I don't even expect any answers, this is so tangled up I

>>18017995
>>18017995
>So things are pretty bad and relationship is going south along with other stuff
>I visit my family for Christmas and she breaks up with me, telling me she has no feelings towards me anymore
>World collapsing around me as I smile and pretend to be happy with family and friends who are over for Christmas
>Tell her to go fuck herself basically, this is the 7582 time she breaks up with me and I'm truly done (no I'm not)
>Come back to Bumfuck, Smallstate USA to continue work
>She still has the apartment
>I find out she's with someone else, and has been since Christmas and they live together
>ok.jpg I'm gonna kill them both
>Calm myself down
>Tell everyone I know how she faked suicide just so she can find someone else to pay for apt
>All mutual friends get to know what kinda whore she is cause I tell everyone she is a manipulative whore that's only after money in bursts of rage and tears
>Some hate me, some hate her - everyone in Bumfuck knows

>>18018018
>>18017995
Never stick your dick in crazy anymore anon.

It's one of the painful lessons most men learn with at least one woman. The girl that starts of extremely into you, fucks you like they're possessed, something is usually wrong.

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Now her side of the story:
>Always loved me
>Didn't see a future and wanted me to be free even though she still had feelings
>Things couldn't continue the way they were (agreed) so she broke up in that fashion so I don't have to long for her, but rather hate her
>She hasn't moved in with another guy, she was just seeking a rebound and everyone in Bumfuck assumed they will move in together cause this guy just got thrown out of home for being a loser and they happened to flirt at a party
>Still loves me and wants me back and has cried every day for over a month

I still love her, but everyone in Bumfuck will assume I'm retarded or a cuck if I take her back. Not that I care, but we will be ostracized from all our friends that we involved. In addition, I will probably still end up being jealaus for shit and things will come back to being shitty again.

What do? Really do love her, but really do hate her, but I do love her tho. I just don't know what to make of this or how to handle it. Please help.

>>18018042
The good answer is don't get back with her, focus on the bad aspects, she has ways to prove you that she still loves you that don't involve fucking another guy.

But most likely you're gonna drag out this ill-fated, excruciating romance.

>>18018053
What I was thinking was to give it a years time and if she still feels the same, then I'll give it another shot. Not until then, though. I don't know, I was being harsh with her cheating (and damn near provoked the suicide scene, not directly) and couldn't let things go.

She on the other hand gasslighted me about those things whenever I wanted to bring it up again so as to not feel the insecurity of those thoughts arising.

>>18017995
She is a crazy, cheating, emotionally draining, manipulative bitch. Leave her and forget about her and get on with your life. /Thread

>>18018077
My thoughts EXACTLY but she has proven that she loves me by cooking me every single fucking meal (even though I'm a great chef), making me coffee every morning and doing everything for me without me ever asking to prove her love for me. Also helped me out in financial situations. I do owe her a whole lot seen as I haven't been perfect myself, but I don't think I owe her any trust.. This is too weird.

>>18018107
Manipulation perhaps, or vaguely having a conscious. Either way see my previous post.
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>>18018115
Close mutual friends tell me she cried for me all the time while I was away and couldn't stop talking about me for the full duration.

I do agree with you, but still feel like things aren't all that black and white.

Will it be a good idea to give it a lot of time, like 6 months or a year and then see if she still loves me to see if its true? Like, if she was manipulative and heartless, she'd tell me to fuck off after a year of no contact, right?

>>18018123
Having never been in a relationship I'll say this. Do what makes you happy. If it's making you unhappy being with her then you know. Also me again >>18018115

>>18018146
It's appreciated and well under consideration. I felt that way for a while (she's a manipulative psycho) but I only looked at the bad sides.

Idk. I'm here till the thread dies and then some, so all responses are greatly appreciated.

It's hard, man. I get it. but you'll never have what you had again. Even if you both magically get back together. There's too much baggage. Too much resentment.

It sounds like you're building up your relationship with her in your mind (she was perfect, I was lame, etc) when the reality is, no one is guilty of one sided extremes.

You know what you must do. Never talk to her again. Move on. Get happy.

What you'll actually do is probably drag this out longer than both of you deserve. Love is hard. The objective answer isn't the one we want to here.

>>18018156
How I see it is that there are two major negatives in each of us respectively

Me: Unforgiveable as an ISIS muslim cleric. Never let shit go on top of paranoia that I've always had (she pushed it in overdrive)

Her: self-righteous and MIGHT be lying to manipulate me, MIGHT just be dumb and I have to man handle her to keep her in check (It's my kink but not default way of handling things in a relationship)

I'll rub one off and get back to you with a clearer mind.

>>18018123
She migt just be obssed w you. She sound kinda like a girl that likes attention. And shell do or say thing just to get t. Either from you or other guys.
I was w a girl that was like that. She was in a bad relationship,she moved out of her fiances house, and started talking ro me. We clicked and it went pretty good until her fiance turned up at my house tellih how they were still gonna get married. She was playing bth of us and had other guys who she was talking to. She would treat me super nice, cooked for me(im a chef as well), she would buy me stuff. But whenever i told her i was done with the drama that she provoked, she would always know what to say or do to change my mind. Until i stepped up told decided to break all contact w her. She eve told she was pregnant once, came up w a pregnancy test and an ultrasound w her name and everything. It was all fake.
Girls like this are trouble and all tey do is make your life miserable.