Why do my friends call my boyfriend controlling for this? >they

If this isn't a troll thread, then your friends are just dumb. That's it.

>>17986410
Either your friends are idiots, feminists, have it out for your boyfriend specifically or you didn't properly convey the situation to them.

desu I wouldn't want my gf going to a rave either

I don't know how else to explain it except guys(not your bf) are weird that way.

Because they're children that don't understand a relationship means compromising. Going clubbing/to a rave without your partner when you're in a relationship is pretty disrespectful to begin with to most people. Getting inebriated (and at a rave probably drugged up unless you're straight edge) in places where a lot of men are trying to pick up women would mean dump territory for me. You're in a relationship don't act like you're single lol

>>17986428
Same. Raves can be a lot of fun but about half of all women at a rave are gonna end up rufied then pumped and dumped.

>>17986421
I think they are dumb honestly. They're always trying to find something controlling in our relationship.

>>17986426

I told them pretty much what I said in the OP.

>>17986435

Yeah, I wouldn't want my bf going without me to one of those either. It's purely disrespectful. Most people at clubs or raves are looking to hook up and even if he's not I don't want him in that kind of environment. It's just disrespectful.

>>17986448
You seem to already have your answer. You did the right thing, your bf did the right thing, and your friends are a bunch of twats that you better learn to ignore or they're going to drive you to paranoia and ruin your relationship.

>>17986448
I'm guessing your friends aren't in successful long term relationships

>>17986410
If one of my girl friends told me she isn't coming to an event because of her bf, I too would think he is controlling. On the other hand, if my bf wouldn't want me to go, I too would respect his wishes.
Just learn what information are necessary. Don't tell your girls all the reasons. Or maybe you like the attention

>>17986463
Oh, this is a good point. Don't shift the blame to your bf when you turn down your friends. No wonder they think he's controlling.

In stead of saying "my bf doesnt' want me to go" say "sorry, I don't feel like going" or "I already have plans on that day".

>>17986465
So lie?

>>17986410
>>17986448
Protip: Your friends are controlling. They can't deal with the idea that you'd EVER choose not to hang out with them, so they're looking for a way to blame someone.

I've dealt with needy/overly demanding friends like this before... it gets old real fast

>>17986469
It's not a fucking lie because you're still deciding that you aren't going. You're just not mentioning your bf's influence on your decision.

Again ,decide what the appropriate amount of information is.

>>17986465
I wouldn't advise lying. Just say "I don't want to go without my partner" or "I'd rather spend time with my partner" or whatever.
Ultimately it is *you* choosing not to go after all.

>>17986473
This, me and my group of friends would say this type of thing to girls

>>17986465
>>17986478

This is actually one of the first things they teach you in maintaining good relationships: Don't rag on your partner and pin the blame on them.

Some people think it's funny when you say something like "Uggghhh the wife says no..." or "Lol he keeps texting he must be lonely XD, I'll just tell him my phone died" when in reality it's actually quite harmful. It signals to your friends and those around you that your partner is just a drag on you.

This girl isn't searching for advice. She just wants to get told what a pure and good girl she is for actually listen to her boyfriend and doing as he says! and that you can't find girls like that anymore today
Good god get over your daddy issues, just finally tell your boyfriend that you have rape phantasies and don't bother people that actually want to help just because you need approval. You can be confident on your own without other people's opinion you know

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>>17986536
>phantasies

>>17986542
Jesus christ man, I was eating. Spoiler this shit.

>rave

You have to be 18 or older to post on 4chan

>>17986542
God forbid I'm not native

>>17986410
Holy crap this is almost exactly like what happened with me and my gf. Initial of first name? I'm A

your friends want you to be miserable sluts like they are with no real love in their life. drop em