My gf and I have been together for a year. We're kinda opposites;

>>17990837

>I think I should leave her
>But I pity her and stay

Don't do this, you're prolonging the both of your own hurt that will be associated to this likely breakup and it will only be worse.

You both realize that in order for the relationship to work, you need to change. If you're considering leaving then you've already taken the first step toward giving up

>>17990889
I'd done it before (without the pity) and it lead to a fruitful relationship for a while, but you're probably right...

Either break up straight away or if you want this person in your life, open up and TALK to her, say to her what you said here.

Women, when faced with a problem they want to talk about it with friends/loved ones, they gather opinions from others then makes their decision on what to do.

Men on the other hand subconsciously want to be alone so that they can calm down and figure out a solution to the problem.

This is the reason why most relationships don't work out, people fail to see the differences in our genders and as it gets continually more taboo to talk about genders and such things, no wonder birth rates are declining, the divorce rate increases, people have trouble talking to the opposite sex, etc. Women nest, men hunt.

Talk to her, ask her if there's something that bothers her, then don't just listen to the answer, try to read her, give her a hug, if you actually want this to work out you can.

Are you my boyfriend?

>>17990837
Honestly sounds very similar to me and my girlfriend in our first year. Scary, actually.

I broke up with mine, regretted it, and got back with her. In all honest my probably is that i get bored, and am also less clingy.

One big fix is to share more. I had some baggage im not gonna share here, but basically my gf heard some things from me i never told anyone else about my chidhood. After that we shared everything, and i really mean everything, including stuff most couples would never share. It really has made us stronger. Being open is a good start always

>>17990837
None of my relationships have lasted more than 5 months in 10+ years of adult dating.

I've been accused any number of time of being someone who "cuts and runs at the first sign of trouble," though I'd attribute my behavior more to being initially drawn to partners who fundamentally have no business being in relationships (e.g. serious substance abuse issues, serial infidelity, etc).

Your girlfriend's issue is the kind of thing that, honestly, I always hoped would be the big hurdle in my relationships; struggling with some basic notions of being in a relationship and shit like that. I could work with what she's got going on. People who perpetually cheat or need drugs to function on the other hand, that kinda stuff isn't worth trying to stick it out through.

I'd say stay. Relationships have tough times. I wouldn't turn my back on someone who loves me, and more importantly, treats me with love if generally we still get along well.