getting married in a few weeks and a closet gay since high school.

>>17987626

Calm your autism, nobody cares.

Do you mean you're bisexual and marrying a man? If so, fuck off. That day is about two people's love for each other, not one person's closet-cleaning soapbox.

If you mean you're a lesbian and marrying a woman, I think people have noticed you like girls.

If you mean you're a lesbian and still marrying a man, what the fuck is wrong with you?

>>17987632
I have never gone out with a girl before. I've only dated guys, but when a very cute girl is talking to me, I'm kinda getting excited. So yeah, maybe I'm bisexual, not sure though cause I was too afraid to even find out myself.

But I do love my boyfriend, I'm not cheating on him, just some sexual issues

I just feel incomplete. Maybe this is normal when you're about to get married? I dont know

Tell him before you get married so he knows what he getting into, maybe he will be okay with it. Also if you believe in monogamy, you should probably believe in being with only one person at a time regardless of gender.

>>17987694
why should i? it's not like i have a girlfriend. no one else knows im gay

>>17987685
are you ok with your man fucking other girl together with you?

>>17987707
of course not why are you people making it look like im cheating? i dont have some girl in the side you know

Does that mean you're not sexually attracted to your fiance?

>>17987712
I do. I'm not a lesbian, just a bi. I was just having some thoughts that it's such a waste that I never got the chance to go out with a girl before because of my cowardice. .

So this is what happens, you're getting married, you never had experience with a girl before, so the chance of you doing so while married will become very small since your fiance might not agree at all to it.

I'd say, talk to him about it, I don't think it's good to suppress feelings, so better open up before you start to do something you later regret. If it's only a sexual thing, then who cares? If you don't actively look for a girl I don't think there's a problem.

>>17987704
It generally considered bad behaviour to not tell your partner if you're secretly gay. Why would you want to start your marriage with such a big lie. How would you feel if your husband abondon you after 5 years say he was gay the whole time and your relationship was a lie, it would hurt. Plus why marry someone if you can't share your deepest thoughts and feelings.

>>17987709
>of course not
I was saying your guy might like the idea. You know, having you and another girl, and you will like it, having him and the other girl.

>>17987722
That's so fucked up. i am not marrying a scum you know

Is it wrong to hang out with girls before the wedding? I think I want to give myself a chance to unwind


>>17987719
>>17987721
Everything is all set, our families are both looking forward to the wedding, I don't want to start a trouble by telling him these things.

>>17987733
You don't want to but you should. How is you fiance? Is he understanding or does he get mad easily? How long have you known him?

When you decide to marry someone, you should feel comfortable with telling these things. No pressure with your man or the family, regardless of the wedding, you need to talk about this.

>>17987733
The truth will out. I told my ex I was bi and nothing happened. I ended up dumping her for other reasons. Don't be lying a piece of shit. Be a truthful piece of shit

>>17987746
I've known him since college, dating him for 3 years. He's usually nice but when he's mad, he can be quite scary.

Easier said than done he might call off the wedding and think im disgusting?

>>17987756
>I ended up dumping her for other reasons
I don't want to experience that. i just wanna have some fun before the wedding and after getting tied with him, I will just try to forget this and be straight forever

>>17987757
Op, I know you might not like what I'm gonna say, but are you sure this is the man you want to marry? If what he does scares you, if you think he'd call of the wedding you need to seriously...SERIOUSLY rethink this quick. You shouldn't be scared of him or his actions... I know because I've been there, but we worked it out and I became stronger.

Be honest to yourself.
And one more question, does he seem in control? Is he financially stable? I'm just asking, I know it's just random assumptions... but be careful. Relationships are supposed to be calm and understanding, especially after 3 years...

>>17987726
>That's so fucked up
>Is it wrong to hang out with girls before the wedding? I think I want to give myself a chance to unwind
are you kidding me lmao

>>17987763
Well, he's only scary when I did something wrong. The last time was when he thought I was cheating, he asked me to tell him the truth while gripping my hand real hard, it swelled up. But that's just it. We're engineers, so yeah financially stable.
I am aware that he's scary that's why telling him I'm gay just before the wedding is impossible for me

>>17987770
I'm not going to have sex with girls.. Just gonna have sweet talks or maybe even light skinship but NO SEX,that's cheating. cause I'm just very curious you know

>>17987760
Whatever it's your life to fuck up if you want, if you want to spend the next few years being in the closet hating your self, resentful of your husband for not understanding you. That's your right but don't say know one tried to warn you

>>17987779
>sweet talks or maybe even light skinship but NO SEX
kek that's what they all said

Before you realize it this happened

http://img.4plebs.org/boards/tv/image/1404/01/1404012413689.webm

>>17987791
Are you saying it's not possible to make myself straight?

>>17987798
my future husband might kill me for that.

