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There's a girl at work that I have an enormous crush on. I think about her multiple times just about everyday. I've never been in a relationship and I've never confessed to a girl before so I'm very socially retarded with respect to dating.
But I decided that I don't want to let her leave without at least trying on her; I need to at least let her know how I feel. The problem is I'm not sure how to confess properly especially under these circumstances.
In addition to being dumb about these things I also don't tend to see her as often anymore. Our schedules don't overlap as much anymore so it's difficult to get in a one on one conversation, speak with her in the break room or ask if she wants to have lunch somewhere. The only sure way I have to communicate in this stage is her work mailbox; I don't know how best to ask for her number.
She catches me with a hello first most of the time. One time she walked by and waited looking at me as I was communicating with someone else until I was free to say hello to her.
She also tends to laugh when we talk. I don't know if she's started to do it more often or if I've just been noticing it but she laughs at things I do or say that I find dumb or even awkward.
I don't know if she has a boyfriend. I tried to get some information from her but she has always mentioned doing things with her family; on Christmas, her birthday, hanging out on the weekend, she never mentioned doing anything with a boyfriend.
I'd like to get her to know how I feel before Valentine's so maybe we can do something that day, if anything happens between us.
But my basic problem is I don't know how to proceed from here.
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>>18009548
1) Confessing is never a good idea. Asking a woman out makes it pretty obvious that you like her.
2) If you see each other in person, asking her out by e-mail or text is not gonna roll. Bad idea.
3) This is not that impressive:
>She catches me with a hello first most of the time. One time she walked by and waited looking at me as I was communicating with someone else until I was free to say hello to her.
>She also tends to laugh when we talk. I don't know if she's started to do it more often or if I've just been noticing it but she laughs at things I do or say that I find dumb or even awkward.
She probably is just nice, that's all.
Finally: Ask her out in person. Don't be surprised if she says "no". But hey, maybe she says "yes". Good luck.
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Don't get involved romantically or even casually with coworkers.
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>>18009621
Fair enough. I don't necessarily think those bits you quoted mean anything more than her just being friendly; I wanted to note them because it helped provide context. I hardly consider them impressive when I've never dated a woman before.
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Getting romantic with coworkers is never a good idea. 10 times out of 10 , things will get super weird. Chances are it won't work out. There are so many other options out there for you. Why jeopardize your job?
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>>18009548
this week this girl at work tried to come at me romantically. i ignored her at best and worst i was a dick about it. fuck her, im not there to make friends im there to work and make money.
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