New boyfriend and me have a pretty heated sex life, but I have

Erectile dysfunction. If he is young it's because he faps to too much hardcore porn. I had the same thing and my gf took is the same way. Which caused performance anxiety, making it a recurring problem.

Don't make a big deal about it but google porn induced ED and convince him to stop. Will also make intimacy more pleasurable for him because hormones.

Fapped to porn for the first time in over a month. Best month of my life and fucked my gf raw. Going to do another month and fuck her real good as soon as she wakes up. Can't wait. I was never like this when I had a daily hardcore porn habit. She just pushed me away because she's sleepy AF. I would have fapped to porn and forgotten about it. Now I am hormy as fuck and will dominate her thoroughly desu..going to make her my pretty little princess full of cum desu. Why the fuck am i saying desu? Desu

>>18023112

How do you know if it's porn induced? He said he used to fap a LOT when he was younger but now at twenty he doesn't do it every single day anymore

>>18023118
I don't. But it's most common. Could be medical shit but probs not.

Ask what porn he is into. Say you want to watch it with him. Say you don't care how hardcore it is. After you see how hardcore it is ask if he's heard of porn induced ed. Don't make a big deal about it just like btw this is breaking ur dick m8 lol.

>>18023118
You will know for sure after 1-2 weeks of noporn and he has throbbing erections and can't keep his hands off you.

If not he is cheating on noporn or has a medical condition.

I think his brain needs rest from porn and sexual stimulus to reset itself, even if he's not looking at porn as much.

After that if i were him id heavily cut down on porn to like, once a week at most

How can I be sure it isn't me? Like, me not being attractive enough. I've made him cum plenty of times and he's pounced on me plenty of times and seems really into me, it's just his dick always seems to need encouragement bar sometimes being able to be fully hard already.

>>18023251
Ask him. Say you'll try anything he likes. I would have dreamed of that even though porn was ny problem that would have worked. It's nobody's fault: just that porn is more hardcore than you act. You can either do more hardcore shit for him or get him to quit porn. Ideally both.

So let me tell you about guys like this, as a girl who's last relationship of 10 years was with a guy who had problems getting it up / keeping it hard.

Me and Guy were 16 when we got together. That is way too fucking young to have erectile problems, but there it was. His stems from massive anxiety. He didn't watch porn too much (though occasionally over ten years did have stints where he did) and still simply had problems because, hey, his social anxiety outside of sex was so bad he barely spoke to people so why should I have thought he'd take me to pound town when alone with the heat on?

After ten years, it doesn't get better unless he overcomes the anxiety/psychological issue or figures out of it's a health issue that he needs medication for. Luckily, my ex wasn't physically unhealthy, but it was a psychological issue he didn't want to work on. Our sex life was awful.

It got to be so bad we'd occasionally go five to eight months without touching each other. Sexless marriage status.

If your guy's still having problems in a year, just bail. Let him get his shit together first then come see you, because it really does start to build resentment and make you feel like shit about yourself.

He's a sweet guy, love him, we're still great friends, but nobody should ever settle for a sexless relationship. It *will* make you guys fight and it *will* make you eventually hate each other.

Tbh, I say run while you still can, before you get attached by love and stay for ten years.

>>18023326
Sounds like me but I was only one year. He was probably still fapping to porn on the toilet. Should have just used viagra.

>>18023093
My boyfriend won't stay hard without physical stimulation either. He will get a boner but it won't reach full capacity without me.

It's worse when he is physically tired (understandable).

I don't take it personally because bf always talks about how sexy I am. He also faps to me and tells me so that turns me on too.

I have noticed that when I play into his fantasies a lot more, he does get harder with less physical stimulation. His fantasies are generally a lot more "like porn" in the sense that he wants me to be submissive and pleasing and cock worshipy. But I mean, we both enjoy porn and I like being really sub too, so it was never an issue.


I think anxiety did play a big part in it. Bf seemed ashamed of his fantasies in the beginning. We had sex a lot, but he always acted very vanilla. Took a while to get it out of him. I also learned he had a very catholic upbringing which masturbation and porn was very frowned upon. So I think he grew up thinking it was something women didn't want and should be hidden.

>>18023355
My gf used to be like this but then got a career and seems to be too strong and independent. I love that in a companion but wish she would just worship my cock and bend over for me like her body is my toy to use.

So how does one know if it's ED or just that they themselves are a turn off?

>>18023444
You won't know unless you ask and they answer honestly. Even if you make yourself super sexy and fulfil ther fantasies, making them hard, the problem could have still been being desensitised by porn or performance anxiety.

Although, if you are mega sexy fulfilling all their fantasies and they still don't get hard you know it's performance anxiety.

>>18023093
Does he exercise? Definitely could be a circulatory system thing.

>>18023455

I have asked and he tells me to him I'm incredibly sexy and I turn him on and he loves masturbating to my photos too, should I then take that as a cue that it's not personal and it is just to do with him?

>>18023093

Performance anxiety and possibly oversexed. He needs to lay off the porn a bit, and possibly needs more foreplay.

>>18023465
Pretty much guarantees that you're fine.