>>17987771
Well this is not fine then, first the trust issue and then the physical aspect. Did you ever tell anyone? Do you feel safe around him, how's the wedding, do you feel forced into it?

I will keep telling you, you either look for a way for him to change or you learn to be honest to yourself. You might be good together, but you should NEVER feel scared of him.

>>17987804
He's only like that when I did something wrong, If I'll behave myself, then everything's going to be fine. And I thought it's normal? After all, not all people can restraint anger.

>trust issue
I can't blame him for that. I mean look at me, I am here now asking if it's alright to spend time with girls before my wedding.

>>17987812
Lol okay I see what's going on here
>If I'll behave myself, then everything's going to be fine
see, I think you don't know that you are in a controlling relationship, that's fine I didn't know that either few years ago
>I can't blame him for that. I mean look at me
Look at you how? It's not like you did anything to him, you didn't touch another person, even to a guy a thought of a different women can cross him, that doesn't he's determined to cheat.

You put yourself down for no reason, look up emotional/controlling abusive relationship signs. Just look and see if there are points that match with your relationship. I may be wrong, but it sounds very much like that to me, if you are that scared to share you're bisexual. If you are scared he will threaten to call off the wedding or even do it. Do you want a life partner like that? Do you want to feel safe in your marriage? Think very hard, you'll have a painful divorce later on if you don't do anything about it.

>>17987799
Yes! You can't just delete feeling for the same sex away. Don't you think people have tried that before, and it always fails. Don't be a idiot

>>17987799
It is, but you need to get it out of your system by fucking a girl first.

>>17987626
>a part of me wants to scream "I ALSO LIKE GIRLS!' during our vows
If you actually fucking do this, then I hope he leaves immediately and disowns you.

>>17987823
>see, I think you don't know that you are in a controlling relationship
how is it controlling? isn't it normal to behave yourself when in a relationship, especially when he's loyal to me too.

But I can see your other point, thanks. I posted a thread here because I want to unwind but now you're making me doubt my future. You have turned the tables

>>17987827
I have a boyfriend to help me.

>>17987829
> by fucking a girl first.
i get really excited when a cute girl is clinging to me, what you just said might make me a full lesbian.

>>17987834
I am not dumb to do that. I mean I want to but this is reality. Reality= fuck your feelings and go with the flow

>>17987837
BUT you are behaving yourself, you are just suppressing your problems because you don't talk about them. You seem very passive/submissive. Not that you are, but you look down on yourself quite a lot.

Also I didn't say this to change anything about you or your relationship, but it's merely because it sounds really unsafe and I just try to genuinely help here from my own experience. I hope it opened you eyes, that you will skip the marriage for now and think everything through before you continue. You'll thank yourself later.

>>17987858
Thanks, maybe I should just get myself a girl. lmao I can't believe I'm being like this, Im getting married in a few weeks for pete's sake.

>You seem very passive/submissive
you got that right

>>17987867
Best of luck to you, OP.
Stay strong and fight.
Don't be scared of the big man, he can also be small when you choose to show your strength.

Tell your fiance that you want to have a very special bachelor party with him and do a MFF threesome

I'm with my gf for 8 years and always knew she was bi curious. We've been going out with girls for the last two years and more frequently lately.

It's awesome for the two of us. And one of the girls even said something that might fit you: "I like girls but they don't satisfy me sexually". So it's more like a "girl fetish" than bissexuality, if this makes any sense. It doesn't mean you'll suddenly become a full blown lesbian and stop liking men.

>>17987886
I don't like the idea. We're getting married you know? It's a serious thing, I don't think it's good to play around. And he's a serious man too, what he's been telling me recently is how he's so glad he'll finally be able to build a family.

But i agree on the girl fetish, I've watched lesbian porn before and i didn't like it that much. Straight sex is still the best. I only imagined cuddling cute girls.

>>17987874
Thanks anon

>>17987897
>I only imagined cuddling cute girls
well as long as you don't fantasize about sliding your finger into the cute girls' vagina you might just be straight.

>>17987897

I don't think those things make any relationship any less serious. I used to face this as a very degenerate thing, just like people who do full swing, couple swap, orgies and so on. But after a few experiences, I see that absolutly nothing changed between us. We're not more promiscuous, we don't want to leave the other for other people, nothing like that.

If your fiance is too conservative and close minded, maybe you're too late to fess up to him. But I believe a lot of guys, if not more than half, would love to hear that from a girl.

Tell your bf and hopefully he dumps you because he would be doing himself a favor

>>17987913
So that's the boundary? Cause kissing a girl is something I'm curious about too, I mean, they say it's much softer and warmer.

>>17987916
He's conservative. He's not that interested in sex, I guess

>>17987920
Not gonna tell him, then.

You are entirely too ridiculous to be getting married.

>>17987922

If that's the case you're better off not telling him, if you don't want to risk the marriage. But if you weren't exagerating when you said you feel like shouting from the altar, this repressed lust can damage your relationship on the long run.

