How do I deal with premature ejaculation /adv/ ? Have my first

>>17970952
shameless self bump about my biggest shame

desperate for help at this point.

You've got sexual performance anxiety just like me my dude. Shits fucked up isnt it?

Hold up I'll link the thread

>>17970964

Right here my man. I'd offer you my own advice but I've got fuck all. These boys had some pearls of /adv/ wisdom though. Sound

>>17970969
yeah its probably that, going nuts over my virginity, and i didnt have this (exact) problem in my other near-sex situations.

its weird if its all in my head, considering if happens even when we kiss in public

>>17970974

Forgot that link. Genius levels RISING
>>17970783

>>17970976
Yeah man you'll get there. It can be like that sometimes dude.

If it persists for a LONG ass time there are some meds & counselling you can get. You'll get there though i'd say my man

>>17970982
Thanks a lot checking out your link now

>>17970952
get your hands on an SNRI medication if you want to go nuclear on it

i've never had any sexual problems before, but since i started taking one a few weeks ago it takes me FOREVER to cum
had to stop jerking off since it takes at least 2-3 hours now and leaves me sore as hell, just not worth the trouble

>>17971014
An anxiety med I took in the past (unrelated to this situation) made it impossible to cum even when jerking it. Paxil I think it was. I'm just worried I can't nut during sex.

So at this point in my very young life, I need to choose between sex and orgasms. Wtf

Start fucking early, tell her you want to come in her mouth, come quickly.

After that, no pressure. Enjoy the rest of your night. Repeat until experience takes over anxiety.

>>17971063
I'm already spent before my pants come off. That's the problem

>>17971077
How fast are we talking here?
Why not just ask her for a blowjob as soon as you get in the mood, don't let the anticipation swell up.

From someone who was a early nutter (not as bad as you though) and spent the whole 20's improving holding it off:

Don't. Learn to indulge in your orgasms and make no big deal of it. Talk to her and always make her cum, no matter if you did already.

I focused so hard in holding my orgasm that I spent years not going for second rounds with my gf. I won't say my sex life is unsatisfying because I do cum hard as fuck, but I could be cumming at least twice every time had I learned the right mindset. Now I'm trying to reeducate myself.

Men can orgasm multiple times, it's just penetration that can't be done in the refractory period, so as long as you don't get anxious about it you can orgasm multiple times too.

>>17971084
i cum when we kiss. in public. I HAVE NO IDEA WHY.

>>17971122
true ill try to take care of her and already have been but im genuinely terrified this is a legitimate problem ill need to deal with for the rest of my life

>>17971173
It's not bro. Just chill. You'll get used to it.

I guarantee you, as long as you make her have plenty of orgasms too, there's no reason to panic. Tell her you cum because she's really hot and that's fine. It will only be a problem for her if you make it seem like it. Take it lightheartedly.

We're so pressured to perform that we end up feeling guilt when shit like that happen, but it's completly natural. You're still learning.

>>17970952
I produce a lot of pre-cum. The girls I "lost my virginity" to thought I already came my pants durin foreplay. She was upset but I insisted I didn't and we proceeded to bang.

There is no "cure" for precum. After all it's there to help make penetration and procreation easier. If anything it's a positive thing to have by nature. But in this day and age it can cause problems.

I say masturbate with a brand of condoms. Emulate thrusting and positioning. If you can easily get hard and cum when masturbating you are probably in one completely relaxed position. So obviously if you add the new stimulation/feeling of a condom and you have to literally work your body physically in order to cum then ofc you won't be used to it.