Is it possible to really relax and not think about sex too much

>>18005610
It's certainly possible

>social pressure
Who even cares

>biological pressure
Just fap. Or work towards getting a girl to fuck you if you really want it that bad.


Stop caring what other people think, they don't matter. Just do what you need to do for yourself to feel good in life.

>>18005616
I feel like getting laid would make me feel good

So then I wouldn't have to feel like I'm completely undesirable to almost every woman I meet

I'm in the same boat man, i am so I secure I can't move forward even when a girl shows some interest. And i feel the social judgement now. As in "omg you are 25 and still a virgin. Plus I'm full neet now dropped out of college and live at home with parents. I would really like to have sex with someone but I just keep walking in the same circle that I've been walking for years. Fucking e erything up in my life cause I'm scared of some massively negative thing happening and feeling worthless all them. Which translates to no qualifications and a virgin at 25.

28 year old kissless virgin here.

I hardly ever think about sex. Instead I think of having a relationship. I think about walking arm in arm in the snow, and making her favorite meal for dinner and surprise picnics and cuddling up under a blanket while we watch a movie and sip hot chocolate.

Don't get me wrong, the sex would be great but it is pretty low on my priorities.

>>18005720
Yea man, I fantasise about meeting a grill a contacting and going on a long walk and losing track of time. I do this almost everyday. I wanna take steps to Help myself and I plan things out but the follow through is never there. And I'm stuck fantasising. It doesn't make me sad just frustrates me actually it does make me sad and I cry and wonder how many others are able to live in a self assured way.

>>18005629
So either get a hooker or get a gf

Try not to stress about the juxtapositions of social life. Hominids relied on instinct long before they developed reason and started thinking in absolutes. Your own experiences with rejection are more likely to hinder you than tens of thousands of years of evolution.

If I may correct you, OP. "Not good enough" isn't an observation, it's an judgment. Rejection happens, the "game" is about not letting it defeat you. Try switching up your moves, and optimize on what leads to positive results. Continuous rejection will program a fear of rejection, and anything can be reprogrammed so why not something better?

To answer your question, yes it's possible, but even monks who are celibate will occasionally get an erection.

Also man, relax. The internet has more advice than any one person will ever need. It could be that your thinking-head is getting in the way of your penis-head.