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Hey /adv/ I have a question for yah. Im 23 and about a month ago I lost my virginity. Im not experienced in bed but im already having issues with my erections. Im having lots of trouble staying hard. I can be making out and cuddling and will have a boner, but when I put on my condom and am ready for sex I go soft. Due to these issues is why my ex broke up with me I think. Ive taken a huge hit to my self esteem and its emasculating. Tonight I got in bed with a woman ive been dating for a couple of weeks and I had the same problem. Cuddling, kissing, getting hard, but as soon as its time for sex, flat. This woman was very understanding and told me not to be sad or say sorry but I still dont understand wtf is wrong with me. I can get a boner and stay hard when masterbating, but sex I just lose it. Im sure someone has had this issue before but Ill ask anyways. How can I fix this issue?
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My man this is rough and I had it for over a year. You can overcome. Google sexual performance anxiety.
Solutions:
>stop thinking about past and future while fucking. You are surely worrying about staying hard, which isn't a sexy thought, which makes you soft. Instead try to immerse yourself in your senses. How does her body feel? Smell? Look? Sound?
>definitely definitely get viagra and fuck it away. Go to your doctor and tell them everything and say people online recommend using viagra or cialis to fuck away the anxiety. Only after i did this recently am i fully cured. Just take 1/4 of a pill and you will definitely stay hard no matter how much you frit about it. Now I don't even need it. Dont tell the girl.
>quit porn. Porn makes your dick softer google porn induced erectile dysfunction. Hard but worth it.
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>>18023106
Also stop masturbating.
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>>18023148
You don't have to. If you quit porn you will find you fap 1/5 as often and getting used to using imagination to turn yourself on is useful in the bedroom because you think about what you want to do to her instead of porn which you just passively observe like a cuck.
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>>18023134
Its easier said than done though man. Simply not thinking about it is difficult for me. When it comes time for sex, I think "ok dont think about your boner" yet thats thinking about it. It spirals downward. I really wish I could use something like cialis or viagra but im in the military and dont have access. You overcame your problem with pills or your mindset mostly?
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>>18023195
Noticed you didn't address noporn. Don't even se it as an option because so addicted lol.
The mindset thing didn't work at all. I did noporn and viagra at the same time. Viagra was 100% necessary at the start and you need to get it through military doctors or elsewhere, but noporn is necessary for long term diamond dick IME. Try them both and they will work. Use focusing on present moment and senses thing but ithers are most important and helpful.
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my ex had this and it was all due to him being uncut. it hurt him whenever he put on a condom because of the skin pushing back, and it'd go soft.
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