Is there a way to overcome "logic" and become "irrationally" confident, without being a douche? Os is being a douche a part of it? My friend is really cocky, but as his friend i know it's becuase he does have a lot of insecurities, but he claims to get a lot of girls. I've tried to act like him, but i feel like an asshole, and I can't get passed the "logical" side of my brain that makes it unable to act like i'm good at something i know i'm not good at.
I became much more aggressive and assertive (relative to my passive, self-conscious self before) by being a lot more selfish. I also have higher self esteem.
I found that excessive kindness and politeness actually stemmed from me being insecure and afraid of conflict. I got frustrated with "you go" "no you go" scenarios so I started unapologetically pursuing what I wanted. Fighting the reflex to apologize or overexplain myself (a big one) was huge in helping me be more assertive and "real".
Basically, you're a nerd and you think too much. When Chad tells you to "be yourself" he doesn't mean be a beta fag who holds the door open for someone 20 feet away. He means do what you actually *want* to do, which is let the door shut and get to where you need to go. Shed the fake vacuous "niceness" you're smothered in and find out who you really actually are. Stop dwelling on what "should" be, eat weed brownies and Dr Pepper for dinner. Stay up late if you feel inspired to write or build something, even if you have a test the next day. Don't say "just kidding" when you're teasing a girl. Let that person think you're actually rude. Park in the handicap for your soda run.
Your natural reaction is going to be "but I don't want to be a piece of shit!", but there is a lot of leeway between absolute savage and beta niceguy. You know that, you're just afraid to test the limits of it. I'm giving you permission, go do it.
You'll enjoy life a lot more once you start living honestly.
>>18018976
More Virginfags need to hear this
Just realize that being highly confident is perfectly logical. Confidence increases likelihood of success after all.
>>18018931
You sound like you havnt accepted logic as your core value yet. I feel sorry for you that you have decided not to live in the actual world, but rather only within the fictional bounds you have made for yourself.
>>18018976
> Don't say "just kidding" when you're teasing a girl.
This is so true. Huge turn-off.
Great post dude.
>>18018976
I like this post. I'm gonna give it a shot.
>>18018976
Severely underrated post.