i /adv/. Currently I am about to break up with my gf. >I

>>18011549
You need to break up with her for her own sake, I've been that girl and breaking up and having to be on my own was what gave me a reality check. She needs to learn how to deal with things by herself and not rely solely on you, I get you don't want to hurt her but stringing her along to protect her feelings will just enable her.

Break up in real life, it's just the respectable thing to do. Whatever you do don't waver, even if she cries. Staying in a relationship you don't want to be in anymore won't do any good for either of you.

Thanks femanon, I'll just pack my things up for the trip and have this conversation right before I'll leave. I think that would be fine? Still its gonna be tough, and I've been in break up situations few times before, but in this particular case I just feel like shit, since she is really giving me all she's got, but we just don't fit together and I have to end this.

>>18011612
All the best luck to you anon, do the right thing

I wish you the best of luck, in this case I think a conversation is well deserved, but I'd suggest not to go too far with explanations

I've been in a similar situation, wanting to break and the other person wanting us to stay together, and it was very hard

You want to break up for the reasons you explained, if she asks more questions, repeat them
You don't have to justify why you feel a certain way, you don't have to convince her of anything

>>18011625
> not to go too far with explanations
Yea i know that, I'll probably keep this as short and formal as possible, getting into dissucsion at that point is just asking for drama meltdown.
Thanks for the advice anyway.

I just went though something similar, and my advice would be to definitely talk to her. Like, I know you still lover her, even if you're not "in love". Nobody deserves just a note. Either way you do it, it's gonna suck. There will be tears, and you will have to remember that you caused them, but, you have to he's respectful. Talk to her, and be honest. You just have to tell her "I'm sorry. I'm not in love anymore". Don't think of any bullshit way to put it like "I need some time to find myself", just tell her. It's better for her. But dont let it lead into a huge discussion, or you're gonna cave, and end up saying something stupid. Just tell her the truth, only the truth, and then leave. I know that she adores you, but if you're not the person who that love is meant for, tell her and let her find the person that it is. Good luck, dude. Remember, you're breaking her heart, but you can't help just not having those feelings. It's for the best.

Just fucking dump her

>>18011625
>I'd suggest not to go too far with explanations
Doubling down on that one. If you explain why the relationship is dead, they think they can argue with you to change your mind.

"It's over" is absolute, there is no arguing otherwise.