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This is my first post here and I need a vent as I have no one else to talk to or ask advice.
2017 has been the most lost I've ever felt in my life I feel my mental health is eroding. I turned 28 on the 5th of January and spent it alone apart from a few obligatory texts from family and one old friend from high school. I felt that day will represent the rest of my life.
11 months ago today my ex gf and I ended our 3 year relationship, and to this day I think about her every single waking moment, I feel sick most days thinking about her and what could have been most nights I dream of her and constantly have to fight the urge to contact her and the only reason I don't think I have is she had changed her number so the only means would be a letter which I have written and re written more times than I'd like to admit.
This was not my first girlfriend and all the others it was not a problem to move on but this has been 11 months of hell and for what I thought time may have healed has only become worse with the past two weeks being incredibly hard. Why do I feel like this? Is this normal? I have tried to move on but nobody will ever compare. I can not see myself ever being in another relationship ever.
Am I obsessed or just truly heart broken? If I didn't have my job I wouldn't leave my home as the depression from this has left me in a total state of hopelessness.
I am so lost.
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>>17954903
At least I know that I'm not alone. Thank you brother :^(
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why did you guys break up OP?
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>>17954913
Looking back now stupid reasons. Lack of communication would probably sum it up.
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>>17954903
How long for you? 2 years and counting here.
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>>17954920
Sorry to hear that bro. The truth is that pretty much every failed relationship can be summed up by "lack of communication". My last relationship ended 7 months ago and im still a wreck. All I can say is to learn some lessons from what worked and what didnt, try not to blame yourself, and good luck with the future
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>>17954923
maybe five years
I still go out, talk to girls, get laid every now and then; but I just can't feel anything for women anymore
I spent too long going around and around trying to work out why she broke up with me
hate for myself turned into hating her, and when that faded away it's just emptiness
lost my job this week as well, not sure if I was replaced or they only needed short term work
I can take the hits, but they just keep on coming and I'm not getting anywhere
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>>17954935
Wish I had your insight. Can you spare some tips on what has helped you?
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You gotta stop staring at the past, man. I got dumped last year too, gf of four years. It sucked, but I moved on. I still think about her occasionally, but it's not nearly as bad as when I was checking her social media daily.
Every time you check her social media the wound will reopen if it hasn't fully healed. Go full no contact. Delete her on social media and everything.
You gotta just focus on yourself starting now, 2017 is the year about improving yourself. You will find the right gf and friends at the right time. Right now you have to focus on your career, goals, fitness, and hobbies. Fuck everything else, become stronger. That's all you need to do is keep improving yourself and moving forward, the rest will click into place. Don't stress out about things you can't control, focus on what you can do right now.
Also stop watching porn and limit masturbating to once every 4-7 days if you haven't started yet. Necessary.
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>Delete her on social media and everything.
gotta second that
throw out all the mementos of hers you have as well, it's brutal to do but it helps
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>>17954941
5 years fuck I think I would be dead before then.
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>>17954968
some get better. some get tougher
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>>17954948
Thanks for the solid advice I'll take it all on board. Really man it means heaps
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