How do I get over him? At least give stories of how you got

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>>17960218
You're a girl.

Girls are experts at replacing people they love with another random guy.

You're going to get over him when you see the next Chad,

>>17960218

Staying friends with exes only work of both are truly over it. You are not. Take distance and give yourself time to recover and get over him. It will never happen if he hangs around, it will just mess with your head and emotions.

I've heard it takes about half the total time relationship time post-breakup to get over an ex. E.g. if you were dating a year, it takes 6 months of breakup, if you were dating 3 years, it takes ~1.5 years post break up etc

you've only been broken up 2 months OP? lol the journey is just beginning. I didnt even start getting depressed over my ex until about the 3 month mark

>>17960218
Why are you bothering to even hang around each other like that if you're not going to date? You both need distance from each other in order to heal and move forward with your lives. Once that has happened, maybe being friends will be alright. Otherwise, you're just setting yourselves up for a lot of unnecessary pain over and over. I personally never keep in touch with my exes. I did once and it fucked with my head. It turned out my ex was just using me to feel better about themselves. Fuck that.

>>17960243
I immediately got rid of everything in my apartment that reminded me of him. He's the one who called me up saying he needs my support in life. Could he be messing with my head on purpose? What good comes out of that?

>>17960239
How long were you together and how long did it take for you to get over her?

>>17960218

I dont thik i have been on your side of the situation. I am still great friends with one of my exes, however the other one has a completely different temper and wouldnt be able to get over our relationship, so we dont really talk. I still love him as a friend, and i miss him, but you gotta let them heal. I suggest you and him talk this out, even tho it hurts- you must have some distance from the guy. Time will pass, you will get over it. Then reconnect eith him as a friend. Meet. Talk. See if youre interested in keeping in touch with him at all.
I wish you luck ;)

i ended up on meds years later. pff
get a job, focus on work, focus on making money, trying to find peace, etc.

or you can listen to sappy love songs n get feels, but it wont help unless you commit to departing completely, for both your sakes. depart totally and absolutely, focus on yourself, just being you again, as you were before him.

https://youtu.be/UtV_VP-gvjA

https://youtu.be/dKNtpNyDXpU

https://youtu.be/ywr-Zjbw7JI

https://youtu.be/8ELnhjGw4Zs

https://youtu.be/V5s-KLGVcTI

>>17960259
Yeah see what I'm saying. You were taking care of yourself and shit and then he calls you up saying he needs you but he still doesn't want to be in a relationship with you? He's stringing you along and using you. My ex said something similar to me. They said we should still hang out since I was their "best friend" and knew them so well. There's no benefit for you in this situation. Cut him out of your life and keep moving forward. You don't need this in your life.

>>17960243
this

don't become anyones emotional crutch while they move on n fuck other ppl.

you don't know just how much they need you. but they wont tell you, they'll fucking use you, while they strengthen themselves and push on, you just drag on with the very little scraps they give you. when in fact you deserve so much more.

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>>17960272
Thank you so much. I sincerely appreciate it.

>>17960218

The hard, harsh truth is that if it's over, it's over.

And the harder, harsher truth is that no matter how much you guys might like each other, no matter how much you think you might be good friends or whatever, staying friends isn't good for you. If you try to be friends, you'll keep on hoping that maybe there will still be a chance between you when there isn't.

You need to stop talking to him, probably for a very long time. Until you're no longer haunted by what might have been. A stupid, awful truth about love is that no matter how close you think you might have been to someone, once it's over, you will never - NEVER - be closer to them than "distant friend", and that's at BEST. Yes - the hard truth is that if you had never been in love, you probably could have been better friends than otherwise. That's part of the risk of romance.

Accept that he made his choice, and that whatever future you thought you might have had together, it's gone now, forever. This is the hardest step, because it's going to hurt you much more than delusionally clinging to the hope that you might get back together.

Once you take that step, once you've experienced the worst of the grief and depression, the next step is to convincing yourself that you have a life beyond them. This is actually easier than the previous step.

Once you've done that, you're golden. You'll know you're truly over him when you can go back and listen to all the old songs that used to remind you of him, and feel nothing but a very small sadness and nostalgia. That small sadness? That will probably be with you for the rest of your life, but over the years it will probably fade away into nearly nothing. It will only come back during certain moments that remind you of him, remind you of what you once thought you would have together.

>>17960287
Good luck : )

>>17960218
youre not trying hard enough to forget him. youre allowing your self to be a victim.

>(He stopped having feelings for me but he still loves me)

what does this even mean

>>17960287
You're stronger than you think anon. You can make it. Get out there and respect yourself. Best wishes.

>>17960227
This

or patch things up

>>17960239

Damn my ex of 4 years dumped me almost eight months ago, I thought I was close to getting over her...Guess I got more than a year to go....

No contact helps a ton. I just unfollowed her on social media and stopped talking to her. She even dumped her rebound after she realized she couldn't bookshelf me.

Still sucks that I gotta keep waiting until I'm fully over her...what if she contacts me? What do I do?

>>17960348
Dude, I would've blocked her number from my phone before deleting her number altogether. If she contacts you some other way just ignore it. Push through, you can do this anon.

God do I feel sorry for you

>>17960260
were together a year, going on 7 months broken up, and im doing much better. wouldnt say i'm completely over her, but i found that around 6 months i stopped beating myself up over it

>wants to get over someone
>doesn't cut contact with them
well there's your problem.
You will never get over someone you just keep talking to, is impossible. Just cut him out of you life for you own good. If you aren't able to do that you have no one else to blame for how you are feeling.

Best way to get over someone is to not look, talk or even be around him. If you have to see him everyday be it at work or school distance yourself from him.

>>17960218
>Talking to other men feels wrong so I end up ghosting them
That's absolutely normal, I couldn't even mastrubate for 1 month after my gf cheated and ended a 4 year relationship. Some girl wanted me to fuck her 2 weeks after the breakup, and it was seriously the last thing on earth I wanted.
The end of a relationship is like breaking a leg. There's a time you'll move your leg again and eventually walk again. But first it needs some healing. You'll feel when you're ready for other men. Also, get that man out of your life. You'll miss him like crazy, but it won't get better with him still there

>>17960717
This. I broke up with her 3 months ago. Havent even been able to watch porn without thinking about her and missing her. Every fucking thing reminds me of her :(

>>17960935
Oh! And it was her birthday today. Took special kind of self control to not send her a bday wish. Only that part is making me feel good about myself.