I'm not saying you'll do that, but the first girl we had a threesome with cheated on her boyfriend to do it with us because he wasn't into it. They're married with a kid now, but I doubt he ever found out.

And about boundaries, my gf didn't touch a pussy even though we had 3 threesomes already. Just now she's creating the courage to do so. Still I wouldn't consider her straight, because besides her fingering and giving oral, she did everything else

>>17987922

>it's much softer and warmer

Vagina is much softer and warmer, too.

>>17987626
Why the fuck are you getting married if you want to fuck around?
Don't get married if you want to fuck around, or grow the fuck up and accept that being in a monogamous relationship and committing yourself to one person means you don't get to fuck anyone else.

https://www.openbible.info/topics/marriage

>>17987942
yeah, I dont have a plan of telling him. I was just thinking if it's fine to hangout with girls before the wedding day. Is it cheating?
i mean I am meeting with a girl, and im not going to have sex. Not anything serious.

>>17987950
I'll stop when I got married. I've been in the closet for years, I just wanna satisfy myself a little.

>>17987947

My gf loves the tenderness and how soft and silky girls are. I'm a haury and rough guy so that's the thing the makes me jealous the most lol

But let's stop this talk or we'll make op soaking wet

>>17987958
Looks like your gf is having the best of both worlds.

>>17987956
It definitly is cheating. Your bf with his dick inside another girl whose tits you have in te mouth is infinitly less cheating than going out with a girl with the slightest intention of touching lips with her.

Cheating is about honesty to me. If you're doing anything behind his back, you're cheating.

And we both know you won't stop in making out if you're given a chance

>>17987956
>I'll stop when I got married. I've been in the closet for years, I just wanna satisfy myself a little.
You're in a monogamous relationship with your fiancé. You're planning to cheat on him to "satisfy yourself a little".
If your fiancé was getting his ass fucked by trans every day to "satisfy himself a little" would you be fine with it?
Who cares if you've been in the closet. If you decided to commit to this person, you'll stay with your curiosity unsatisfied. You can break up with him and fuck around, but it's unfair to ask him to stay with you while you're fucking other people on the side because you like girls too. If you were curious about sucking black dicks would it be fine to cheat on your boyfriend because "B-BUT I WAS CURIOUS"?

Just dump him and fuck all the girls you want. Don't cheat on him.

>>17987961

We both are, I get variety and witnessin/taking part in "lesbian" sex, and she does too while also getting action from another gender

And let's be real, I can't compete with how much another girl can cum with her. The last one came like a dozen times... so it really extends how long sex is exciting

>>17987965
I have always though cheating is when you fuck/date someone else behind someone's back.

And I think if I told him I'll be hanging out with girls, he will let me, he doesnt know im gay afterall,

>>17987971
I wasn't planning to fuck girls. And I was just asking for an advice here, if hanging our with girls before marriage will cause a trouble, then fine,I wont do it.

>>17987973
What you two have may not be love?

>>17987984
I don't think it's just that. If you consider cheating just this, it leaves the door open to stretching the rules to uncomfortable situations.

Going out with a girl will likely lead you to at the very least making out, and horniness throws boundaries through the window very fast. So if you go out thinking "I'll just see what happens" and remaing open to any sexually interested contact, keep in mind that you risk going all the way through to making out/having sex/cheating

>>17987988

What is love? (Baby don't hurt me/don't hurt me/no more)

We have something for girls, mostly sexual. But the last one was so cool and nice that we grew a bit more of affection for her. Like I said, boundaries fly through the window fast once you got your toes wet (or your groin in that case)

But even then, what we have for each other haven't diminished the slightest. Love isn't a zero sum game, we don't have a limited amount of love that we have to subtract from one place to place on anothet. I love my parents equally for instance. So that's how I think it works.

>>17988022
Yeah, to be honest, my intention was just to hang out with girls, share a kiss or something and then leave it at that. But it's possible that I'll just go "fuck boundaries!" and go all the way too. So yeah, I guess I'll just behave myself and forget my gayness. Thanks a lot!

You and your gf are cool btw.

>>17987626
get threesome with your fiance and another girl

>>17988034

I'd say if you really want it you shouldn't repress it. Try to get you hubby into it over the years. Say, watch straight porn with him and make comments on the girls, see how he reacts. Then try letting him watch lesbian porn while you blow him. Until you two are watching MFF threesome porn toghether. You'll know what to do from there.

And thanks :) I know it probably sounds like we're promiscuos and open AF, but we're really a tight and "vanilla" couple. It just happens that we have a common "fetish" for girls. It still took us six years to even talk to one just sorting things out between us. So since marriages are supposedly forever, you have plenty of time to work on that if you're not in a hurry.

>>17987626
Are you just venting? Are you even looking for advice?

Are you tumblr gay? I'm tumblr gay.