Hey /adv/ I have a big problem with motivation. I have absolutely

>>17989021
you're insane. sorry, some people are born broken.

>>17989047
What am I supposed to do?

I accepted it a long time ago.

>>17989054
suffer.

I can say this because I know this.

>>17989060
It's so fucking depressing.

The worst part is that I pretend to be an enthusiastic and happy guy in my everyday life. I hate it so fucking much. Everyone around me pretends that the world is a wonderful place and I have to do the same or I'll be thrown out.

>>17989021

Why would you expect to figure out who you are by talking and reading or doing drugs? Sure, those things are fun to do on occasion, but hardly challenging. The only way to help personal growth is to push personal limits and get out if your comfort zone. If you sit on your ass and wonder why nothing is changing, you'll get absolute nowhere, no matter how many damn years you waste doing that. Just do something. Ski to the north pole or something, anything to shake you off the apathy.

seems like your mother is emotionally immature and failed to raise a good kid

>>17989080
I've been trying to explore myself.

>get out of your comfort zone

Doing anything other than just going to work and texting the same five people is getting out of my comfort zone and it doesn't fucking work. Everytime I try it just ensures me that it's tiring and not worth it.

>>17989089
Not really, I'm lying to my family too. I've been having problems like these since I was 15-16 and never told my parents, always pretended to be like my younger brothers.

I wouldn't really blame my parents for who I am, they managed to raise two other kids who are some of the most enthusiastic and happy people I've ever known.

>>17989089
literally nothing to do with it.
>>17989076
Yeah, I know. Every time I see a group of people out doing something, like a bbq or event... all I can think is "Why?"

What are they feeling that I can't to make such a thing worth all that energy. It just looks exhausting as fuck. I can't even go shopping because all I can think is "a bunch of shit I will never ever use or need because I'm dead inside."

>>17989118
Same. I've been going partying every month for 5 years straight and I have never enjoyed myself. Everytime I tried to change my mindset and approach the situation from a different angle, but it always ended the same - questioned everything, had no fun at all and felt instant regret next morning from fucking some random slut.

>>17989104

If your comfort zone is truly limited to work and five people, it's hardly a wonder you're not interested in anything, feel fuck all in total and have a forgettable personality. I'm curious how you've tried to explore yourself. All the things you listed sounded like you were just living through other people's descriptions of life and questioning why you didn't feel anything about it. Of course you won't feel anything, if those things aren't happening to you.

>>17989127
>If your comfort zone is truly limited to work and five people,
That's literally 5x more people than my "comfort zone" so... Also, I have one of the most memorable personalities you will ever come across. I'm just dead inside still, though.

And clearly, that isn't the problem based on what OP said if you would learn to read first.

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>>17989047
>doesnt know what to do in life
>broken

edgy 2bh

>>17989054
>accepted it
>suffer

boring

you have no character and youre boring and shallow. both of you.

>>17989140
:^)

>>17989127
By "comfort zone" I mean "what I'm used to do on day to day basis".

I have absolutely no problems with doing anything. I'm far from being a shy person. I tried (and succeeded a couple of times) talking to random chicks in the bus/club/literally on the street and getting their number. What I felt after was "fuck yeah, I managed to do that. Now I don't have to ever repeat it in my life". And then I did that again and again hoping that I'll finally start liking it instead of doing it for the sake of doing it.

>>17989140
>you have no character and youre boring and shallow. both of you.

That's exactly my problem, I highly encourage you to re-read my original post, especially this part:
>I don't even feel like I have a personality

Also I accepted the fact that I'm not going to find happiness like everyone else, so I started looking for it. Haven't found it yet and the reason why I'm posting here is that I'm losing hope.

>>17989104
>>17989118
oh, i'm sorry, i assumed you were not close to your mother because its usually the most common cause.

well, since theres not really a lot of info you provided, it can be everything... lack of financial stability, traumatic exp in childhood, or even hormonal problems, hell, maybe your brain doesnt get its needed supply of blood (arteriosclerosis or some other cardio-vascular condition), or you dont eat enough carbs.
desu, fuck you, go see a doc

>>17989021
Not everyone gets to have a meaningful life. There are people like me that are just redundant. Realize that you will not get a perfect life, and accept it. After that you are able to work within the parameters of your limitations to achieve some, if not fulfillment then at least pleasure.

