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Im in a similar situation,
except there's some things out of my control that I have extreme anxiety over.

Basically if they dont get fixed, I am destined to live a life of mediocrity, which is unacceptable to me, ill be an heroing if that happens.

You probably dont have that thing that is out of your control in your life, so your path is easier than mine.

I dont even know what your goal is, are you trying to get rich??

You don't have to be neurotic about end goals to become successful.

Do you think Michael Jordan was focused on being a superstar every single time he practiced his shots? He just loved the game.

Enjoy the process motherffucker. You will never succeed unless you enjoy the process.

>>17960649
Hoo boy have you completely missed every bit of the point.

I can't explain everything to you but I'll touch on a big one. Giving up when facing failure will never get you anywhere. Nobody has ever succeeded without losing. The key is to learn from it and adapt.

You're entirely too impatient and I doubt you can change at all.

>>17960733
>Do you think Michael Jordan was focused on being a superstar every single time he practiced his shots?

Yes. Yes I strongly 100% believe he did with every fiber in my being.

>>17960744
>Nobody has ever succeeded without losing.

tell that to the harvard grad student athlete chads (i know plenty) travelling the world on high paying consulting business trips and getting their dicks sucked in dubai

>>17960752

Here's some wisdom from Scott Adams:

"Goal-oriented people exist in a state of continuous presuccess failure at best, and permanent failure at worst. Systems people succeed every time they apply their systems , in the sense that they did what they intended to do. The goals people are fighting the feeling of discouragement at each turn. The systems people are feeling good every time they apply their system."

Practicing your craft every day and enjoying it is systematic. Looking at your faraway goal and despairing every day is goal-oriented failure.

You can see from your own experience that your methods aren't working, so perhaps you should open your mind to other ways of thinking.

>>17960762

You have the mind set of a complete and utter loser.

>>17960770
you have the mindset of someone who's wife gets Black'd and Mohammad'd every night

kys faggot

>>17960778

Go cry more about the chad's getting their dick sucked in dubai , faggot.

>>17960765

>systems people are the betas
>goal oriented people are the chads who fuck betas wives and send them back to the Systems covered in cum

>t. scott adams

>>17960792

>Ask for advice
>Act like a massive faggot when anyone presents advice that contradicts your beliefs

>t. lifelong loser and failure

Bye

>>17960799
Your 'advice' is a lie.
It reads nicely and makes me feel good, but I have never seen it in anyone who performed at a high level at anything whatsoever.

>>17960649
"If I fail once, then I'm definitely out."
"I'd rather come in dead last than second place..."
These kind of statements are all or nothing statements, also known as black and white statements. This type of thought distortion causes anxiety and defeat, demotivation. There's more grey area in reality.
And in order to live a healthy, balanced life, one needs to consider that the meaning of "life is a journey" means there are meaningful relationships had, goals working towards core values lived out, spirituality, and acceptance of self. Without that constant check and evaluation of balance, you'll find living is hell.

>>17960826
So the life lesson from my parents: "don't do something if you're not going to be good at it" was a lie?

(srs question. trying to think this out)

>>17960836
Chya. Major fallacy. Don't do something if you're not going to be good at it is stupid advice. Doing things we're weak at makes us stronger. It doesn't always feel warm and fuzzy but damn is it good for mental and emotional growth.