>"Anon you have to work on yourself before someone else

>>17963699
A couple are best friends first in day to day affairs.

Always pursue your own interests, never abandon them for a gf/bf. They will stick around if they are worth it.

>>17963719
I can dig it. Though it seems like most people don't want to date someone they consider a friend anymore. Like whenever I try to approach a relationship with a friendly connotation at first they just end up considering me too close if I do ask. Often times I get the "I don't wanna ruin our friendship". Most of the time I personally felt like being with them in that sense would have actually made us closer and had great results but they never seem to agree.

>>17963745
I think its hard to start of as friends and then move to a romantic relation.

Girls determine if they will ever date you in like 5 minutes of meeting you. If they see you as just friends I think you'll never be able to bridge that.

>>17963719
what this anon says is true tho, you should be best of friends and be able to share anything.

I'm in much the same boat. I have not time for anything after work and find myself busy most weekends and live in the middle of bum ducking no where... Don't even have mobile reception it's fucked. And the few things I do are just drinking with my mates at one of our places. I am doomed to be forever alone because I live for myself. Those who say working on yourself is the way to go are full of shit, you have to go to where girls are and you have to make it clear your only romantically interested in them

>>17963699
Don't go through life searching for a stable relationship. Do your thing, go out, meet people, and wait for right person. Don't date because you feel lonely, don't date because you are expected to, date because that one person is amazing and it feels right to be with them. Love is not enough, it's about compatibility.
A healthy relationship is made of two healthy individuals. They're right on this.


To keep your relationship stable: communication, respect, good skills at arguing, boundaries, forgiveness.

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>>17963699

Where did you get the idea that the length of a relationship dictates the quality of it? You don't dysfunctional, fucked up people can't be in codependent relationships for years at a time?

There are people alive right now who've been married for decades in terrible loveless relationships.

Work on yourself and love yourself before you get into a relationship. Thats the advice. The fact that its difficult and/or contrary to whatever other ideas you have doesn't matter. Love yourself, because depending on the love of someone else to keep your sense of worth afloat is a recipe for misery.