>>17989159

Talking to a girl might have been an accomplishment the first time, but why would you keep doing it if it doesn't interest you? Why not try some new shit to see if you like that? You keep saying average, everyday things bore you and then those are the only things you seem to try. Most people who are passionate and into something specific tried a hundred things before they found something they were into and then a few more to be sure. They don't keep doing the boring everyday shit and hope it miraculously turns interesting.

I was born in middle europe. Had many friends in school, but I've always been moody. Everyone in my family was really close to each other, my parents paid me a lot of attention but tried their hardest to not spoil me and I think they succeeded, because I never really wanted much.

When I was 15 I moved to a different country and had to learn a new language. Soon my sexdrive started dying. My friends spent their days viciously masturbating and hitting on girls while I started getting more and more apathetic with every single day. I went to parties and talked to girls just because that was expected of me and I wanted to be respected by other people.

Soon I started taking drugs because they seemed fun. Everytime I smoked weed or took ecstasy I had a huge identity crisis and had absolutely no idea who I am. I had bad trips with every single drug that allows you to have one.

Now I'm living in a flat on my own. I have a job and enough cash to have a couple of hobbies, but I have none.

>>17989161
>theres not really a lot of info you provided

Now that you mention it, I'm adding some info in this post.

I'll see a doc next week.

>>17989177
How can I accept THIS? I wish I could be happy with what I have. Everyone around me is enjoying themselves with what they have, even if it's not a lot.

How do they do this? Why do they feel so happy about it? Why don't I feel the same?

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>>17989021
Your dishonesty is holding you back. Find people that want to take in the real you and don't be afraid if people turn away from you, they aren't really your friends then. That's why people think you're so boring, you're fake. Grow a fucking spine and get your life on track man or you'll be sad forever. Lying is a sin. I'm not even religious but I avoid lying as if it were a sin because it makes me feel really bad, but for you it seems like you're afraid of the real you. If you're afraid to fall down then you'll never get started on climbing up.

If your want motivation, try new things and find something you love. Go to the library, get some books and learn something instead of lazing around and being useless. Try making electrical circuits, try programming, try making a campfire, try anything and if you have fun then keep going with it.

If you are afraid of failure and afraid of your true self then, you will be forever forgotten as an inambitious, lazy, boring, friendless and depressed loser. Stop making promises and start making commitments, it's your life and if you don't grab it by the balls it will do the same to you.

>>17989212
I mentioned that in the OP.

I have no personality and no desires. I just want happiness and I lie to achieve it. I'm being "myself" right now and if anyone from my social circle saw me they'd think that I'm a loser.

I will never be able to do anything in my life if I'll stop lying.

>Lying is a sin. I'm not even religious but I avoid lying as if it were a sin because it makes me feel really bad, but for you it seems like you're afraid of the real you.

I really don't want to sound edgy, but I feel absolutely zero guilt and everything I ever accomplished is thanks to lying. People like to hear what they want to hear. Making friends or hitting on girls feels like opening a lock, you just have to input the correct combination.

I simply can't live with my true self. I was born with a really ugly inside and I don't even blame myself for it, it's not my fault.

I didn't choose my personality or body.

Thing is... when you watch porn at a young age it kind of demotivates you to actually try and get a girl and they probably don't fit your idea of a good fuck because Porn has probably raised your expectations possibly. Anyways porn is much more addictive and an easier place to go because there are so many genres to explore and find to spend time. Though it isn't healthy:( but just get a dating app or something?

>>17989260
It's not really about porn. I haven't been regularly watching porn or masturbating since I was 15. My sexdrive simply died after losing my virginity and every following time I had sex (mainly parties) wasn't enjoyable at all?

>but just get a dating app or something?
What? Why? I don't have a problem with picking up girls, why would I want to get a dating app if my problem is that I have 0 motivation and 0 sexdrive? What does it have to do anything?

Also girls were just an example, it's the same with everything.

>can be everything... traumatic exp in childhood,

>>17989211
>When I was 15 I moved to a different country
earlier you said:
>I've been trying to figure out who I am and what I want since I was 16
>I've been having problems like these since I was 15-16
well, you went through a major change in a period of life which is pretty difficult anyway, it could be a cause. i'd concider imploring more in this direction.

>>17989294
It wasn't really that traumatic, but that was a major change in my life.

I had to leave all my friends behind and everytime I talked with them I heard about how much fun they have while I was trying to learn a new language to be able to communicate and the only people I was friends with were english speaking druggies.

I told myself that "everything's going to get better once I master the language", but that never happened.

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One true answer

>>17989321
saved.

>>17989321
is bullshit and typical freudian behaviour