thank me, goodbye.

>>18024169
oh yeah. I used shameless humor and being overly flirtatious. It paid off okay.

I wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings or have someone try to kick my ass.

Sorry mate you got killed by a meme

>>18024178
It actually helped me a lot to get a smack in the face the second time I did this. We see it as a worst case scenario but I was actually pretty much entirely fine afterwards. The experiences are important. The more you fuck your night up, the more you'll realise it doesn't matter.

>>18024185
are you from the US?

>>18024097

You don't solve your problems with thoughts, you solve them with action.
If you're afraid of social situations, expose yourself to social situations until it becomes familiar and comfortable. You're not going to think yourself out of your fears.

>>18024187
No, but the first one of these I did on a trip to the US.

I thought getting away would stop the anxiety but it didn't. I was stuck in my hotel room too nervous to go to the shops. I had like a weird breakdown and realised how pathetic my life would be if i kept it up, so I did the typical: 'decide to kill yourself but have some crazy experiences beforehand and learn from them so you don't kill yourself' thing. So i did this. It was obviously horrible. Got yelled at, laughed at, glasses thrown at me and roughly thrown out by the bouncer with a twisted arm. I was super spiteful to all these people with a good social life and noticed the chads got madder the more I smiled so I kept smiling even as I am carried out in pain. As I'm leaving i hear some old blokes saying something about 'at least the fool has spirit' or something and realised confidence is admirable even if everyone hates everything about you and that I will experience no real consequences from this.

A few hrs later I went to the shops and got the snacks etc I wanted beforehand. When i went to the cashier (before self serve checkouts) i realised I had zero anxiety talking to them. I lied and said I had a wonderful night out drinking, but did small talk without stuttering because i genuinely didn't give a fuck. The next day I still had anxiety, but after a few times experiencing shock like that you get desensitised.

>>18024207
god that's so crazy. what an awesome story.

>>18024214
Yeah pretty nuts and edgy. Real weird to look back on because I am a full on normie right now lol.

>>18024220
Just goes to show you none of your actions matter. Take note, OP.